Just received this - please help

Plans_all_plans

It doesn't matter whose name is on the mortgage, as you were married and were the main childcarer you'll have rights to stay in the house. Go to see a solicitor to find out for definite.

flutterby_lil

newcook wrote: »

Ok Im confused – am I right in thinking that you are separated and you have had a note from someone to say that their wife is having an affair with the man you are separated from?!

yes, that is what I read.

flutterby_lil

Awww poor you OP, I really feel for you. So it is obviously out in their house then, maybe she has told her husband and he is so upset thathe thought he would grass your hsuband up. Revenge is sweet and all that.

I agree with the emailing, might be easier for you both, then at least you have evidence in front of you rather than just a phone conversation.

Good luck, thinking of you.x

vintagebrighton

I'm so sorry OP. Even if you were separated it's not a nice thing to happen..... you must be gutted and hurt. Hope you and the kids get through this. x

Doorstep_horror

From what I can gather it's been common knowledge in the other house for a while and when the other injured party found out there were kids involved wanted to do all he could to help me!!!

princessdreamer

You need time to think, I would lock the doors with the keys in so ex can't get in and see what happens. If you have decided its over put his stuff on the doorstep and get legal advice.

19lottie82

Thye're planning on buying a house together? As long as he fulfills his financial obligations to HIS and your children first.

OP, he's taking the mic by doing this behind your back, when even though you are "separated" you are still technically living as common law.

Stay calm, but tell him he has to leave and take him for all you can get. You and your kids come first now. x

victory

So has it ended then? Is that why the note was put through the door/

djdido2

Can't really comment as I have no experience of this but must have been a bombshell despite those on here thinking that you should be able to get on with it because you were separated anyway (rolls eyes), sending hugs, be strong. xxx

Doorstep_horror

He's away until tomorrow, and most of next week, so I have time to think, as far as he's aware I know nothing of what's been going on.

My head is still in the shed, not really sure how I'm going to handle it, but one things for sure he's not going to get away with it again.

Things will get nasty but I have to think of my little ones and do what's right for them.