Do you let guests sleep in your bed?

harrys_nan

We give our bed up if we have family with young children staying, just makes it easier if they are together. Clean sheets on the bed for them and change them again when family go home. Not a problem as far as I'm concerned.
If we have visitors without children they stay in a spare room.

lostinrates

Well...we have a spare room, but are haviong some friends come to stay soon, two couples each with a baby. We thought we would give one of the couples our room, the other the spare room and we would kip down stairs with our doggies, who would love to share with us. I will use a spare matress protector, clean linen and our guest pillows, as we will use our duvet and pillows down stairs.

Could you ot put the bedding you normally ise on the sofa bed on your bed, buy a good mattress protector and let her use the guest pillows on your bed?

Nottoobadyet

Nope, not me. In fact when I dont have a spare room I usually vacate my bed and sleep on the sofa with my other half, especially if the guests are of an older generation. When i stay in guest beds I dont feel icky about their last occupant, though I assume the hosts have switched the sheets!

Obviously change the bedding, but if I know someone well enough to let them stay at my house and use my loo, I don't feel squeamish if they are drooling on my pillows :P

VfM4meplse

blue_monkey wrote: »

I mean, they might have sex in the bed and leave fluids on it, or dribble on my pillow. And then I have to sleep on it. Ewwwwwww :eek::eek::eek:

Someone tell me it's not just me.... :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

It's not just you. Dribble, I could cope with. Finding someone else's fluids from below the waist is a different matter entirely!

Alikay

I don't like the idea of anyone else having sex in my bed either, regardless of changing the sheets. I also wouldn't have sex in a relative's bed if we slept over.:o

Hotel beds are a different matter: They're somehow not such personal things, so it wouldn't bother me provided that bedding is changed for each set of occupants.

mum2twinsx2

Alikay wrote: »

I don't like the idea of anyone else having sex in my bed either, regardless of changing the sheets. I also wouldn't have sex in a relative's bed if we slept over.:o

Hotel beds are a different matter: They're somehow not such personal things, so it wouldn't bother me provided that bedding is changed for each set of occupants.

I think with the hotel it is the fact you don't know who was in it before you, so does not have the same effect.

KiKi

My bedroom is also my sacred space.

HOWEVER! You're asking her to do you a favour, and as a result, she has to spend every night apart from her OH whilst she's helping you out. If the sofa bed is in a separate room so that they have a 'bedroom', then fair enough. But if you're asking her to sleep on a sofa bed in the lounge (which means packing it up every morning etc) then I think that's very unfair.

I have someone who cat sits for me every time I'm away - if she wasn't here I couldn't go on holiday. So as far as I'm concerned the house is hers, and the bedroom is hers. It's not my ideal, but I don't have a second bedroom, so as she's given up her life for two weeks to help me, the least she can have is my bedroom.

I'd ask your sister - her OH may not want to stay because he feels unwelcome, or because the sofa bed isn't comfortable, or because it's in the lounge (if it is) so he doesn't feel that they have their own space.

KiKi

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ikkle87 wrote: »

for all you know they've been bonking on your sofa or living room floor instead lol.

or maybe a wee quickie on kitchen table.

elvis86

Peater wrote: »

No. Your bed is a sacred place. I certainly wouldn't offer it up to my sister to sh@g in! Too gross.

Besides, it sounds like your sister's bloke isn't too interested in it anyway....

But the purpose of the OP's sister staying over isn't to spice up her s3x life by sh4gging her OH in someone else's be? She's there to do the OP a favour?

renegade wrote: »

My bedroom is my room, my private space and my bed, and I would not let anyone use it.

daisiegg wrote: »

No, I couldn't bear it! It's not so much the bed itself, it's the room and my private space. Even if I trusted that someone wouldn't rummage through my drawers (not that I've got anything to hide anyway) I still hate the thought of someone else sleeping in our bedroom, let alone our bed. Actually the thought of someone using our en suite bathroom is the same as well.

Conversely, if someone asked me to housesit/petsit in their absence, and expected me to sleep on a sofabed whilst their bed lay empty, I'm afraid I wouldn't be doing it again!

There's absolutely no justification for being so ungrateful. Just change the bedlinen before and after they stay, or use spare bedding if you're funny about your friends/relatives even using the same duvet/pillows as you. I really can't see the issue?

krlyr wrote: »

They may be happy enough just sleeping in it - you could always (jokingly, if you don't feel able to tell her bluntly) implement a "no sex" rule! I'm perfectly capable of sleeping in the same bed as OH without ravaging him and I think it's polite to respect someone else's bed/house rules.

You've got to be kidding, surely?!:eek:

If anyone tried to enforce a "no sex rule" on me and my OH whilst we were staying at their house, I'd tell them to stick it and stay elsewhere! Not because we can't go a day without s3x (I wish!), but just out of principle! It's an outrageous thing to say to someone!

The OP's sister is an adult in a committed relationship (she's married !!!!!!!) doing her sister a favour; not a teenager having her boyfriend sleep over in her parents' house!

aliasojo

We let SIS/BIL use our bed once and I felt really uncomfortable about it.

I put different sheets on and even a different duvet & pillows but I still felt a bit off about it. There is no way I could have handled them using my duvet and slavering on my pillows. :undecided