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My eldest has changed his xmas list
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Ok well I agree with most here, but I do thing OP seems to be giving him a lot of attention for the bad things.
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To be honest, Vic, you're never going to win any of these battles, so you may as well make your stance now. If you (somehow) did get him a laptop, you know it would be too big/too small/wrong make/wrong model/too slow/wrong colour... etc etc etc! Christmas lists are to give people ideas... not a god-given right! Mine has a new car on it :rotfl:, some designer clothes that magically make me into a size 10, and a house that cleans itself! If he takes himself off to his girlfriends on Christmas Day then so be it! You will have a lovely peaceful Christmas with the rest of the family, and he will look an idiot whether he realises it or not in front of the gf's family!
Don't enter into any more 'I want' discussions, just say nothing.0 -
My eldest is tall, handsome, funny and can be a joy but it is just glimpses.
I just sit here and think aobut the future, surely this will all blow over, I want to come out of it with a son to be proud of, with mutual love and respect for each other, I don't want to be a mum that is reminded 10 years down the line that I asked my son to go to his gf for xmas and stay there.
OR Maybe fast forward to Christmas ten years hence and he'll be saying "OMG Do you remember that Christmas -and what a brat I was and you gave me the kick up the backside I needed-Thanks Mum"
Edit Oh for goodness sake -Man up Woman !!!
If he hasn't learned that life isn't fair and we don't always get what we want by now ...............
He sounds a selfish little git and a right drama queen. He knows you can't afford it but trys to mamipulate you and make you feel bad.He just wants to be the centre of attention. Well sorry but here's a newsflash -Only YOU can make you feel bad - instead of looking at him nervously-why not just laugh at him and make out you think he's joking because no ADULT would say this nonsense seriously. If he mentions the laptop just say "Oh I knew you weren't serious because you know we don't have that kind of money" and act like you don't have a clue and just shrug.
Really you need to stop enabling his behavour-it only works because you react to it !!I Would Rather Climb A Mountain Than Crawl Into A Hole
MSE Florida wedding .....no problem0 -
He's going to keep pushing you around until you do something about it. The only thing I see you doing, is being scared of him not loving you as a mum. While you aren't acting like a mum, but an enabler, you enable his attitude.
I wouldn't put up with this behaivier from my 8 yr old. She would be told in no uncertain fashion, if you keep going on, you won't get any presents and you know I mean it. From a grown up with a job, it's almost unbelievable, has he got no pride?Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.0
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