Do you let guests sleep in your bed?

ellay864

I have no problem if bedding is changed etc. My son and his gf have stayed in our bed when we had a house full after our wedding (we were in a nice hotel) and that did feel a bit odd as it was the first time he'd done that, but I told myself it was no different to anybody else. The only time I did get annoyed was when I found out that my younger son had let his mate/mate's gf use my bed when we were away...he couldn't believe I'd found out as we'd gone away in a mad rush leaving loads of stuff all over the bed and it took him ages to make it look that untidy again :rotfl:

POPPYOSCAR

LittleMissAspie wrote: »

I would hate somebody to sleep in my bed, and I would hate to sleep in someone else's bed too. It's not even the sheets, it's the pillows, I can't stand the thought of someone else's hair on my pillow.

Hotels are different because they are always a lot newer, all the bedding is newer and their sheets are stiffer and thicker. The bedding of ordinary people has been around for years (think my pillow is 15 years old now) and if you take all the covers off you'll be able to see years of sweat stains. I've always had 3 covers on my 15-year old pillow (padded protector, cheap pillow case then nice pillowcase) and it still looks really yucky. You don't get that in hotels because they replace their bedding more often.

:eek:

But why? Pillows are so cheap to replace.

I can't stand to sleep on my own pillow if it is like that!!

IenjoyAbargain

daisiegg wrote: »

No, I couldn't bear it! It's not so much the bed itself, it's the room and my private space. Even if I trusted that someone wouldn't rummage through my drawers (not that I've got anything to hide anyway) I still hate the thought of someone else sleeping in our bedroom, let alone our bed. Actually the thought of someone using our en suite bathroom is the same as well.

I`m just like this. Find it difficult to let people into my private space as this is where I retreat to just be with OH and I`m weird with sharing. We used to have a lovely lady cleaning for us for a period of time and I had to make the bedroom off-limits as I just couldn`t bear the 'signs' of someone else in my bedroom.

However, I would probably feel I have to make someone enjoy their stay in my house if they are doing me a favour, and so would probably offer the bed ( if no other choice!) and try not to cringe about it. Followed by scrubbing every sign of their stay afterwards!

thorsoak

Can't see the problem! I've always changed mattress cover/sheets/pillowcases etc when guests come - why not?

Or maybe we're all becoming too picky these days ....used to be considered an honour to offr up your bed to guests !

blue_monkey_2

OMG, I am a bit protective of my pillows too. When I change the bedding I put them away so they canot get mixed up with hubbies. They have a certain smell, my smell, and the thought of someone else sleeping on them brings me out in a cold sweat.

I should add - my sister often asks to stay here if she has been to visit and if her hubby is on lates or they have nothing planned the next day, he gets on with his thing, she get's on with hers. It is the way they have always been, she has no issues with the sofabed at all otherwise she would not do it and she would not ask to stay, would she? No-one would bat an eyelid if she was working away from home and married. That is just the kind of relationship they are. I think it is quite nice - not everyone sees it the same way - but they obviously have a healthy marriage and surely this is the most important thing. She likes coming here and staying over to see the kids.

For me it was a question in passing to see how weird I actually was in my OCD thinking, LOL.

zzzLazyDaisy

KiKi wrote: »

My bedroom is also my sacred space.

HOWEVER! You're asking her to do you a favour, and as a result, she has to spend every night apart from her OH whilst she's helping you out. If the sofa bed is in a separate room so that they have a 'bedroom', then fair enough. But if you're asking her to sleep on a sofa bed in the lounge (which means packing it up every morning etc) then I think that's very unfair.

I have someone who cat sits for me every time I'm away - if she wasn't here I couldn't go on holiday. So as far as I'm concerned the house is hers, and the bedroom is hers. It's not my ideal, but I don't have a second bedroom, so as she's given up her life for two weeks to help me, the least she can have is my bedroom.

I'd ask your sister - her OH may not want to stay because he feels unwelcome, or because the sofa bed isn't comfortable, or because it's in the lounge (if it is) so he doesn't feel that they have their own space.

KiKi

I agree with this.

In an ideal world I'd have a fully equipped spare room that guests could use, and my own room would have a 'no entry' sign on the door!. But since I haven't, if I needed someone to come and live in my house and cat while I was away, I would give them the run of the house, including my room (and have done in the past).

System

I have to admit i am a bit weird about people sleeping in my bed...

..partly because my housemates let someone sleep in my bed when i wasnt there and i found out they had sex in it. I felt like it was violating my space a bit

shellsuit

I have offered our bed in the past and would again in the future.

If I know someone's going to be staying (say for example when we went away and my Dad stayed here for a week to housesit), then I put fresh linen on for them and when they go, I put fresh linen on for us.

I don't see the big deal.

I've never had a problem with a hotel bed and think of all the shagging that goes on in them!

Hanging_by_a_thread

It wouldn't bother me to be honest. I have mattress and pillow protectors and would just put on clean bedding and bottom sheets. When the guests go the bed gets stripped and everything goes straight in the washing machine.

Must admit when I travel I always take my pillow protectors and a couple of pillowcases with me. I dont trust that those used in hotels are kept to my hygienic standards, even though we dont rough it. Fiance thinks I am batty.

YORKSHIRELASS

I can kind of understand where the OP is coming from. Its not really a hygiene thing with me and I cant really explain it. Just dont like the idea of people sleeping in my bed.

Having said that when I was younger my brothers friend slept in my bed and wet himself. Maybe thats put me off.

Last time family came to stay I made up the sofa bed for them. When I got the spare duvet out I noticed it had a yucky looking mark on it. Tried to sponge it off but it made it look worse. It was too late to do anything and I thought once the cover is on no-one will see. I didnt know my SIL would very helpfully strip the bed next morning before they left. Sooo embarrassing.