MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

janninew

Aimless wrote: »

They were discussing breastfeeding on the pregnancy thread and Dizzi has taken some of the comments personally. I think what they were trying to say is we nearly all have the basics to breastfeed... breasts and baby, but that doesn't mean it'll actually be possible in reality for one reason or another. I certainly didn't see anyone being smug about it?

Thanks, I was thinking it was something that happened on this thread and couldn't see anything. Just having a quick read back now over the pregnancy thread. Breastfeeding is such an emotive subject, I've realised that you have to have very thick skin as a Mum, breastfeeding or bootlefeeding, nearly everybody seems to have an opinion on how we choose to raise our children!

Will keep reading back now and catch up.
x

janninew

Aimless wrote: »

Oh, and can I add, if I'm honest, the idea of bottlefeeding scares me, as I don't know how! I wouldn't know where to start with mixing it, warming it etc. I certainly don't think it's easy.

Dizzi, if you're still reading, I think maybe you're unlucky with the area you live in. I've never seen any judgemental breastfeeding mums round here, in fact bottle feeding is very much the norm I would say?

In my area I ventured to one Mum and Baby Group and I was the only breastfeeding Mum there! I certainly see more Mums bottle feeding when I'm out and about then breastfeeding, I thought it was more the 'norm' as well!

I'm not sure about making up bottles either, I think you have to boil the water then leave it 30 mins to cool, I always wondered how you can predict when your baby will need feeding, in the early days before a routine was established Poppy had no set time for feeding!! It doesn't seem like an easy option to me, like somebody said on the pregnancy thread, both methods have advantages and disadvantages.

I dislike how people say you don't bond as well with your baby if you bottle feed, but equally (and I've seen it said on this forum) I don't like people saying that Dad's can't bond with their babies if Mum is breastfeeding! Mum's can't win!!

janninew

mozzyc wrote: »

Hi Janninew!! Glad you had a good time. Welcome back!! Yay for poppy feeding so well. You must post some photo's.

I don't think it was on this thread, it was on another thread x

Thanks Mozzyc, had a fab time but its always nice to get back home!

Will def post pics later when I've uploaded them, we took literally hundreds! We bought Poppy a Kermit the Frog and Piglet from Winnie the Pooh in York at the Disney shop and she won't let Kermit out of her sight, she's napping now holding his big, green hand!! Her face lights up when she see's him!

Will be back on later, have to unpack and put some washing on.

xx

Aimless

Yes, that one makes me laugh too! My other half has never done a feed ever, and they actually adore each other, more than I could ever hope for given our circumstances. We met him in York for a weekend away a couple of weeks ago, and the look on my boy's face as he found daddy in a strange place was just brilliant...from surprise to total joy in a second!

janninew

Aimless wrote: »

Yes, that one makes me laugh too! My other half has never done a feed ever, and they actually adore each other, more than I could ever hope for given our circumstances. We met him in York for a weekend away a couple of weeks ago, and the look on my boy's face as he found daddy in a strange place was just brilliant...from surprise to total joy in a second!

Aww just had to log back on to say how sweet! I can just imagine the surprise to joy look on his face!! My OH has never done a feed either, and he gets the most smiles and laughs, she is a proper Daddy's girl! I do all the hard graft and he gets all the rewards!!

fluffnutter

I made a comment about BFing and bonding. There's no suggestion (from me anyway) that you don't bond if you don't BF your child. Of course you do. I was simply trying to say that, for me, I've found my bond deepening whilst I'm feeding. That is all.

Aimless

janninew wrote: »

Aww just had to log back on to say how sweet! I can just imagine the surprise to joy look on his face!! My OH has never done a feed either, and he gets the most smiles and laughs, she is a proper Daddy's girl! I do all the hard graft and he gets all the rewards!!

It was adorable, kind of 'what the... Daddddddy!' I feel your pain, Daddy's boy here! And I get the two hour long 4am feeds

Aimless

fluffnutter wrote: »

I made a comment about BFing and bonding. There's no suggestion (from me anyway) that you don't bond if you don't BF your child. Of course you do. I was simply trying to say that, for me, I've found my bond deepening whilst I'm feeding. That is all.

I think the problem is adding negatives to what are, as far as I know, scientific facts? There is probably a scientific, maybe hormonal reason why breastfeeding is said to help cement the bond. The issue comes when people assume that means you won't bond if you don't breastfeed, which of course we know is not true. It may not happen in the same way, but it'll still happen. And it's not people being judgemental about other's choices, it's just the current scientific thinking.

Gillyx

Breast feeding still gets at me because I couldn't do it, but that's more my beef than anyone elses I find

I still have dreams about it and as much as I think I've put it to the back of my mind and got over it, it still upsets me and I do feel at times I've failed him, but he's happy, healthy and thriving and that's what matters, and in my head I know that just sometimes my heart takes over

delain

Gillyx wrote: »

Breast feeding still gets at me because I couldn't do it, but that's more my beef than anyone elses I find

I still have dreams about it and as much as I think I've put it to the back of my mind and got over it, it still upsets me and I do feel at times I've failed him, but he's happy, healthy and thriving and that's what matters, and in my head I know that just sometimes my heart takes over

It has always been problematic for me as well tbh and I'm not breastfeeding baby (even though for the first time I had a good supply) because my twins who are special would have made a huge deal out of it.

There's no need for anyone to feel bad about not being able to.

Had baby down the doctor's yesterday with a big rash... They said it was probably due to heat and teething and to give her an ice pop!

How's that for medical advice :rotfl: