18 year old refuses to pay keep, college money going on his enjoyment!!

lovinituk

Gillyx wrote: »

Normally they're dousing themselves in Lynx at every opportunity though, on the premise the women from the ads will actually fall for them.

Hey! I'm in my 30's and still waiting for the women from the ads!! I want my money back!!

HappyMJ

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

this kid hasnt left education though. you (presumably) have.

Support from parents generally stops after A-Levels unless parents earn enough to continue support through college and university and is replaced by student grants and student loans. At least it did in my case.

dirtysexymonkey

HappyMJ wrote: »

Support from parents generally stops after A-Levels unless parents earn enough to continue support through college and university and is replaced by student grants and student loans. At least it did in my case.

which are based on parental income and there is an expectation of parental support.

a lot has changed since you were 18.

victory

Have I read this wrong? Is the whole £1000 going to be spent on one tattoo? Surely not?

dirtysexymonkey

property.advert wrote: »

My gut feeling is that the parents have had nearly two decades to put something away for his education but didn't or couldn't be bothered, presumably thinking that the taxpayer would fund their offspring's education. A few less nights in the pub or fewer takeaways come ready meals would have paid for this.

However, the kid actually has a job, which is more than most layabout teenagers going to college. If he didn't have the job, the parents would be getting more demands for financial assistance. I think he is doing his part to be honest. The tattoo would be a deal breaker though. Awful and permanent reminder of a stupid decision but in this case, with money tight all around, it isn't a rational choice.

I agree with him using the grant for what he needs but if the parents keep banging on the drum about a couple of quid here and there then he's going to be even less receptive to any suggestions. It is the parents job to feed and clothe their kids and that continues while they are at home and in education. If they are rational with him, just perhaps he might see some sense.

i agree with this.

normally i would say if a kid is in education then parents should support him, but as you say you are unable to then he should help out a little.

that said if he wants to spend £1000 on a tattoo when hes told you he needs a mac (which is possible depending on the course) then you tell him that you will be charging him more. after all if he can afford to blow a grand, he can afford to give you at least that for his keep.

FatVonD

richardw wrote: »

He hasn't said he needs one because the course is to be a Mac ArtWorker/Graphic designer or similar, just that 'everyone has one'.

Maybe everyone has one because 'everyone' are the other students on a graphics course?

richardw

Is 'everyone' on the same course?

shiny76

lauraann wrote: »

we will stop getting child benefit and child tax credits for him when he turns 19,

How much does that amount to? (sorry no idea about these things!)

If it's not a great deal perhaps he could contribute an equivalent amount from his grant/job so as to maintain the status quo for the extra year???

scheming_gypsy

victory wrote: »

Have I read this wrong? Is the whole £1000 going to be spent on one tattoo? Surely not?

that could be considered cheap depending on the tattoo and the artist. £30 and upwards an hour isn't considered expensive

System

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Originally Posted by property.advert
My gut feeling is that the parents have had nearly two decades to put something away for his education but didn't or couldn't be bothered, presumably thinking that the taxpayer would fund their offspring's education. A few less nights in the pub or fewer takeaways come ready meals would have paid for this."

Well! That's a sweeping statement if ever I read one! Assuming that the money has gone on booze and takeaways! maybe it went on a mortgage, school trips, clothes, food, looking after an ill or elderly relative, travelling to work because that was a necessity...any one of a number of things.

Not all families can save for a child's education...and at 18 this is no longer a child.