huge row with husband over leaving wedding early

thegirlintheattic · 9 October 2011 at 2:58PM

victory wrote: »

Sorry, what I mean is that the headache if genuine would have disappeared today rather than the attention seeking because she got what she wanted but now has even bigger headache because she effectively ruined her OH best man wedding and he feels bad and making her feel bad.... it could have been avoided.

I've had headaches that have lasted more than a day.

victory · 9 October 2011 at 2:58PM

flutterby_lil wrote: »

Wow this has certainly got everyone talking!!

Yes but only in the round and round in circles sense with the what if the headache was not treatable with a paracetemol and was a migrane that is worse than a headache and has more pain or more than a migrane with back neck joint pain thrown in?:D

The fact is the op had pain , I fully understand that but not life threatening oh my god I can't cope call an ambulance pain oh no just headache pain that could have been put up with a bit longer so that her OH could have stayed doing his duty and enjoying the day he had put so much preparation into, seeing his best friend getting married and being for him there would have been the culmination of months/years so to have a headache and insist to go home is more than inconvenient, it is rude and unnecesary drama involving people that did not need to be involved and this would have been remembered as a perfect/day evening rather than a spoil towards the end:D

victory · 9 October 2011 at 3:02PM

thegirlintheattic wrote: »

I've had headaches that have lasted more than a day.

True, i get that and back pain that I pulled with the gardening, no one can see the headache pain, or the back pain or the muscle pulled all of that I get, if you are in pain though go home, taking no one with you, go and lie down, go and rest and recuperate and let everyone else who has made a humungus effort to attend/pay for/organize get on with it.

A headache needs rest, rest it, no one else had one all they had was laughter and pleasure and fun happiness to be there, don't involve all those and drama it down to they have to leave also.

Sure I have been in pain loads of it constantly with the RA but would never leave an important day and if I had to would go alone and my OH could stay for as long as he was needed.

balletshoes · 9 October 2011 at 3:04PM

worried_jim wrote: »

If I was the best man and I went early I would consider that a poor show and agree that your husband was "obliged" to stay to the end.
I wonder how it would have looked if the role was reversed and you had been a bridesmaid at your friends wedding and at 1am he said that he wanted to go home whilst you were still dancing to "I will survive" barefoot with a load of drunken women with their bingo wings out.
However, he could have handled it a bit better and I expect the alcohol didn't help. I hope you make it up.

I doubt, if I were that bridesmaid, that I would have noticed in that circumstance that my OH had gone home :rotfl:! I honestly wouldn't mind, if I were the one who was part of the wedding party, if my OH had wanted to go home at 1am - I would have said "take care, get some sleep, see you when the wedding is finished".

victory · 9 October 2011 at 3:06PM

balletshoes wrote: »

I doubt, if I were that bridesmaid, that I would have noticed in that circumstance that my OH had gone home :rotfl:! I honestly wouldn't mind, if I were the one who was part of the wedding party, if my OH had wanted to go home at 1am - I would have said "take care, get some sleep, see you when the wedding is finished".

Absolutely agree, sure it might be the norm to arrive together and leave together but sometimes that is not always possible so that means nothing, it just means one is tired/has a headache etc and will see them later, no drama:D

spicyprawn · 9 October 2011 at 3:06PM

As this is happening abroad, my dh would have taken me back to the hotel made sure I was safe and then returned to the wedding if that was what he wanted to do. He would not allow nor would I want to be on my own somewhere we don't know.

victory · 9 October 2011 at 3:09PM

It would not have been the ideal solution by any stretch of the imagination but it just came to me when we went to a wedding there was a coat/changing room/leave your valuables room and that could have been used for a sit down as it had chairs/sofas was away from the hall so the noise of the music would not have been so intense, was warm and safe, was there not a room like that the OP could have gone to away from the wedding and just sat for a bit?

Souk08 · 9 October 2011 at 3:47PM

worried_jim wrote: »

I wonder how it would have looked if the role was reversed and you had been a bridesmaid at your friends wedding and at 1am he said that he wanted to go home whilst you were still dancing to "I will survive" barefoot with a load of drunken women with their bingo wings out.
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Jim, thank you so much for this. Im hungover and feeling a bit low and this has made me howl. :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Torry_Quine · 9 October 2011 at 4:03PM

When I saw it said leaving early I thought mid evening not 1am, I've never been to a wedding that finished that late. I can say without a shadow of doubt that if I said to my husband I felt unwell and needed to go he would take me home and wuldn't think twice as I would be his first priority.