neighbour issues

victory

adouglasmhor wrote: »

I think you should spend some time working with people in wheelchairs so you do not feel obliged to make such ignorant statements. She can park somewhere else and walk to her house and move her car later if she does not like driving with one side on the pavement. The disabled child would probably love to be able to walk somewhere else.

Thank you that was what I meant to say but said my bit now

cheepskate_2

it may be a disabled child, but as the op likes to put forward the neighbour has some issues of her own, maybe disabled herself.
op, i take it you also have a driveway, is your car sitting in your driveway, when your daughter gets picked up, if it is then you could maybe move it in the morning to allow the driver to park in your driveway.

scheming_gypsy

Nut her and tell her to F*** off....

Alternatively.... Is there any consistancy to the time she gets back? if the school bus gets there at 7:45am and she arrives around 7:52am, is there any chance the bus can come at 7:40am to try and be out of her way before she gets home?

lemontart

tolerance works both ways as does consideration of other peoples lives, whilst I understand needs of op daughter the neighbour needs to get to work without having to mount pavement which is a hazard in it's self, so give and take. Neither party is more important than the other imho.

scheming_gypsy

lemontart wrote: »

the neighbour needs to get to work without having to mount pavement which is a hazard in it's self, so give and take. .

get to work? she's just complaining that she has to drive over the kerb to get into her drive on her way home from work. She's not going to be late for anything she's just being impatient as she's being slightly inconvenienced.

Nicki

The bus will have the same rights as any other disabled vehicle to stop anywhere it needs to, provided this does not cause danger to others. So the bus is behaving perfectly legally stopping where it has, and the fact that the neighbour is inconvenienced by this, is really no different to her being inconvenienced by being caught behind a regular bus stopping at a bus stop and letting a lot of people on and off, or stopping at a level crossing, on her way to work. The neighbour has a choice as to whether she waits for the bus to move, or she makes her way carefully round it. She is coming HOME from work not travelling to work so will not be making herself late for anything.

When I used to do the school run for my DS, there was an old people's home just at the beginning of a traffic chicane about 500 yards from the school. Local Authority buses were often stopped there both in the mornings and evenings picking up or collecting the elderly for daytime activities. It wasn't possible to get past safely so you just had to wait for the 5 or so minutes it took to complete the process. It wasn't fantastically convenient sometimes if we were running late, and there was nowhere to leave the car and walk the rest of the way, but that doesn't mean it would ever have been appropriate or acceptable to lean out my car window and give the driver or the passengers a load of abuse, or to contact the council and demand they were picked up from somewhere else.

victory

lemontart wrote: »

tolerance works both ways as does consideration of other peoples lives, whilst I understand needs of op daughter the neighbour needs to get to work without having to mount pavement which is a hazard in it's self, so give and take. Neither party is more important than the other imho.

She is coming back from work so it is not a lateness thing.

The party that is more important over this woman who is impatient, rude, aggresive, lacking in understanding, can walk and move on her own, can wait and is held back by minutes is def the daughter.

cheepskate_2

has the op actually in the 1 year that this has been happening spoke to the neighbout to let her know that she knows it inconveniences her but ...........

It doesnt sound like she has, maybe this is part of the problem.

dizziblonde

Ok from the whole tone of your post you don't like this woman at all (nowt wrong with wanting to keep yourself to yourself but the entire cul-de-sac seems to have labelled her for it)... she could have had a really really dreadful day(well night) at work for all you know, she could have been desperate to get home (heck I've driven home from work in tears before desperate to get in the door of my house and unwind) and it was the straw that broke the camel's back having to wait for 10 minutes. To be honest, I'd be piddled off if I had to wait 10 minutes every single evening (I know it's not an evening but being a night shift worker it's the equivalent) or go around on the kerb wrecking my car tyres - and it's the sort of thing that grates over time and if you've had a bad day could just be enough to flip you out (I've turned the air blue inside my car on occasions when I've got home from a crud day at work to find the neighbours blocking our access "just for 10 minutes" yet AGAIN).

Some empathy on BOTH sides seems required and if there's any way the bus could tweak the parking slightly (use the bottom of a drive or something) to make it easier - because what happens if one day it's not a neighbour you don't like trying to get down the road but a fire engine or ambulance?

Could be the woman's depressed or gone through something incredibly distressing - there was a long period in my life where I'd be the one you've all labelled so nastily - kept my head down, eyes to the ground - because I simply WASN'T coping and the only way I coped with having to go out to work to make some money was to get home as quickly as I possibly could since home was the only place I felt vaguely safe and in control.

lemontart

scheming_gypsy wrote: »

get to work? she's just complaining that she has to drive over the kerb to get into her drive on her way home from work. She's not going to be late for anything she's just being impatient as she's being slightly inconvenienced.

Perhaps she is tired after a long shift, if coming home at that time she obviously works nights, she may have to back on shift within 11 hrs, you do not know how long a journey she has etc etc, - give and take as we do not know what is going on in neighbours life and no party has more rights than another - I have 14 plus hr days with travel and regularly have to alter last bit of route home due to certain road users or have to sit and wait, believe me after a night shift all I want is bed before going back on shift and my temper is on a short fuse. I can turn round and take other entrance to my crescent and just turn air blue in car, neighbour does not have option.

Give and take and a little respect on both sides - sounds like and ongoing issue and one day the neighbour snapped. Shouting at bus driver does not solve the problem but I can see how she snapped,

Perhaps a note of apology to neighbour for problem of having to either drive on pavement or wait would help Then neighbour may well apologise in return and open discussion to resolve issue, either way op shows willing and understanding of others . Both parties have their needs here.