MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

Bamama

Dewi has been attached to my boob this afternoon. We're on out third feed since 3!

*Nutella*

Katie, chickpeas always do the trick round here. Pear works too

Turtle, sounds like we have similar sleep issues - my LO wakes up every night now wanting to be picked up and cries until I give in or she's so exhausted she falls asleep. Must admit I've given in too many times recently and we've ended up cosleeping until she wakes up for the day at 5.30. Need to stop doing that as going back to work at the end of this month and I won't be able to have afternoon naps anymore! I'm predicting sleepless nights ahead

turtlemoose

Nutella do you think our babies have read this?....



How to Stop Mummy Sleeping Through the Night!

OK, here's my situation. My Mummy has had me for almost 7 months. The first few months were great. I cried, she picked me up and fed me, anytime, day or night. Then something happened.

Over the last few weeks, she has been trying to STTN (sleep through the night). At first, I thought it was just a phase, but it is only getting worse. I've talked to other babies, and it seems like its pretty common after Mummies have had us for around 6 months.

Here's the thing: these Mummies don't really need to sleep. Its just a habit. Many of them have had some 30 years to sleep and they just don't need it anymore. So I am implementing a plan. I call it the
Crybaby Shuffle. It goes like this:

Night 1: cry every 3 hours until you get fed. I know, its hard. Its hard to see your Mummy upset over your crying. Just keep reminding yourself, its for her own good.

Night 2: cry every 2 hours until you get fed.

Night 3: every hour. Most Mummies will start to respond more quickly after about 3 nights. Some Mummies are more alert, and may resist the change longer. These Mummies may stand in your doorway for hours, shhhh-ing. Don’t give in. I cannot stress this enough: CONSISTENCY IS KEY!! If you let her STTN (sleep through the night), just once, she will expect it every night. I KNOW ITS HARD! But she really doesn’t need the sleep, she’s just resisting the change.

If you have an especially alert Mummy, you can stop crying for about 10 minutes, just long enough for her to go back to bed and start to fall asleep. Then cry again. It WILL eventually work. My Mummy once stayed awake for 10 hours straight, so I know she can do it. Last night, I cried every hour. You just have to decide to stick to it and just go for it. BE CONSISTENT!

I cried for any reason I could come up with. My sleep sack tickled my foot. I felt a wrinkle under the sheet. My mobile made a shadow on the wall. I burped, and it tasted like pears. I hadn’t eaten pears since lunch, what’s up with that? The cat said "meow". I should know. My Mummy reminds me of this about 20 times a day. LOL. Once I cried just because I liked how it sounded when it echoed on the monitor in the other room. Too hot, too cold, just right - doesn’t matter! Keep crying!! It took awhile, but it worked. She fed me at 4am. Tomorrow night, my goal is 3:30am. You need to slowly shorten the interval between feedings in order to reset your Mummies internal clocks.

Sometimes my Mummy will call for reinforcements by sending in Daddy. Don’t worry, Daddies are not set up for not needing sleep the way Mummies are. They can only handle a few pats and shhing before they declare defeat and send in the Mummy.

Also, be wary of the sleep sheep with rain noises. I like to give Mummy false hope that listening to the rain puts me to sleep sometimes I pretend to close my eyes and be asleep and then wait until I know Mummy is settling back to sleep to spring a surprise cry attack. If she doesn’t get to me fast enough I follow up with my fake cough and gag noise that always has her running to the crib.

At some point I am positive she will start to realise that she really doesn’t really need sleep.

P.S. Don’t let those rubber things fool you, no matter how long you suck on them, no milk will come out. Trust me.

turtlemoose

Oh bamama until my baby was about 10 weeks old I spent from 6-9pm feeding. Welcome to cluster feeds!!

*Nutella*

turtlemoose wrote: »

Nutella do you think our babies have read this?....

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:Brilliant - spot on!

turtlemoose

I particularly liked the bit that goes The cat said "meow". I should know. My Mummy reminds me of this about 20 times a day. LOL.

My little pest is finally asleep after an hour, I think because i am working on the day time naps (and he is therefore having less as he is fighting them), it is over spilling in to nights. I'm really hoping once his day time sleeping improves then so does his (and my!) nights.

*Nutella*

I like this bit: 'I pretend to close my eyes and be asleep and then wait until I know Mummy is settling back to sleep to spring a surprise cry attack'. That's exactly what she does half the time - no matter how long I hang around by her bed to make sure she's properly asleep!

My LO falls asleep in the evening no problem, but then usually wakes up wanting cuddles just as I'm going to bed, or just after I've fallen asleep, so I'm really tired and less resistant to picking her up.... We're at my parents' at the moment, which doesn't help as I'm worried about her waking them up, but once we're back home on Monday it's back to being strict

sunshine_1988

Hi ladies!!

Something in the baby sleeping air I think....mine has been a terror the last few nights too!!

Nutella, we have the same-he goes down fine but wakes about 1:00 and wont stop crying till he is cuddled. We have resorted to co sleeping a couple of nights. I asked the HV yday who suggested controlled crying, thing is - at 1:00 in the morning I am not in the frame of mind to shhh and back rub and then walk out for 3minutes and do it again etc. Turtle, I looovvve that story! Just showed OH and he was laughing!

Wonder what time we will all be up tonight! X

turtlemoose

Sunshine I know what you mean. I'm good at putting him down, I'm even good after the 11:30/midnight feed. What I can't deal with is the 2/3/4/5am wakeup (any or all of them!) ...I don't have the patience to sssh and pat and rub his back. Well I did try it last night but after 3hrs, he beat me and I gave in and took him to bed. If 3 hrs doesn't do it, !!!!!! will?! Bad times!!!

sunshine_1988

turtlemoose wrote: »

Sunshine I know what you mean. I'm good at putting him down, I'm even good after the 11:30/midnight feed. What I can't deal with is the 2/3/4/5am wakeup (any or all of them!) ...I don't have the patience to sssh and pat and rub his back. Well I did try it last night but after 3hrs, he beat me and I gave in and took him to bed. If 3 hrs doesn't do it, !!!!!! will?! Bad times!!!

God knows. I cant do it when its my day off the next day so sure as hell cant do it on work nights. He woke up just now, coughing, luckily gone back down with dummy fine....why oh why dont they do this at stupid o clock??!!

Thing with Aiden which drives me insane, as soon as you lie him in our bed zzzzzzz he is gone. Lie him in his cot....hell no.

x