MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

Wonder_Womble

alison2020 wrote: »

Wonder womble you had a pretty stressful pregnancy didn't you. Didn't you have a difficult birth too? The tears could be a reaction to all that stress and worry. I was only teary in the first week when my milk came in and then again when I gave up breast feeding. Might be worth speaking to someone cos you don't want to keep on feeling teary. *hugs*

Yeah, I think all the stress has made me feel quite emotional. I can't think about my experience in hospital without it setting me off.

Kandboys wrote: »

I think you will have an 'overhang' for a while if not forever unless you were very toned before lol. It's the joys of having a c-section. I've had 2 now so there's no hope for me! Sorry you are feeling so tearful hun - it's horrible. It could just be hormones - are you feeling very down as well or just tearful? I cry over stupid things still like the Salvation Army advert that was on before Christmas - had me in floods!

I think I just feel really flat, I wasn't prepared for how small my world would become. I am used to being out and about pretty much all the time. I have a community based job and because of that spend all day with lots of people. Plus I am usually pretty busy going off to visit my mam and sisters, whereas at the mo I can't drive and feel like I've had my legs chopped off.

Kira000 wrote: »

Hi WW. The "Your baby week by week" book i've been reading actually says 4-5 weeks is the most likely time to get struck with some degree of baby blues, so sounds like you are perfectly normal! Definately good idea to speak to the HV about it..

Thanks Kira, that makes me feel a bit better. I am really worried about PND. Both my sisters had it , and I have had depression before and I really do not want to be back there. I've got an appointment with the HV on Thursday.

Emmylou I've been getting out of the house everyday as I am worse when I am home. I think you are right though about the shock of becoming a mum. It is an overwhelming responsibility at times at the thought of this little cherub being totally reliant on you :eek: I've got a couple of leaflets for baby groups in the area which I will ring up this week.

Thanks for your replies ladies, yu have made me feel much better, although the belly overhang is a concern :eek:

kazzybabes

Sammy_Girl wrote: »

Kaz - I would try it with milk. All baby rice and cereal I made up was with formula and now she has porridge with cows milk. What consistency are you mixing the rice/cereal to? I found the guidelines rubbish and when someone told me it should be the thickness of yoghurt, it was much better!

DD has 4 teeth now and she has started to grind them. The noise goes right through me!

Kira - How did the appointment go?

I have been making it to a yoghurt consistancy but ill try it with milk instead! I have pureed some sweet potato to try tomorrow so ill see how that goes lol! Thanks for your reply!

alison2020

There's a lot of adjustment after having a first baby, both physically and mentally. I felt very isolated and low with DD but this second time around I am really enjoying myself as there is less of a change and fewer surprises.
Wonder womble it might be worth talking to a counsellor (or therapist type of person?) about the birth experience so it doesn't hang over you. Especially if you are thinking of a second baby at some stage. I have re-lived my 2 labours so many times in my head, and I'm so glad Daniel's was more straight forward as it has replaced DD's not so great birth experience. I know so many women who have been slightly (or not so slightly) traumatised by labour not going to plan and there is absolutely nothing offered to help. We are just expected to deal with it and not be fazed by the thought of doing it all again. Sorry - I'll get off my soap box now!!!

New series of One born every minute is starting tomorrow night

tsstss7

:female: Sammy_Girl - 19th March 2011 - Esme Rose - 1st baby
:female: Wendz86 - 19th April 2011 - Poppy Summer - 1st baby
:female:Tsstss7 - 7th June 2011 - name tbc - 3rd baby (14, 4, 7mths)
:female: little angel -19th September 2011 - Lily - 1st baby
:male: mirrorimage - 10th october 2011 - samuel - 3rd baby (12 yrs, 9yrs and 13 weeks)
:male: Kandboys - 27th October 2011 - Jacob - 3rd baby (7yrs, 3yrs and 9 weeks)
:male: TinyTink - 7th November 2011 - Theodore - 1st baby
:male: Lynn11 - 4th December 2011 - Ryan Iain -
:female: mr_knight - 5th December 2011 - details tbc
:male: MoneySavingMamma - 6th December 2011 - Name Tba -
:female: Wonder Womble - 7th December 2011 - Katie -
:female: chucknorris69 - 9th December 2011 - Name Tba -
:female: Blue Monkey - 11th December 2011 - Betsy -
:female: yummymummy79 - 13th December 2011 - Eleanor Victoria -
:male: seafarers_wife - 13th December 2011 - Benjamin -
:female: Lirin - 19th December 2011 - Rose Lira -
:male: phoenix dragon - 19th December 2011 - name tba -
:female: Sammy85 - 22nd December 2011 - Cora Rose -
:female: Jenjade - 25th December 2011 - Ellie Harrison -
:male: KimmyMarky - 27th December 2011 - Henry -
:female: Mrs Giggly - 28 December - Evangeline -
:female: Mimi Arc en ciel - 31st December 2011 - Amy -

Hi can I join ? My DD is nearly 7mths and just weaning. I had breastfeeding issues at the start so I exclusively expressed for 3 mths but then she started feeding normally and is still breastfeeding well as well as starting on baby led weaning. (any tips welcome).

mirrorimage0

emmylou83 wrote: »

How strange, was only yesterday i was wondering what happens with bleeding after a c-section! Obviously I know what happens with a vaginal birth, just wasnt sure how long it all took to "come out" after a section lol! Not that i`m planning on having one
I didnt have any clots at all with DD1 or DD2, but with DD3 i was really shocked!! I also bled for 6 weeks with DD3, but only a few weeks with the other 2 xx

i had a c section and hardly bled at all, very light period for a few days but that was it, have been breastfeeding but changing him to bottle at the mo so am expecting a period soon, bah humbug

on the crying front think i was tearful for about 5/6 weeks but definatley speak to someone about it. i even burts into tears in the hospital the next day and told hubby to f off home as i didnt want him there, have no idea why i said that and lucky enough he only went out for a coffee then came back lol


ok who was it that said they are getting 7 hrs sleep a night, bah humbug, i think any one who gets over 4 hrs should be banned until your sleep deprived and greasy haired like me lol. samuel has a cold and cough at the mo so am sleeping down stairs with him so i can prop him up.

welcome tsstss7 sorry i cant offer any tips its been so long since i weaned my eldest two they are 12 an 9 now so will be learning it all again with samuel, its all changed so much lol

Wonder_Womble

alison2020 wrote: »

Wonder womble it might be worth talking to a counsellor (or therapist type of person?) about the birth experience so it doesn't hang over you. Especially if you are thinking of a second baby at some stage. I have re-lived my 2 labours so many times in my head, and I'm so glad Daniel's was more straight forward as it has replaced DD's not so great birth experience. I know so many women who have been slightly (or not so slightly) traumatised by labour not going to plan and there is absolutely nothing offered to help. We are just expected to deal with it and not be fazed by the thought of doing it all again. Sorry - I'll get off my soap box now!!!

I've got a leaflet from the hospital for something called 'birth reflections' so I will give them a ring.

LO has been very sicky overnight. I'm on my 3rd and final dressing gown and she just vommed her bottle all over me again. It seems to be a bit phlegmy when it comes back up.

2522laura

Thanks for all your advice yesterday ladies, I'll get stocking up on the muslins :0)

Enjoy your little ones, I am 24 weeks today so the last milestone has been reached and we couldn't be happier xx

alison2020

I'm with you mirror. Fed Daniel 8oz at 11pm in the hope of getting him through the night. He lasted til 4am when he took another 8oz. About to try him with the baby rice. Really want to get more sleep!!!
Welcome tsstss well done on expressing for three months and getting back to bf. That must have been hard work!
Wonder Womble being covered in sick is a daily event. It's worse when you get to the stage where you don't even notice it and someone has to point it out!!!! Hope that helpline is beneficial.
Congrats Laura on V day. How exciting!

yummymummy79

watched the Happiest Baby on the Block DVD last night and tried the swaddling with shhing/white noise (app on my phone with white noise- left phone in moses basket) which worked really well to calm her down. I got 4 hours followed by 3 hours sleep last night so can't complain, plus we got up at 8.15 which was nice! Would like her to settle before midnight really, but suppose it could be worse.

emmylou83_2

WW i had depression for yrs before i had DD3, as my mum died when i was 18 and i just didnt deal with it at the time. It wasnt until i had Lily that it all hit me like a ton of bricks and i finally allowed the dr to give me the antidepressants she had been trying to get me to take for 5 yrs! I so badly didnt want to take them, but after a few weeks was so glad i did. This time, the second i start to feel like it again (hopefully i wont!) I wont hesitate to ask for help. i`m not saying u need them of course lol, but just dont let urself get to the point where u really need help, good luck when u have a chat to ur health visitor hun xxx