Just received this - please help

MrMoo123

Lotus-eater wrote: »

It doesn't sound anything like a hoax, he's going to send proof through to her email. What more do you need?

The proof itself. He hasn't sent it yet... or was you being sarcastic?

Lotus-eater

MrMoo123 wrote: »

The proof itself. He hasn't sent it yet... or was you being sarcastic?

Not being sarcastic at all. If he sends the proof then it's real, if he doesn't then it's probably not.
It's no great brain teaser.

moneypuddle

Eugh I really feel for you. I've received a similar text before saying my ex-partner was expecting a baby with someone else and it was absolutely terrifying and I felt physically sick. You will get through it. Wishing you the best of luck.

moneypuddle

Just to add - he was expecting a baby with her. It wasn't come kind of wind up. So in that case it was true

But I have also been on the other side of it - where someone has accused me of having an affair with their boyfriend and it was 100% not true. So people can get things wrong, but thats seems to be a rarity.

Gawd I sound like I belong on Jeremy Kyle.

Good luck hun in sorting this out. You can do a million times better!

piglet74

sorewinner wrote: »

Much like a hoax, to be quite honest

i dont think its a hoax at all, but i hope i am wrong

Desperado99

My main concern is that you don't know how acrimonious things are in the other marriage, and the other bloke may be out to cause as much hurt as possible. So although the information is important to you, I would take anything that isn't 100% proven with a pinch of salt.

CH27

See a solicitor ASAP.
Copy all relevant documents & hide them.
Squirrel away as much cash as you can in case you need to get out.

System

Please be sure before you wade in here.... the man COULD be lying or his wife could have plucked a name from somewhere (other employee where your OH works?) , setting your OH up for his own reasons, or have some proof of a 'text relationship' which hasn't actually happened 'in person' as such.

I'm reminded of the woman who phoned my mother to say she was having an affair with mum's husband...who had been dead 20 odd years!

I'd be back on that phone straight away and stay there till I got an answer!

merlot123

The man who sent you the note is also a victim, he could be hurting and wants you to hurt too.

Be on your guard, make sure you have all the evidence you need and do some detective work yourself, the man may have some of it wrong.

Could you access your OH online mobile phone bill? It would be a good place to start.

Get a solicitors appointment, and take copies of the documentation the other posters have mentioned. You must try and be one step ahead of your OH, difficult if you are upset and hurting, you have the little ones and yourself to think of.

donnap83

There's some fantastic advice on here. Well done guys!! x