huge row with husband over leaving wedding early

arbroath_lass

Errata wrote: »

No law? Good grief, thanks for telling me.
If there is a best man, there are rules of etiquette which define his role. The fact that many don't bother with them doesn't mean they don't exist.

Etiquette? Letting poor employees know where there is vomit to clean up? :rotfl:

I can assure you this "etiquette" is a very recent invention. It certainly was not the case when I married 20 years ago. And yes, at the time, I bought the magazines and read up on what everyone was supposed to do.

On another note it was suggested that the actual role of the best man was to marry the bride if the groom did not turn up. Which I suppose is why he is so keen to get the groom to the wedding.

athina_2

Lol, I can't believe this is four pages! Sorry we have been travelling all day. Yes oh is Greek and so was the groom. The bride was from eastern Europe and not many English speakers at the wedding. Not sure if it's a cultural thing since the grooms brother wanted to keeping wife there until the end as well even though she looked miserable for the whole evening.

We haven't said much to each other but he did hold my hand at the table At lunch so I think we've brushed it under the carpet for now.

The bride and groom got back at half three. There is no way I would have lasted that long so I don't think I did anything wrong in coming back when I did. However the groom is having his second wedding in Greece sometime next year where my oh will be best man again so will take the advice of some posters here and suck it up next time.

balletshoes

at least next time you can go a bit prepared ie sleep all day until the wedding, take earplugs and paracetamol, and Red Bull to keep you awake !

claire16c

I find this whole thing weird. If you DH can get in such a mood about something like this and actually carry it over til the next day, I dread to think what hed be like if something bad actually happened!

I feel bad for you that he acted this way. Sure he should stay to the end as hes the best man (although to be honest 3.30am is pushing it), but saying 'no' to you leaving if you are not feeling well is not nice and I would be wanting an apology if I was you. But then my DH would be nice to me if I was not feeling well!

neverdespairgirl

poet123 wrote: »

My take on this is that it is a one off family event and sometimes you do have to just get on with it and not be a whinger. Being tired is such a pathetic excuse for a one off event, seriously, who couldn't (if they really wanted to) grin and bear it for such an event? Regular social functions during a normal working week are entirely different to a long awaited family event abroad.

I agree with you about one-off events being different, but at 1am, I see no shame in bailing out (quietly).

neverdespairgirl

spicyprawn wrote: »

As this is happening abroad, my dh would have taken me back to the hotel made sure I was safe and then returned to the wedding if that was what he wanted to do. He would not allow nor would I want to be on my own somewhere we don't know.

Blimey. At 18 and 19 I was travelling and living alone in places I didn't know!

neverdespairgirl

RuthnJasper wrote: »

("Bingo wings out" - )

xx

What are bingo wings?

neverdespairgirl

arbroath_lass wrote: »

I'm intrigued as to what sort of duties a best man has at 1am. I will admit it's a long time since I've been to a wedding but surely his duties end after the first dance with the chief bridesmaid?

Depends on the wedding, I suppose. At the one in Istanbul where my OH was best man in July, he had various legal obligations (as a witness, including submitting his passport to prove he existed to the registrar's satisfaction) and getting the guests on to the boat back to the main part of the city.

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Hi,

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

What are bingo wings?

eh, upper arm flab,

worried_jim

House! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: