Do you let guests sleep in your bed?

Slinky

Never mind letting guests sleep in our bed, I let my darling Dad die in ours.........

We have changed the mattress since, but it did take a while to get used to sleeping in that room again.

raven83

ikkle87 wrote: »

for all you know they've been bonking on your sofa or living room floor instead lol.

Personally as long as I changed the sheets afterwards I wouldn't have a problem with it.

they have probably been bonking in the bed without the op knowing :rotfl:

Spirit_2

They are doing you a favour. Looking after your dog, and presumably cleaning up after it when they have walked it.

I would put aside any prissy notion I had about adults having adult relationships in my bed, and ensure they were offered the most comfortable room in the house, naturally with fresh linen and 'guest' pillows and duvet.

If I thought it would avoid concern on their part I would leave them the instructions for the washing machine and 'ask' them to pop their bedding on to wash on the last day.

Anyone who was willing to disturb their everyday life to house sit for you including dog sitting (which may mean they get to carry around your dog's poo in a plastic bag to dispose of it responsibly on your behalf), deserves the best you can provide.

meritaten

If you dont have a guest room - and prepare it nicely and make it plain that its 'thier' room - then yes I think you should be prepared to let them use YOUR bed.
a mattress protector and different (new?) pillows along with clean sheets. I would think it extremely strange if someone expected me to sleep on a sofa bed when there was a possibility my OH might sleep over too.

blue_monkey_2

Spirit wrote: »

They are doing you a favour......

No I am not. Again. It is not a favour, a favour implies that you are saving someone time or money. I give her money for it and if I did not pay her I would pay the kennel. Walking and clearing up after the dog is part of this and she knows this when she stays, she also knows the sofa bed is 'part of the deal' at the moment. If she did not want to do it or spend time away from her husband she could just say 'no' but she does not mind.

Thinking about it...... I am actually the one doing her a favour - it gives her some space away from her in-laws, a fortnight of Sky, broadband when she wants it (nope, they do not have that where they live now) and I leave a fridge full of food - so she is always more than happy to stay here and get money for sorting the dogs for a few hours a day. Her actually sleeping on the sofa bed or her husband going home is not an issue tbh - others say it is but it is not and she often asks if she can stay here to spend time with the children.

However, I had been thinking of giving up me bed. It still feels ewwwww but I'll be asking my sister if he will stay if they have the bed and I'll see what she says. Maybe, just maybe, HE does not like the idea of sleeping in someone else's bed. I'll buy mattress protectors and get out the spare pillows. I had already decided this before I came on here anyway and it does say this in my OP if you read it again.

The post was to ask whether anyone else found it weird for someone else to be sleeping in their bed. It seems there are a few people who feel the same as me so I do not feel bad about it now.

Just to turn things about a bit from what you have all been saying...... if someone stays the night with you then you are saving them £60-£100 in hotel/B&B and food costs - why would you also give up your bed when you have already done someone a huge favour and put them up for the night? Surely saving them the money is enough and they should be grateful of having somewhere to sleep for free not complaining that they did not get a bed to sleep in.....

JC9297

blue_monkey wrote: »

Just to turn things about a bit from what you have all been saying...... if someone stays the night with you then you are saving them £60-£100 in hotel/B&B and food costs - why would you also give up your bed when you have already done someone a huge favour and put them up for the night? Surely saving them the money is enough and they should be grateful of having somewhere to sleep for free not complaining that they did not get a bed to sleep in.....

But most of the time when somebody stays at somebody else's house it is because they are visiting them, they are a guest in the house, not just staying there to save on the cost of a hotel. I don't consider it is doing a huge favour to have family/friends to stay. If someone invited me to visit and then expected me to pay to stay in a local hotel I would be quite surprised.

tinktinktinkerbell

i would never let anyone other than me and OH sleep in our bed

blue_monkey_2

JC9297 wrote: »

But most of the time when somebody stays at somebody else's house it is because they are visiting them, they are a guest in the house, not just staying there to save on the cost of a hotel. I don't consider it is doing a huge favour to have family/friends to stay. If someone invited me to visit and then expected me to pay to stay in a local hotel I would be quite surprised.

Yeah, I suppose, we are not big family people though so maybe this is why I am in a different camp to everyone else - we tend to keep ourselves to ourselves and my husband and I (although not meeting til later) have lead very independant lives from our families. We have been invited to a family do 3 hours away and are expected to get a hotel. Houses are only so big, not everyone can stay.

What if someone invited themselves though? Would you give up your bed then?

balletshoes

blue_monkey wrote: »

Yeah, I suppose, we are not big family people though so maybe this is why I am in a different camp to everyone else - we tend to keep ourselves to ourselves and my husband and I (although not meeting til later) have lead very independant lives from our families. We have been invited to a family do 3 hours away and are expected to get a hotel. Houses are only so big, not everyone can stay.

What if someone invited themselves though? Would you give up your bed then?

if I were away (like when you're away on holiday and your sister is staying in your home) then I'd give up my bed to her (as its the comfiest one in the house).

If I were at home and had visitors, usually No - but if the other sleeping arrangements meant it would be better space-wise for the guests to have my bedroom, then yes, I would (ie if they had a baby, were visiting as a couple with the baby, and bringing a travel cot - because the only room in my home which would fit a double bed and a cot is my bedroom).

My sister has a 3-bedroomed semi, with 2 double bedrooms and a very small boxroom. at least once a year, there are at least 9 adults and 4 kids sleeping there when my family in Scotland come down for a week or so for a visit to the area my sister and I live in. they have 2 sofabeds, a blow-up bed and lots of sleeping bags . I'm not saying everyone gets a great sleep, but no-one would have it any other way.

Any

blue_monkey wrote: »

Yeah, I suppose, we are not big family people though so maybe this is why I am in a different camp to everyone else - we tend to keep ourselves to ourselves and my husband and I (although not meeting til later) have lead very independant lives from our families. We have been invited to a family do 3 hours away and are expected to get a hotel. Houses are only so big, not everyone can stay.

What if someone invited themselves though? Would you give up your bed then?

My OH's friend comes to visit occasionaly and he sleeps on sofa bed, because they come both home drunk, stinking and snore like nothing you've ever heard before. OH sleeps in spare room or on the sofa bed himself (their decision who takes what), I am not sleeping with either of them:D.

This is for one night and one person.

If someon came as couple, they would get the spare room and if my OH was snoring he would get the sofa bed:-)

For one night, or weekend I would possibly not consider giving up my bed if I had no spare room. Sofa bed would do.

I think it is the fact that you are talking about a week/fortnight and someone sleeping on sofa bed in playroom while there is an empty bed.

To be fair I have no issue with sleeping on the sofa bed myself (like your sister doesn't when she visits you to see the kids), I do however have issue with sleeping on small sofabed with my OH. Still I would do it for a night or two, for a week - no. I would pay for hotel if I had to be there.

My OH would also not come with me into your house (if you were my sister) and I would do it purely for the money and/or because I love you very much and you are my favourite sister.

Wifi, Sky and being away from my normal life - compared with not being with Oh would not be seen as favour at all.

This is how I would feel. In the situation.