Do you let guests sleep in your bed?

POPPYOSCAR

No I have no problem with letting family/friends sleep in our bed.
We have a mattress and pillow protector and I strip everything off the bed including this and put clean linen on both before and after.

I do however hate sleeping in holiday beds as you just don't know who has been there before. I always take our own pillows and if it is not a good hotel I take our own sheets as well.I always wear PJs and socks even though I usually sleep naked at home!

fluffnutter

Perhaps I'd feel a bit odd if my bed was being used by any old mate fancying a bit of whatnot with their latest squeeze. But this is the sister and her husband! I'd be perfectly happy for my brother and his wife to sleep in my bed, and vice versa.

In fact, when me and the OH stay with my brother, we have his bed and him and his wife have the smaller double that their daughter normally uses. My OH is really tall, and their smaller double has a head and foot rest and the OH has to sleep diagonally! Hence we get the bigger bed. Family innit *shrugs*

blue_monkey_2

LOL, glad I am not on my own here then.

Before it gets into an argument - about favours, I pay her to do it. I said I'd give her what it cost for me to put the dogs into kennels - my friends said I was mad and why do I give her money but the way I see it, I'd have to pay for them to stay in the kennels and this way they get to stay in their own home and they get to spend some time together as a married couple. I thought it would help BOTH of us out. It cannot be easy living with his parents and being married.

duchy

Ah perhaps she's doing it because she needs the money rather than as a favour and that's why she puts up with it. That makes more sense.

balletshoes

harrys_nan wrote: »

We give our bed up if we have family with young children staying, just makes it easier if they are together. Clean sheets on the bed for them and change them again when family go home. Not a problem as far as I'm concerned.
If we have visitors without children they stay in a spare room.

yep, same here. when we stay at my mum's she gives up her double bed to OH and I, I've never even thought about rummaging about in her bedroom and it wouldn't occur to me someone would do that in mine either. anyway, if the rummaging is the issue, the OPs sister could happily be doing that no matter which bed she is sleeping in.

clean sheets for the guest on arrival, and change them again when the guest leaves, but yes, certainly i'd be happy for them to sleep in my bed when i'm not there.

balletshoes

aliasojo wrote: »

We let SIS/BIL use our bed once and I felt really uncomfortable about it.

I put different sheets on and even a different duvet & pillows but I still felt a bit off about it. There is no way I could have handled them using my duvet and slavering on my pillows. :undecided

so do you take your own pillows and duvet with you to use every time you stay in a hotel? isn't it the same thing?

blue_monkey_2

I've read all the replies now and am pleased it is not just me now. Is it the territory thing? I am not sure, my sister does come into my bedroom - I am not sure if this is it or whether it is just the whole 'my bed' thing. The kids have highsleepers so adult guests tend not to use those, LOL.

We do have seperate bedclothes for the sofa bed that we can use on the bed which is why I was thinking about it this morning. I know I can get a mattress protector as well - again, it prompted my asking. Just weird to give up mine and my husbands 'space' to someone else.

I don't particularly care if they have done it in the house really, as long as they wipe everything up (LOL) it does not bother me in the slightest.

We have a really good sprung sofa bed so it is not one of those lay on the floor types, but I have mentioned her husband going home to my sister and she just said he wants to go home. It was only for a 6 days on our last holiday but I have started thinking about it as we are about to go away for 16 nights and I want her to be comfortable. I just feel weird about it and know I would have to change all of the bedlinen.

Hotels - we'll I guess we are hotel snobs to be honest and don't do 'cheap, cheerful and basic' and I do have a habit of checking the beds when we get there - they usually have mattress protectors on though. I do not think I care about that so much though, it is more someone sleeping in MY bed.

blue_monkey_2

balletshoes wrote: »

so do you take your own pillows and duvet with you to use every time you stay in a hotel? isn't it the same thing?

LOL, I do when I go to Butlins. And DLP. :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

blue_monkey_2

Oops. I also should add that the sofa bed is in the kids playroom (2nd lounge where all the kids crap is put - play room sounds better, LOL). It is private, bigger than our bedroom, and the door closes behind it. The kids are not allowed in it until the person/people sleeping in it gets up, we just ensure the things they want are not in the room when someone is in there. It is not like my sister would have to get up in front of everyone and put the stuff away and they can even leave the bed out all day (unless they want to play with the lego and Scalextric which while are on holiday of course). It has a TV with Sky as well. It's another bedroom but is used by the kids during the day. I guess this is what makes it all a bit different.


I cannot find the post now about the person who asked why I was not asking her - this post was not about that (although it seems to have turned into that) but more 'does anyone feel the same way as me' as I thought I might be weird in feeling like this. I guess not. 50% weird, 50% normal. Ha!!

blue_monkey_2

duchy wrote: »

Ah perhaps she's doing it because she needs the money rather than as a favour and that's why she puts up with it. That makes more sense.

I don't know if that is *why* she is doing it, I asked and she said yes, if she did not want to do it then I'd stick them in the kennel. I wanted to give them some time together, on their own, as a married couple - but it did not work out that way and I did not want my sister to feel she had to stay here if she did not want to.

I have asked again and she is perfectly happy to do it.

And I have not asked her about the bed because if I did and she said yes I'd have to let her sleep in it and that does not stop me feeling weird about it.

We all have things we feel weird about, I am sure that not everyone is perfect. Everything else I am happy to share - it's just 'OUR/MY' bed thing.....