Do you let guests sleep in your bed?

blue_monkey_2

My sister stays at our house when we are on holiday and looks after the dogs. She sleeps on the sofa bed and seems happy enough with that but....

She is married, they live with his parents and when we was away in 2010 I realised that if they stayed here and looked after the dogs they would get some time to themselves. Only he goes home at the end of the night and she stays here on her own. They are quiet young as a couple, have no children and often spend nights apart, but I feel guilty about it as the point of offering was for them to have some time on their own and his mum only lives a couple of miles away. I did mention it to my sister but she just shrugged it off - I figured he may just like sleeping in his own bed.

But I have got this real 'ewwwww' thing about someone else sleeping in my bed day to day and I feel a bit weird about offering my bed up. I wondered if it was just me?

I was thinking I might get a mattress protector which I can take off when I get back and just change the sheets, duvet ect. I wondered if anyone else readily gave up their bed or found the while thing weird. I mean, they might have sex in the bed and leave fluids on it, or dribble on my pillow. And then I have to sleep on it. Ewwwwwww :eek::eek::eek:

Someone tell me it's not just me.... :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Seanymph

It's not just you - my OH is the same........ but I'm not

Have you never stayed in a hotel then?

duchy

The normal thing to do would be to give them a freshly changed bed (after all YOU may have dribbled on the pillowcase )-and then change the bedding again when you return. It's no different to staying in a hotel bed. Clean bedding for each new occupant.

Do you have the same ewww feeling about the strange bed you are sleeping in whilst you are away...or is it maybe just a territorial thing ?
Most sofabeds aren't that comfortable-maybe that's why he refuses to stay ?

_Kate__2

Buy a matress protector, clean sheets and tell them to bring their own pillows!

I always take my own pillow when sleeping somewhere else

Peater

No. Your bed is a sacred place. I certainly wouldn't offer it up to my sister to [EMAIL="sh@g"]sh@g[/EMAIL] in! Too gross.

Besides, it sounds like your sister's bloke isn't too interested in it anyway....

renegade

My bedroom is my room, my private space and my bed, and I would not let anyone use it.

ikkle87

for all you know they've been bonking on your sofa or living room floor instead lol.

Personally as long as I changed the sheets afterwards I wouldn't have a problem with it.

krlyr

They may be happy enough just sleeping in it - you could always (jokingly, if you don't feel able to tell her bluntly) implement a "no sex" rule! I'm perfectly capable of sleeping in the same bed as OH without ravaging him and I think it's polite to respect someone else's bed/house rules.

daisiegg

No, I couldn't bear it! It's not so much the bed itself, it's the room and my private space. Even if I trusted that someone wouldn't rummage through my drawers (not that I've got anything to hide anyway) I still hate the thought of someone else sleeping in our bedroom, let alone our bed. Actually the thought of someone using our en suite bathroom is the same as well.

daisiegg

Strangely though I never minded people sleeping in my (single) bed when I was growing up and if relatives stayed, we'd be turfed out of our beds to a floor somewhere. But no, not my bed now...I even felt uncomfortable the other day when I was really ill and stuck in bed and my mum came round to bring me some stuff, just having her standing in my bedroom felt bizarre. It is mine and OH's space and not for anyone else.

duchy

I'm not sure how polite it is to dictate to someone who is doing you a favour looking after your dogs what they can or can't do (within reason obviously). If someone is doing me a favour I'd out of courtesy make them as comfortable as possible which would mean food in the fridge and a comfortable bed -especially if it was likely to be a favour needed in the future again. However it's possible your sister understands you have certain territory issues and already respect them. Have you considered asking HER about it rather than asking people who don't know either of you ?