My family can't find where they put their own heads most days.

Savvy_Sue

Someone came back to the office this afternoon after a couple of hours out to find 14 missed calls. On listening to the voicemail(s), she said "oh dear, I've locked my daughter out and she needs to get to work." "Really? How did you lock her out?" "Well, actually she went out without her keys."

Same problem, different perspective ...

Spendless

Baileys_Babe wrote: »

I completely understand your reasons for wanting to prevent your receiving after school detentions when its dark. So could you discuss this with him and say if you need to remind him about his tie to prevent the after school detentions you will be punishing him instead. That way he (hopefully) learns to be more responsible, but his actions are not having negative consequences for other members of the family.

Thank you for your understanding in where I'm coming from.:) I could go into a lot more detail about logistics and timings, but I'm not prepared to when I get thanked posts about making excuses, when people are seeing a tiny snapshot of my life that I am able to convey into brief words, when I am aware of the much bigger picture. Suffice to say an after school detention would require me being in 2 places at once and the purpose of this thread, is for my family to think foward for themselves not give me an additional job when they don't do it which is what DS stopping behind after school in winter would entail. However last night I did overhear DS say something to DH along the lines of not wanting a detention when I left them to it, something msb 'predicted' on the first page.

msb5262 wrote: »

The same goes for your OH - he'll be mortified if he lets them down by being disorganised but you're right: you can't do the thinking for all of you, nor should you.

Hope your mum is recovering well.

HTH

...and don't worry, it does get easier!

MsB

What exactly it was about I'm not sure, partly cos of my hearing issues, partly cos I'd left them to deal with whatever it was (I guess homework) but at least the thinking ahead is happening.

splishsplash wrote: »

I'm divorced, but for years I used to have a poster up which said 'Your Lack Of Planning Is Not My Emergency', :T.

Love it and that sums it up for me. Now to get a poster of my own made and hang it by the front door.

victory

or prior planning and preparation results in p*** poor performance:D

Spendless

victory- I meant to ask you. How are you getting on with the electrical apliances being left on? I have got fab results so far from the idea of making them go back and re-do, whatever they are left. Plenty of whinging and whining yesterday, barely a mistake today and it was a reply on your thread that gave me the idea.

This morning was thankfully a lot smoother. Very helpful since DH went back to bed ill, he's had a persistent cough for weeks, finally made a Drs appt on friday got a perscription -which was still in his car!! DD is very excited about her breakfast club tomorrow as they are selling buns for children in need and she needs 5p (seems very cheap-I do wonder if she's got price right) so ahs been told to sort her bag out.

KxMx

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

Someone came back to the office this afternoon after a couple of hours out to find 14 missed calls. On listening to the voicemail(s), she said "oh dear, I've locked my daughter out and she needs to get to work." "Really? How did you lock her out?" "Well, actually she went out without her keys."

Same problem, different perspective ...

Exactly- like my Auntie, she made up a packed lunch "for the girls" when they went to London.

How old you say?

Her 28 DD and 18 year old friend :eek: I was horrified when I heard that. At my Aunty for doing it and my cousin letting her!

Now bless her my cousin is a bit behind but only a few years :eek:

On the question of Mum being expected to do everything, it is a very old fashioned notion but still popular because so many women allow themselves to be treated as doormats! Those women in turn raise sons to expect to be waited on hand and foot and daughters to do the work. Like all the tv ads that show Mum serving OH and kids at the table- who are all sitting with empty plates and expectant faces waiting for her to dish out the food to them. Yet they all have 2 arms, 2 legs and brains!! Maybe I misunderstand and it's actually the slave serving the food to her masters :rotfl:

msb5262

Just wondering - how's it going so far, Spendless? Have your family realised there has been a regime change?

victory

Spendless wrote: »

victory- I meant to ask you. How are you getting on with the electrical apliances being left on? I have got fab results so far from the idea of making them go back and re-do, whatever they are left. Plenty of whinging and whining yesterday, barely a mistake today and it was a reply on your thread that gave me the idea.

This morning was thankfully a lot smoother. Very helpful since DH went back to bed ill, he's had a persistent cough for weeks, finally made a Drs appt on friday got a perscription -which was still in his car!! DD is very excited about her breakfast club tomorrow as they are selling buns for children in need and she needs 5p (seems very cheap-I do wonder if she's got price right) so ahs been told to sort her bag out.

They are doing ok with it, I reckon it is also me, it used to send me crazy and lots of shouting went on so they don't like that, especially little one and he now knows if he is not in the room turn it off:D I spoke to them about the elec going up and less presents for xmas etc and they seemed to have got it, the only last one thing left is eldest will keep leaving his stereo on, the light, xbox and tv off, stereo on, can't win them all, he knows stereo is very soon to be confiscated that would make him:mad: and you would be able to hear all the :eek::eek: from where you are:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Spendless

msb5262 wrote: »

Just wondering - how's it going so far, Spendless? Have your family realised there has been a regime change?

Yes, though it's still work in progress, but they have been improved about turning things off - and DS picked me up on having left the oven on after serving up tea.

The house still isn't there with total organisation. I was far too tired to do anything at all last night (probably after the manic weekend we had) and have done a small bit tonight- but also took the opportunity to call on a friends tonight for a cuppa -have just got in -doing what another poster suggested and putting in something for me.

DD remembered to pack her school bag and money for her 'children in need' bun, but forgot to take her packed PE kit with her (rolls eyes!!) however we can take it tomorrow and ensure it's at school for later in the week.

DS did his history homework but then couldn't find his exercise book. I told him to look in the the drawer that his schoolwork goes into. He told me it wasn't there. So, he sets off to school under the conclusion that teacher must have it. only to be back 20 minutes later having been informed by one of his classmates at the bus-stop that teacher doesn't have it. I remind him of his drawer, and sure enough there is the book underneath the top piece of paper. As my boss put it when I told the story to her, 'he opened the drawer and cos it didn't magically jump into his hand it wasn't there'. This is an area that we do struggle with as DS can never remember if teacher has taken in his book or not. I have suggested he marks in his planner with a 'T' for teacher has it, he says he hasn't time, as he has to get to next class and they get detention for being late. Any suggestions are welcome.

On more positive news, DS has been selected to go to an after school club in a subject he excels in. It would only be every other month but does have the potential to throw up the problem I touched on before where I need to be in 2 places at once thru-out the winter months. However DD has expressed an interest in going to her wrap-around care occassionally after school, so that's what I'm going to look into as it would possibly help me out.

Spendless

So - did one of you send someone round to masquerade as my son? He is currently loading the dishwasher, has promised me a foot massage and has asked if he can iron :huh: He said 'look what I can do for you -if you let me stay up 1/2 an hour longer. :rotfl:

Savvy_Sue

Spendless wrote: »

So - did one of you send someone round to masquerade as my son? He is currently loading the dishwasher, has promised me a foot massage and has asked if he can iron :huh: He said 'look what I can do for you -if you let me stay up 1/2 an hour longer. :rotfl:

:rotfl: when mine were still not as tall as me, whenever they wanted to stay up late (or not go to bed), I used to say that would be fine, they could stay up and I'd go to bed, but if they were staying up they'd have to .... do another load of washing, wash up, get tea ready for the next day etc.

Sent them up like a dream!