huge row with husband over leaving wedding early

JBD

Wow what a load of over reactions. Being a best man [or a bridesmaid]isn't actually a job, therefore there are no duties. And no one is obligated to stay to the end either.
My parents left my evening do at 9 pm, because my Dad found loud music uncomfortable. I didn't expect him, or anyone else, to 'suck it up'. It didn't spoil my day.
People really do talk a lot of !!!!!!!! about weddings.

Errata

JBD wrote: »

Wow what a load of over reactions. Being a best man [or a bridesmaid]isn't actually a job, therefore there are no duties. And no one is obligated to stay to the end either.
My parents left my evening do at 9 pm, because my Dad found loud music uncomfortable. I didn't expect him, or anyone else, to 'suck it up'. It didn't spoil my day.
People really do talk a lot of !!!!!!!! about weddings.

Indeed they do

vharbourne

Person_one wrote: »

The old 'dutiful wife' routine eh?

I expect the best man to make a speech, then to relax and enjoy himself. I have absolutely no expectations of the best man's partner.

At the last wedding I went to, the best man's wife (the groom's sister in law) was more than 9 months pregnant and in fact gave birth a couple of days after. Should she have stayed to the bitter end to support her husband?

(By the way, I've no idea if she did stay to the end because I'm a normal person and paid absolutely zero attention to whether she was being wifely enough!)

Lol I have been to 2 weddings when my husband was best man first one I was heavily pregnant, we had a room at the hotel and when iwas tired I thanked the bride and groom and explained i was tired and told my husband and went to the room to relax. My husband came to check on me but he left and stayed till the end as I expected him to.

The second one I had a 3 year old and a 1 year old and again we had a room at the hotel. I stayed till 7 till the baby was tired left the 3 year old with my husband to play some more ( get tired) fed and dressed baby for bed and got her to sleep, took her back in her pushchair ( she sleeps through anything) waited till the 3 year old was tired. Said thank you to bride and groom. Husband helped me take children to room, I got them both to sleep and he stayed till the end.

There was also his brothers wedding which he wasn't best man. I had a 2 year old and was pregnant and we did the same as above. I am not one for late nights anyway but am happy for him to stay and me to go to bed. I would hope he would do the same or we could have someone babysit if the wedding was more important to me than him!

FBaby

If I was getting married (never know, might happen in a few years ), I would feel dreadful if I thought anyone was staying feeling miserable because they felt obliged to stay until the end. Everyone is different, some are used to staying up late, some are not, some can drink and act obnoxious for hours, some choose not to drink and get very tired of listening to the obnoxious drunks. Some will be able to stay in bed to recover until 3 in the afternoon, some will be up at 6am because they have no choice. Some will have had all day to get prepared, some will have rushed from a job. OP was 'only' the best man's wife, nothing important. She didn't force her partner to go, she wanted to go alone.

Birdy12

athina wrote: »

and to top it off, the hotel phone rang at 7.30am and woke us both up.

Do you reckon this tipped them both over the edge? Do you think next time we hear from Athina it will be a new thread with the title 'how do I gain a quick divorce for unreasonable behaviour?'

It's just that we haven't heard from OP since her first post...

Birdy12

worried_jim wrote: »

Souk08 wrote: »

No disrespect ladies, but us blokes are just standing around waiting for an excuse to go home but dare'nt mention anything for fear of upsetting you/ruining the evening etc, and we are all feeling pretty horny 'cos the brides sister is looking very dirty and we all want to get you back to the hotel to do all those bad things to you, in our minds, but in reality we know deep down that one of two things is likely to happen, by the time you come out the bathroom we will be passed out snoring (too many Sambucas with big Dave, the Groom's younger brother) or your never ending headache will have returned and we aren't even allowed to "touch" you as you roll over and turn your back towards us.

worried jim! So naughty...yet so funny!

Keep 'em coming

arbroath_lass

Errata wrote: »

On a serious note (lots of boos and hissing from the gallery)

- the best man has many responsibilities, one of which is to stay to the end of the reception to ensure all guests have transport, gathers up any belongings left behind, tells the venue manager where the pools of vomit are, if any. The best man's partner's responsibility is to support him right through to the bitter end, even though her shoes are crippling her, the grippa knickers were a very bad mistake and she hated the music. She remembers the day is most definitely not about her and her problems, unless she's caught him groping with intent the chief bridesmaid.

Really? I've NEVER heard that before. Surely the guests are all adult enough to organise their own transport, belongings and admit to where they've been sick (really? eugh). I'm beginning to think your all mad if you really believe the Best Man should do this. I'd be disgusted at the thought someone at my wedding was so drunk they couldn't ask the bar staff to call them a taxi.

The Best Man's responsibility is to make sure the Groom gets to the wedding. If he's lucky between them all they'll remember the button holes, rings and how to tie a tie :rotfl:. It would be nice if he could make a nice speech and dance properly with the chief bridesmaid.

Teenie_D

worried_jim wrote: »

Thank you! I did mean it as totally tongue in cheek, speaking from experience. I've been at these wedding were my GF has ran screaming onto the dance floor as soon as "Dancing Queen" starts up whilst I've been stood at the bar (drunkenly) cracking Mick Hucknell ginger jokes with a load of other fed up husbands/partners at 2am. No disrespect ladies, but us blokes are just standing around waiting for an excuse to go home but dare'nt mention anything for fear of upsetting you/ruining the evening etc, and we are all feeling pretty horny 'cos the brides sister is looking very dirty and we all want to get you back to the hotel to do all those bad things to you, in our minds, but in reality we know deep down that one of two things is likely to happen, by the time you come out the bathroom we will be passed out snoring (too many Sambucas with big Dave, the Groom's younger brother) or your never ending headache will have returned and we aren't even allowed to "touch" you as you roll over and turn your back towards us.

I love a wedding.

Think you missed out a 3rd thing which [STRIKE]could[/STRIKE] probably will happen, the bloke feels dead horny but having drunk all those sambucas, can't erm deliver the goods :D

Errata

Really? I've NEVER heard that before

It's on all the wedding sites, wedding planning sites and millions of google sites.

Person_one

Errata wrote: »

It's on all the wedding sites, wedding planning sites and millions of google sites.

Wedding sites and so on exist to get people all over excited and over invested in weddings so that they'll take them far too seriously and spend silly amounts of money.