Do you let guests sleep in your bed?

onlyroz

If I wasn't there and somebody was "house sitting" for me then I wouldn't have a problem. I'd obviously change the sheets and hide away any sex toys though :A

When we used to go up and visit my parents we would sleep in my mum's room and she would have the sofa. It never made either of us feel uncomfortable.

Any

daisiegg wrote: »

I think it may have been me who said that.... I can't explain, it's not that I think someone would 'rummage in my drawers' (or even that I have anything in them to hide)...although my family are incredibly nosy and if it was one of them, I bet they would... my mum when she was in my room the other day coming to visit me while I was sick decided to examine our new furniture by pulling out all the drawers. It happened to be OH's chest of drawers she went for so she now knows more about the contents of his underwear drawer than I do.

It's more that if someone is sleeping in your room you expect them to be able to treat it as theirs - maybe move your things a little bit to enable them to put their things where they wanted, etc. Would you clear them out a drawer or two or expect them to live out of the suitcase on the floor? etc. Oh, I don't know. I JUST DON'T LIKE PEOPLE IN OUR ROOM!!!

I am 100% sure that I know the content of my OH's underwear drawer better then he does!!!:rotfl:

I have to say I personally cannot see the issue with someone opening a drawer - opening it, mind, not rummaging. Not close family. Strangers - if someone came to view the house for example and they started examining furniture like that that is not for sale then I would throw them out, but not family no... Not in a situation of showing them new furniture or something. (I would feel different if they went to the loo and I caught them going through my drawers though!)

And no - by offering my bed I would not clear out drawers for them to put stuff in, no. They are there for a week. No need to move in and move me out!:D
For longer periods I might do.

But that is just me.

duchy

Thing is -whether we think the OP is utterly weird or utterly normal by her reaction to bed hopping the point is her sister's husband obviously isn't comfortable and especially as she's planning a longer trip and it really isn't reasonable to expect a married couple to sleep apart by choice for over a fortnight it's probably worth finding out from the sister if he can't sleep on the sofabed ....or just has his own issues about sleeping in a strange bed

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duchy wrote: »

Thing is -whether we think the OP is utterly weird or utterly normal by her reaction to bed hopping the point is her sister's husband obviously isn't comfortable and especially as she's planning a longer trip and it really isn't reasonable to expect a married couple to sleep apart by choice for over a fortnight it's probably worth finding out from the sister if he can't sleep on the sofabed ....or just has his own issues about sleeping in a strange bed

Or whether he is a mummie's boy and cannot bare staying away from his house in which case I would suggest the sister needs to move in full time:D

I cannot see why would a man be away from his wife by choice if it is the first time they would be living alone. Unless it's distance to drive, not practical or something..

I reckon it's the sofa bed. My OH would definitely avoid that. There is no sofa bed that takes comfortably weight of 2 adults.

anguk

I'd feel more uncomfortable sleeping in a hotel bed that's had goodness knows how many strangers sleeping and shagging in it than I would my own sister sleeping in my bed.

robpw2

only if i think theyre fit and my bf doesn't mind lol
no seriousely no-one sleeps in my bed but me and him

blue_monkey_2

daisiegg wrote: »

Haha 'guest wing'! What a great thought! ambitions for my next house forming as we speak... :rotfl:

Ha, yes, I think I should start referring to it as the spare wing, LOL. It has more of a ring to it.

Yes, it is a spare room but without a 'proper' bed. It probably has more 'facilities' than other peoples spare rooms do, it even has a wii and PS2.

I don't car about the rummaging thing.

I think it is more the dead flakes of skin flaking into my bed and the bodily fluids thing.

Honestly, it has only ever been the one so far, I am thinking ahead for my holiday.

I should also add though - when my sister stays at my mums (as she has had to help her with work on the odd occassion) her husband also drives home and sleeps there despite him working a mile from mums and living 10 miles the other way. I just think he likes his own bed and space. A bit like me then.

LittleMissAspie

I would hate somebody to sleep in my bed, and I would hate to sleep in someone else's bed too. It's not even the sheets, it's the pillows, I can't stand the thought of someone else's hair on my pillow.

Hotels are different because they are always a lot newer, all the bedding is newer and their sheets are stiffer and thicker. The bedding of ordinary people has been around for years (think my pillow is 15 years old now) and if you take all the covers off you'll be able to see years of sweat stains. I've always had 3 covers on my 15-year old pillow (padded protector, cheap pillow case then nice pillowcase) and it still looks really yucky. You don't get that in hotels because they replace their bedding more often.

meeps

we have a small house with a dying sofa bed in a sitting room that is open to the kitchen (poor guests) so if we weren't here I'd definitely have to give our bedroom up- and we offer it to guest over a certain age also.

in the op's situation I'd ask the sister if she is happy with the playroom or she'd like the bedroom as its a longer stay, I'd imagine if she has always been happy before that she'd stick with what is familiar anyway.

LadyMorticia

It's not just you!

When my friends stayed here last week, I didn't offer my bed up. I have OCD so get really freaked out by other people sleeping in my bed. Plus, the M.E means that I have to be comfortable and my bed is better suited to my needs than the sofas are!