My eldest has changed his xmas list

aliasojo

My oldest two (also very nearly 7 years between them) always felt their presents should be fairly equal and tbh so did I. If one got x amount spent on them then it was only fair that the other one did too. I know other people may not agree with that but it was just the way we all felt happy with in our house. However, their Dad (my ex) didn't follow this train of thought and some years it was plainly obvious which one was the 'favourite'. I always felt so sorry for the one who got less, it just never seemed fair.

Of course once they became adults or started earning their own money then all that changed and they got the usual 'adult reduction' with regards to gifts.

Anyway, I think this is about more than just Christmas presents. Maybe it's time your lad was made to grow up. Perhaps it's worth broaching him moving out/standing on his own two feet? I think becoming responsible for himself would really help lessen his 'entitlement' thing he has going on.

Weird_Nev

If he's old enough to demand a laptop,and need driving lessons, then he's old enough to earn them himself.

Time he got a saturday job/real job/ earn his way.

I think new year might be a good time to talk about the rent he's going to be paying from now on.

And DON'T get him driving lessons - he'll demand a car next. And guess who'll be paying the insurance?!

victory

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Weird_Nev

victory wrote: »

He makes me feel inadequate, that the joy of life like the smell of grass whilst out for a walk or going to pick holly or reading a library book, the things that I enjoy and appreciate he just think is ridiculous, he chases the ££££ all the time, has a job, spends, borrows, ends up skint. gets paid, buys more, chases the £££, I gave that up because there are no ££ to chase and am happy with what we have got, it may not be a lot but it is ours.

If he has a job then he has no right to demand YOU buy him a laptop. I think he's at an age where he can stand to hear that news.

Bennifred

Sorry to be blunt, victory, but GET A GRIP! Why are you even discussing it with him? You've already decided what he's getting (driving lessons, money for sales). END OF STORY. DO NOT ENGAGE.

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kjmtidea

I'd buy him a toy laptop and then dash it at his head. Why on earth does he think it is acceptable to behave like this?!

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