Do you let guests sleep in your bed?

Any

I am very fortunately in the fact that I have a spare room. But no, I would change sheets for them and then again for me when I returned and I would be fine.

Why does everyone have to think about them having a sex in the bed, immediately? I would rather just not know, not think about it or mention no sex!

And the idea that someone else, A SISTER WHO IS DOING YOU A FAVOUR rummages through your drawers as soon as you are out of the house... do you think that sleeping on the sofa prevents that? (no dig at OP as I don't think it was her who said it).

Well, if I was asked by my sister to look after her dogs for a week and then told to sleep on sofa with all the rooms locked just in case I will rummage (joking:-)) I would look at you like you are mad and not very politely tell you to fork out the hundred quit for kennels and not to ask again.

Any

blue_monkey wrote: »

Oops. I also should add that the sofa bed is in the kids playroom (2nd lounge where all the kids crap is put - play room sounds better, LOL). It is private, bigger than our bedroom, and the door closes behind it. The kids are not allowed in it until the person/people sleeping in it gets up, we just ensure the things they want are not in the room when someone is in there. It is not like my sister would have to get up in front of everyone and put the stuff away and they can even leave the bed out all day (unless they want to play with the lego and Scalextric which while are on holiday of course). It has a TV with Sky as well. It's another bedroom but is used by the kids during the day. I guess this is what makes it all a bit different.


I cannot find the post now about the person who asked why I was not asking her - this post was not about that (although it seems to have turned into that) but more 'does anyone feel the same way as me' as I thought I might be weird in feeling like this. I guess not. 50% weird, 50% normal. Ha!!

Ohh, so it is more of a spare room then?
Well, in which case why to give up your own bed if you have the space? Perhaps just get a big blow up double bed if the sofa is not that comfortable.
If you have other options then you don't need to feel obliged to give up your own bed, I thought the sofa is in living room on view.

Any

I do think though that if the husband is going to go home at the end of the evening rather then having a week trial run of living alone, playing on what it's like having own house then it is not as big favour to them as you think...
Then it's just a job and she is doing you a favour and you are paying her.

I would get the blow up bed.

Mojisola

Any wrote: »

And the idea that someone else, A SISTER WHO IS DOING YOU A FAVOUR rummages through your drawers as soon as you are out of the house... do you think that sleeping on the sofa prevents that? (no dig at OP as I don't think it was her who said it).

This is what I was thinking - do you lock your bedroom door when you go away - if you don't, then she could be having a rummage anyway!

daisiegg

elvis86 wrote: »

But the purpose of the OP's sister staying over isn't to spice up her s3x life by sh4gging her OH in someone else's be? She's there to do the OP a favour?





Conversely, if someone asked me to housesit/petsit in their absence, and expected me to sleep on a sofabed whilst their bed lay empty, I'm afraid I wouldn't be doing it again!

There's absolutely no justification for being so ungrateful. Just change the bedlinen before and after they stay, or use spare bedding if you're funny about your friends/relatives even using the same duvet/pillows as you. I really can't see the issue?

You quoted me in this post so thought I'd respond...

I have spare bedrooms so would never be in the situation that the OP is in, hence my response. I also don't have any pets and would never be away long enough to need someone to 'housesit' so if someone was staying in my house when I wasn't there it would be more likely me doing them a favour (we live very near an airport so often find ourselves as a stopover) than the other way around, and that was what I based my own response on.

But as others have said if I did find myself in a position where someone was in my house doing me a favour and it was either a sofa bed, or my own bed, I suppose I'd offer them my bed.

It's not the sheets I'm bothered about at all. I'm not squeamish about things like that. I'd give them clean sheets of course but I have been known to sleep in one of our spare beds when the sheets haven't been changed since a guest stayed there...did it the other night in fact when I was ill and keeping OH awake in our bed. So it's not necessarily about sheets and dirt and so on, for me it's totally about privacy and it being 'our space'. It just makes me feel weird anyone apart from the two of us even setting foot in our bedroom.

aliasojo

balletshoes wrote: »

so do you take your own pillows and duvet with you to use every time you stay in a hotel? isn't it the same thing?

To be honest, we don't really go anywhere so it rarely comes up. Our last holiday was in 2007.

On the (very) odd occasion if we get a night in the Travelodge, then yes, we take our own pillows. I would dearly love to take my own duvet too but OH puts the kibosh on that.

What can I say, I have issues. :rotfl:

daisiegg

Any wrote: »

And the idea that someone else, A SISTER WHO IS DOING YOU A FAVOUR rummages through your drawers as soon as you are out of the house... do you think that sleeping on the sofa prevents that? (no dig at OP as I don't think it was her who said it).
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I think it may have been me who said that.... I can't explain, it's not that I think someone would 'rummage in my drawers' (or even that I have anything in them to hide)...although my family are incredibly nosy and if it was one of them, I bet they would... my mum when she was in my room the other day coming to visit me while I was sick decided to examine our new furniture by pulling out all the drawers. It happened to be OH's chest of drawers she went for so she now knows more about the contents of his underwear drawer than I do.

It's more that if someone is sleeping in your room you expect them to be able to treat it as theirs - maybe move your things a little bit to enable them to put their things where they wanted, etc. Would you clear them out a drawer or two or expect them to live out of the suitcase on the floor? etc. Oh, I don't know. I JUST DON'T LIKE PEOPLE IN OUR ROOM!!!

elvis86

daisiegg wrote: »

You quoted me in this post so thought I'd respond...

I have spare bedrooms so would never be in the situation that the OP is in, hence my response. I also don't have any pets and would never be away long enough to need someone to 'housesit' so if someone was staying in my house when I wasn't there it would be more likely me doing them a favour (we live very near an airport so often find ourselves as a stopover) than the other way around, and that was what I based my own response on.

But as others have said if I did find myself in a position where someone was in my house doing me a favour and it was either a sofa bed, or my own bed, I suppose I'd offer them my bed.

It's not the sheets I'm bothered about at all. I'm not squeamish about things like that. I'd give them clean sheets of course but I have been known to sleep in one of our spare beds when the sheets haven't been changed since a guest stayed there...did it the other night in fact when I was ill and keeping OH awake in our bed. So it's not necessarily about sheets and dirt and so on, for me it's totally about privacy and it being 'our space'. It just makes me feel weird anyone apart from the two of us even setting foot in our bedroom.

At the point when I posted, all that the OP had revealed was that her sister was looking after her dogs (I assumed as a favour, as IMO it's not the norm for people to pay their family/friends for such things), and that she was made to sleep on a sofa bed. On that basis, I responded to the OP and those who appeared to be in agreement with her.

If you personally never ask anyone to house-sit or pet-sit, and have a guest wing available when guests come to stay, then obviously my statement doesn't apply to you.;)

Regards the OP, I still think it's odd (mean and rude, tbh) to expect her sister and her OH to sleep on a sofabed in a children's playroom when the OP's bed is empty. If she had a proper guest room with a proper bed, it would be acceptable.

daisiegg

elvis86 wrote: »

If you personally never ask anyone to house-sit or pet-sit, and have a guest wing available when guests come to stay, then obviously my statement doesn't apply to you.;)
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Haha 'guest wing'! What a great thought! ambitions for my next house forming as we speak... :rotfl:

Gavin83

krlyr wrote: »

They may be happy enough just sleeping in it - you could always (jokingly, if you don't feel able to tell her bluntly) implement a "no sex" rule! I'm perfectly capable of sleeping in the same bed as OH without ravaging him and I think it's polite to respect someone else's bed/house rules.

If I was looking after someone's house/pets and they told me I couldn't have sex in their house I'd tell them I'm not willing to make that guarantee, it's then entirely up to them if they continue with it.

I'd also expect a proper bed if one is available. I wouldn't mind if it was there's or a spare one though.