MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

mancbird

Hi everyone,

Thank you for the welcome

I'm feeling MUCH better after my pregnancy I was sick twice (all over hubby, I wasn't popular!) after Finn was delivered and I haven't been sick since It's so nice to be able to eat and drink normally!! The weight loss thing has been a bonus as I'm now the lightest I've been in over 10 years. None of my clothes fit me so will have to go shopping at some stage as although I'd hung onto some skinny clothes I have nowhere near enough!

I breastfed for 5 weeks before I had to give up and the weight fell off me. I lost 2 stone after having Finn and the other stone came off in the first month so I think breastfeeding definitely helps to lose baby weight.

Married life is great, although we were like a married couple anyway! It's strange though as I do feel differently about our little family. I can't explain it, but it's a good thing!

As for Finn's fingernails, I'm another biter. I have some mini clippers but they look sharp so I'm scared to use them! His toenails don't seem to grow much, in fact I can't remember having to trim them yet...is this normal?

Jenjade, sorry you and your oh have fell out hope you get it sorted quickly xxx

Have a great day everyone we moved house right before Christmas so I have a tonne of unpacking to do!

See you later,

Mancbird xxx

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think breastfeeding is meant to burn around 500 calories a day whoop whoop
]mancbird we moved around 5 yrs ago and i still have some boxes in the loft lol

im another biter for fingernails, i do have a tommee tippee set which includes clippers , scissors and nail files but the couple of times i have cut his nails with the scissors they end up really sharp bits even though i hae filed them too and he has scratched himself. i find biting his nails after he has had his bath is the easiest time as they are softer.x


jenjade its quite normal, i even told hubby to f off and go home at the hospital , lucky enough he went off for a coffee and come back to find me in floods of tears lol
again a couple of weeks after we were home we had a row. i felt he had left me alone and didnt want to be at home with us. he went back to work and college a week after i had samuel and every time he was at home he would keep popping out for things at the shops or round to my mums for the washing (our machine had broke).

he was completley stunned when i had a meltdown and burst into tears he didnt have a clue how i was feeling. he just said he thought i was coping really well and didnt think i needed him there during the day and because he was at work my mum came over every day and as for the shopping and washing he didnt want me worrying about it during the day so was sorting it all out for me. and he went back to work after a week as that is what he had done with the boys albeit 9 yrs earlier lol
had to explain that this has been the worst pregnancy i have had. had a miscarriage before this one, was really really sick for 5 months all the time, he worked away in france for a month and i decided to develop sciatica for the whole time and had to take maternity leave a bit early as i was just swelling everywhere and turning into an elephant lol then the birth was a bloody tough time, ended up haveing an emergency c section cause samuels heart beat stopped, i lost way to much blood and my body went into shcok.

mmmmm no wonder i had a few wobbly times. long winded way to say it but what im trying to say is have you spoken to each other, does he understand how your feeling and vice versa, as its not always easy for men to adjust they have emotional times too and sometimes i think they are a little forgotten. they have emotions too and also sometimes feel a little pushed out and sometimes jealous, i mean we devote our time to them and all of a sudden a little one comes along and they are relagated to back seatx hope you feel better soon

jenjade

i have spoken to other half and at the moment i cant see away forward. He had Ellie for half an hour the other day. he took pic of her and i said can i load them on my pc so we bith have a copy he said fine no problem anyway late when i looked at the pics there is a photo of his ex, Ellie and his kids! she is holding my baby and they look like a family it has really really upset me and i cant cope with it and now i feel i cant trust him with Ellie!

Any suggestions. i told him how i feel and his answer was the boys wanted to show her and have their pic taken.!

missymoo81

morning! hi ya mancbird! lovely to see you . oh jenjade hun, i hope you and OH get it sorted soon (((hugs))). wow mirror what a horribley tough time you had, realky feel for you!

Sorry about punctuation but am feeding bubba so typing one handed! I have my postnatal today and roo has his injections bless him, its at 2.15, don't want to go as i know hes going to cry! HV just called and im booked in for a baby massage group tomorrow!!! Bit scary, but a good way to meet people i guess, and i wanted to go to a massage class. Have mummys and babies on wednesday morning too!

Gillyx

jenjade wrote: »

i have spoken to other half and at the moment i cant see away forward. He had Ellie for half an hour the other day. he took pic of her and i said can i load them on my pc so we bith have a copy he said fine no problem anyway late when i looked at the pics there is a photo of his ex, Ellie and his kids! she is holding my baby and they look like a family it has really really upset me and i cant cope with it and now i feel i cant trust him with Ellie!

Any suggestions. i told him how i feel and his answer was the boys wanted to show her and have their pic taken.!

:eek: I'd hit the roof too Jenjade, so don't feel like you're being irrational. On one hand I can look at it and say well he was fine with you looking at/uploading the pictures so obviously nothing is going on BUT does he think it's okay to be parading your child around his ex?

I would tell him you're not happy with him looking like he's playing happy families with his ex, I understand it's the mother of his other children, and they may have a good relationship (which is a good thing) but there needs to be boundaries.

Winnie_in_Pooh

I agree with what Gilly says Jenjade - I would go mental if DH let his ex anywhere near my baby!

jenjade

Thanks Gilly and winnie,
I dont want her anywhere near my baby. Ellie is nothing to do with her. I am due back at uni weds all day and he was due to have Ellie but i dont trust him to stay away from his ex with her

Gillyx

Why is he doing it? Is he giving you a reason? How often does he have his kids? Is it possible for him to drive up for example and the boys come out to his car or does he go in to collect them?

Kandboys

Jen I would be absolutley livid!! How dare he!!! Am so furious on your behalf grrrrr

Lauralou

Hi all please can i join.

Erinna arrived 3rd January at 11.38 weighing 7lb 4oz.

We had a horrible night last night. She was up 10.30-2.30. then 5.30-6.30I really didn't know what to do with her. I just seemed to be feeding,burping, changing nappy, then feeding etc. I find she goes to sleep whilst burping but then she does a poo so i change her but then she wakes up again. I did try and couple of times just cuddling her and rubbing her back then she would fall asleep but then she would wake up crying again.
Breast feeding is going well, she now weighs 7lb 1oz but even some newborn clothes are too big and newborn nappies seem big.
She slept again 7.15ish-8.30 had a feed then woke up again at 9.30 then went back to sleep until 12. Had a feed and is now asleep again.

What i'm thinking off doing is feeding her, winding her then nappy change, cuddle then moses basket. How long do you leave your baby to cry for?