MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

Triangle

Ladies thank you so much for your words of wisdom about the jumperoo...I am definately getting one now! I have decided to start a change pot for it...so far I have £13

So sorry to see your news Turtlemoose - do you have family/friends nearby that can help you through this?

*Ro*

:grouphug: Dizzi - I echo what toniq says, you've had a tough time of it and have a lot in your plate make sure you come back soon x

*Ro*

Triangle wrote: »

Ladies thank you so much for your words of wisdom about the jumperoo...I am definately getting one now! I have decided to start a change pot for it...so far I have £13

So sorry to see your news Turtlemoose - do you have family/friends nearby that can help you through this?

Good idea with the change pot! Hopefully it won't be long before your a full convert to the church of jumperoo!

katiechoc_2

Huge hugs to dizzi and turtle

I haven't read the preg thread so dont know exactly whats gone on but please don't go dizzi!

Turtle I hope you're ok, is it definitely over? Am I right in thinking your parents aren't local to you (or is that someone ese, memory like a seive). Do you have close friends you can turn to? Re your house would you be able to sell it as a buy to let type thing, with tenants already in? Or if it comes to it you could end their tenancy and sell it? Not nice to have to do I know but you and Reuben have to come first.

Gillyx

What a !!!! Turtle. We are all here for you, which may sound like much but it's support none the less.

It's maybe just a stressful time, I don't want to patronise you, but we have had so many really bad arguments since A was born, the lack of sleep, men feel neglected and like baby is taking up all your time etc. xx

sunshine_1988

Hi ladies

Dizzi, dont leave us! Agree with toniq and ro that you have been through so much and the new pregnancy too, stay and chat to us?

I didnt bf by choice, dont feel guilty at all. In my opinion its entirely personal choice. Being a mummy is tough enough without beating yourself up about how you choose to feed your baby.

Turtle, hugs hun. Hope you are ok. Is it over for definate or is there chance of talking it through and sorting it? Agree with gilly that things are v strained with a baby in the mix. Could you give your tennants notice and move back in or sell up and rent? We are here to talk xx

Jannine, welcome back .sounds like poppy has grown with all that eating!! Hope you got a nice pressie!

Busy day here, trying to sort out our mortgage as the current deal comes to an end in oct, its so confusing to me though!!

Just got Aiden to bed so need to crack on with ironing!!

Xx

turtlemoose

Katie you remembered right, my parents live in France (we are on holiday at their house). Nearest family is 200miles away, don't have any friends either.

I can't get the tenants out til march ...by cant live in the house anyway as can't afford it, won't get benefits for mortgage.

Can't sell it either, would love to, I've wanted rid for 2 years!! - but it won't sell, which is why I ended up letting it instead.

As for is it definitely over, well he told me to f*** off in front of his son today, hes done nothing but argue with me all holiday, today we ended o shouting at each other in a supermarket because he picked up a multipack of mars bars and asked me if I wanted any, I said "no not really" and he huffed and put them back on the shelf....it degenerated from there and we ended up shouting and he stormed off to the car. Then later, he wanted the car keys, I tossed them to him and he dropped them, so he called me a tw!t in front of his son again and in front of my dad. Lovely!

He was never like this before...I wouldn't have had a baby with someone who behaved like that!!! I don't understand where this nasty spiteful selfish d!ckhead has appeared from ....but I don't recognise him and I don't like him one bit... And it seems to be who my OH is now. I am just confused and lonely and I don't know what is going to happen, but I'm not sticking around if this is who he really is.

sunshine_1988

Oh turtle I am so sorry what a !!!!

Is there no way you can live in your house? Cant you give them notice now? Or could you sell for a little less maybe? Are your parents able to help you at all, maybe with some money or can you stay out there for a bit longer for some headspace?

Will you definately not qualify for any benefits? Am not sure how the system works but maybe its worth posting on the benefits forum?

Not sure what else I can say, are you close to your mum? Has she seen whats gone on? Maybe have a chat with her and see what advice she offers xxxxx

delain

Turtle ring the CAB, I'm pretty sure there are procedures in place where you could get HB, you wont be the only one this has happened to x x

Oh and big hugs to you, it'll be fine in the end x x

Don't post on the benefits board, they're horrible over there!

sunshine_1988

delain wrote: »

Turtle ring the CAB, I'm pretty sure there are procedures in place where you could get HB, you wont be the only one this has happened to x x

Oh and big hugs to you, it'll be fine in the end x x

Don't post on the benefits board, they're horrible over there!

Oops sorry turtle - didnt know that!! xxx