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tomstickland

if a guy can't be bothered to send a decent message then I don't think he's worth it. Am i being too picky??

Maybe. If the reply ratio to messages that have taken time to write is low then they'll figure that they might as well cut and paste some inane messages and see what comes back.

chirpchirp

Luella-14 wrote: »

My only issue with it is that you live down South! The spreadsheet joke worked for me, as does the humour throughout the text. However I'm an accountant too so maybe we're just both a little sad...! Maybe rejigging your interests so that football doesn't come up first? I'm all for sports but imagine it migth be a little off putting for some girls.

or maybe you're the one, what's a bit of distance?

Chris_3003

chirpchirp wrote: »

or maybe you're the one, what's a bit of distance?

:hello: who knows?

benb76

mondello wrote: »

So I've been back on POF since begining of January and I've had 6 dates which I suppose is not bad going but none of them felt right. I've just made my profile searchable after about a month of being hidden and not logging in and tbh there's not many decent men around atm. I'm so fed up of mesages that say 'wanna chat' or 'hi, howz u'. I delete these straight away, if a guy can't be bothered to send a decent message then I don't think he's worth it. Am i being too picky??

I think that this approach IS being a bit picky. The short initial message is the on line equivalent to giving a cheeky smile or wink across a bar. If you liked the way the man looked and were to respond positively then chances are that he would come over for a proper chat, or in the case of online dating, send you a decent message.

For what it's worth I received plenty of messages when I was on POF, and about 7/10 were short and just showing initial interest.

Good luck :-)

lou--b

Hey everyone, time for another update...My profile is now down!!!
Forth date went great. Plans changed a bit due to family circumstances here but he was fine about coming over and watching a dvd with a take away. We get on great, never stop talking and when we do its totally comfortable.
We had a wee chat on Sat and both agreed that we're now exclusive, no dating other people or keeping our options open! Eeek!!! Does that mean Im now in a grown up relationship lol.
Still not taken it to the next level, and that is kinda freaking me out...been single a loooong time!
Does he do it for me physically, yes! Can I imagine getting down and dirty with him, yes! Am I scared stiff of messing up, yes!
He is more than willing to take things at my pace though which is rare these days, he wants to prove hes not just after one thing.
Im actually grinning away to myself as I type this lol. Ive got a boyfriend!!!! Eeek
Lou x

VfM4meplse

Well done you, lou--b!

Do be careful and take it slowly, know your worth and make him wait a bit before you get down to business with him - 90 days is usually enough to drive them bonkers! I seem to recall a thread on which the OP was gutted, she'd agreed to go exclusive with some guy that she trusted and then saw him back on the website on which they'd met. I don't think it's this thread, sorry can't find it atm but will keep trying.

ETA: Found it here

lou--b

VfM4meplse wrote: »

Well done you, lou--b!

Do be careful and take it slowly, know your worth and make him wait a bit before you get down to business with him - 90 days is usually enough to drive them bonkers! I seem to recall a thread on which the OP was gutted, she'd agreed to go exclusive with some guy that she trusted and then saw him back on the website on which they'd met. I don't think it's this thread, sorry can't find it atm but will keep trying.

ETA: Found it here

I intend taking it slowly!! But 90days...really lol.
Would I be stupid enough to say I trust him...no...I dont really know him. Trust, as they say is earned, but there is a certain amount involved when you agree to meet someone off a dating site.
I'm not the type of person to fall in love instantly and always keep my wits about me where men are concerned. Sounds harsh, maybe, but thats me. But, I am willing to give him a try. So far he's doing everything right. The true test will come this weekend when I introduce him to my best (male) friend. I'm more than certain that they will get on though, they are very similar in personality.

I read the thread you highlighted. Wow, that was heavy! I think I can safely say that I am soo unlike the Op on that one. Friends describe me as "fiercely independent" so no chance Im gonna end up crying over a guy after 3 months.
Hope I dont live to regret saying that lol.

Lou x

LisaB85

Chris_3003 wrote: »

Oh and Lisa, how local is local?

Well you ignored me on there so now you will never know, another with a huge shopping list or ego?

Update for everyone else -

I have had 1 date since rejoining (well 3 dates with 1 man) but he still hasn't made a move but has been flirting a lot so I assume he is a little shy, if not he is playing games. Either way I like his company when I get it so happy to see what happens if he loses out to someone else (yeah right lol) it is tough as I learnt a long time ago not to wait round for anyone.

There is another guy we have never met but have chatted online for over a year now, lives in the same county but very rural and I'm rural too but the other side of the county with no car, he opened up to me and basically told me he likes me but is worried as I have no car and there are weeks of the year where he works 7 days 80 hours and won't be able to see me, not an issue for me but it is for him. I have told him I do like him but again I will not be waiting round because he is scared of getting hurt as we have all be hurt and it is just a big of a risk for me.

So 2 possibilities and neither going anywhere fast :rotfl:

Guy I was seeing earlier this year said he hasn't met anyone as he loves me.....he is not getting me back.

Anyway sorry for babbling girls I'm in a rush, off out to ride.

That is another issue, this summer is full of dressage and jumping competitions so not sure I have time or can be bothered with the BS of dating.

girlybags

VfM4meplse wrote: »

Well done you, lou--b!

Do be careful and take it slowly, know your worth and make him wait a bit before you get down to business with him - 90 days is usually enough to drive them bonkers! I seem to recall a thread on which the OP was gutted, she'd agreed to go exclusive with some guy that she trusted and then saw him back on the website on which they'd met. I don't think it's this thread, sorry can't find it atm but will keep trying.

ETA: Found it here

90 days, that would drive ME bonkers!!

benb76

Why on earth would you wait 90 days? Sex is fun, enjoy it and don't withhold because you think that a man will think any less of you. He won't, in, fact not having sex for this long may make him think about the long term potential and implications of a sexless relationship!