MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

missymoo81

kira, all your symptoms happened to me the day my waters broke, i'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

Winnie_in_Pooh wrote: »

Sending a huge hug Missymoo :grouphug: have you got some Calpol in just in case he needs it?

Kira - sounds like things might be starting to move, but having said that, I had my show nearly two weeks before he arrived lol

thanks winnie. no i haven't was going to get some after we'd been to the doctors, but i was in such a state, i came home:o. still feel really sad like i want to burst into tears its rubbish.:(

BaileyB

Hello everyone again,

Our LO is now on formula, what are the rules about making feeds in advance. We used a microwave sterilizer and have been given two different ways to make it up.

Make the whole bottle up (inc milk powder) and store in fridge. or if due feed soon at room temp. Or just place the hot water (cooled after 30mins) in the bottles and leave at room temp and when due feed add the powder.

There is no way we can possibly do the feeds separate each time as it takes alot longer than 30mins more like 60mins for the water in the kettle to cool enough for our LO to take. And doing this 6/8 times a day would take forever.

We have been making 3 at a time but no more than that.

Any advice would be very helpful.

Gillyx

Hello Bailey, what my friend does and was advised to do, was leave the water in the bottles and add the milk in when you were due a feed and heat it up. Mixing the milk in at the start and leaving in the fridge, it's been proven recently that bacteria can still grow. Hth.

alison2020

Jenjade I would have been absolutely raging with your hubby. Love Missymoo suggestion!!For the first 2 months I felt like this was MY baby. Poor OH was very left out and we didn't tell each other how we felt. Came to a point when I suggested he leave. Then we sat down and talked properly. Looking back now I think !!!!!! happened as we are really close again. He had felt completely shut out and as i was breast feeding he didn't bond with the baby. Plus I was always telling him off, poor guy. We both felt completely unloved. Have made a lot more effort since and everything is grand again. Think it must be the hormones and lack of sleep, etc.

Congrats Lauralou! First January baby! I agree that for a few weeks most cries are hunger. Don't leave her to cry it out though. Controlled crying it for much older babies. Just keep feeding her and give lots of cuddles, she'll start settling down soon enough.

Bailey I make 3 bottles at a time and keep them in the fridge. We have a new fridge so it keeps everything very cold. With DD health visitor suggested doing this as making one bottle at a time is ridiculous. Water would never be at the right temperature, etc. If i was out for the day (not at someones house) I would bring sterilised bottles and the wee cartons of baby milk, so i didn't have to worry about milk being out of the fridge too long.

Missymoo we had injections today as well. 3 jabs as he is 4 months. I think vaccinations are great so I've never been emotional about them. The pain only lasts a few seconds. Daniel was getting weighed a few minutes later and turned his wee head and started coo-ing and smiling at the doctor who gave him the jabs: they have such short memories.

Good luck kira. Sounds like you may not need to be induced :-)

Kandboys

Aww missy it's horrible isn't it. Jacob has his first lot tomorrow and I'm dreading it. He should have had them at 8 weeks but that was 3 days before Xmas and there was no way I was going to have a grouchy baby for Xmas. My friend's little one was born the day before jacob and he had his jabs and wasn't a happy boy for days .

Bailey this is what I do - make up 2 or 3 bottles at a time of just boiled water but put 1oz less in them than I need. Then, when feed is due, I boil the kettle and add the last 1oz of boiling water so that the water is warm when the powder goes in. I've had 3 babies and this is the method that suits me best. But everyone is different. Jacob won't take cold milk so it has to be warm to almost quite hot for him - fussy boy lol!

I've also been known to stick the bottle of water in the microwave for 30 seconds to warm it up - as long as it's shaken to get rid of hot spots I don't see the problem.

Lauralou

Thanks everyone for your advise:)Have had a nap this afternoon so feeling a bit better. Shes asleep again so may try and get another nap in to prepare for tonight.
Last night she was feeding but for only about 10mins then only about 5mins on the other breast, so was like having snacks not a proper feed.
She does seem to suck her sleeve during the night when she wakes up

jenjade

hugs to poor baby Roo and missymoo of course. it seems so wrong to let someone stab your baby with a needle when you job to to protect them but it is for thier own good.

Me and other half have had a huge row on the phone this monring. problem is he is trying to keep everyone happy including his ex and failing! His boys live with him and he and his ex (their mum) spend some time together doing things with the kids which i found hard from day one but it proves he is a good dad and does the best for his kids so i got over it also his ex has been with her new partner for over 5 years and he left her which i think says a lot about how he feels about her! He just wants everyone to get on but it is not going to happen how he wants it to. I just feel like he doesnt care about how i feel and when i tell him he is like "oh thats a fair point" but i have explained to him that doesnt really help the damage is done and he has really hurt and upset me. I cant just listen to him say sorry then move on. i trusted him with Eliie and i feel let down.

Ok enough doom and gloom.

What do i have to do about working family tax? i work and am on mat leave do i need to let them know Ellie has arrived? is there a form for it or do i have to hold for weeks?? Also got a child benefits form to fill in. Is there anything else i need to do?

Kira000

jenjade wrote: »

What do i have to do about working family tax? i work and am on mat leave do i need to let them know Ellie has arrived? is there a form for it or do i have to hold for weeks?? Also got a child benefits form to fill in. Is there anything else i need to do?

The only thing i know, is you have to register the birth and get the basic birth certificate, before you can send off the CB form. 'Fraid we are nowhere near being able to claim WF Tax, so cant help on that front.

Sorry your OH has upset you. It sounds like a tricky and delicate situation to be in, especially when you have just been through the emotional and physical wringer of pregnancy and birth. I can totally understand why you feel upset and let down by him, emotionally i wouldnt be happy having my DH's Ex cooching our baby in photos, especially if he was thoughtless and didnt discuss it with me first.
But on the more practical side, maybe its a positive, as it shows how committed he is to you and your wee one, that he considers her so much an important part of his life, that he isnt prepared to ignore her/compartmentalise her out of the bit of his life which he has with his other kids? Plus if he is right, and his kids really wanted to bond and have photos with your LO, thats got to be better than them resenting her and wanting to exclude her?

jenjade

yeah good points Kira. only thing is just before Ellie was born he said to me he doesn't want my ex anywhere near the baby, not left alone with her or touch her etc and i said the same goes for your ex, So i feel like we already had an agreement and he broke it when she was only a few days old.

Kira000

Tut tut on him.... Definately see why you are upset with him. The only mitigation i can think of is that he must have just been overwhelmed with pride at his beautiful girl, and promises flew out of his head. Men, you see, generally cant hold on to more than one thought at a time... .