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lou--b

samuelthomson240 wrote: »

hi please tell me what should i say when contacting someone through pof. thanks for your advice john

Hi Jonh,

My advice and Im sure others on here will agree, read their profile and take your opening line from that. Dont just start with Hi, I dont even bother reading those anymore.
Take my profile for example, I say Im terrified of spiders (and pigeons but will explain that later)
However I dont mention pigeons again, thus giving an opening line for a message.
You say your scared of pigeons...why??
Or...Pigeons, really...do tell??
The guy Im dating now (three dates and a fourth arranged!) opened with
I would like to volunteer my services as your spider catcher even though Im terrified of them myself!
This caught my attention!!
Hope this helps
Good luck

Lou x

Butterfliesarepretty

Well Ive not had any more dates, joined smooch again and keep getting 26yr olds contacting me, even when it says in my profile no younger men.

Really gets my goat that does.

I dont pay as much attention these days to the dating sites. They see the same old faces and Im one of them.

Februarycat

VfM4meplse wrote: »

I'd second that. I had an email message from someone entirely unsuitable who said they were new to London (the UK in fact) and looking for new friends, so recommended it. Was met with the stroppy answer "no I want friends for dating".

I don't know if anyone saw "The Undateables" on C4 on Tuesday evening? Is it just me who thought that the chap with Apserger's had unreasonable expectations? I thought the French lady was quite charming yet he was quick to brush her off.

As for the girl in the wheelchair, I thought her date was lovely too, but she showed zero enthusiasm except when she wanted to tell him that she didn't want to see him again after the date. Why are people so quick to dismiss others when they could so easily be friends? Not every date needs to lead to a relationship, but you can never have enough friends IMO.

I watched The Undateable too, I thought the girl in the wheelchair was a bit miserable on her date, he seemed like a lovely bloke and very upbeat and friendly, but she hardly smiled at him. Like you say he would have been a good friend for her.

LisaB85

Februarycat wrote: »

I watched The Undateable too, I thought the girl in the wheelchair was a bit miserable on her date, he seemed like a lovely bloke and very upbeat and friendly, but she hardly smiled at him. Like you say he would have been a good friend for her.

She seemed like a right miserable cow and came across quite rude, I don't think her disability is the reason she is undateable also found her extremely demanding regarding height etc when in reality she should be well aware that people should be accepted for who they are not their physical appearance and not wanting to date someone with a disability? imagine how she would kick off if someone didn't want her due to her disability.

I'm glad 'Luke?' the guy with tourettes found someone she was so pretty and looked like such a nice person and he seemed like a really nice guy.

Chris_3003

Hello again,

I'm thinking I need to re-jig my profile again, it's all gone quiet. I don't know which way to go, would anyone be kind enough to make some constructive criticism? This is how it is at the moment:
w w w.pof.c o m/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=35722028
(please remove extra spaces, I can't post link's yet)

Thanks

Frogletina

Chris_3003 wrote: »

Hello again,

I'm thinking I need to re-jig my profile again, it's all gone quiet. I don't know which way to go, would anyone be kind enough to make some constructive criticism? This is how it is at the moment:
w w w.pof.c o m/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=35722028
(please remove extra spaces, I can't post link's yet)

Thanks

Hi Chris

Just taken a look at your profile.

From a quick glance, I'd say to take out the reference to toilet seats - I don't want to think of a toilet when I am looking to date someone! (But remember to put the seat down if you ever get invited to her house, and never, ever forget to wash your hands - she'll be listening to hear the tap running)

Personally I like your reference to spreadsheets - but then I have a mug that says I love spreadsheets, so maybe I am biased. I'd keep that in. I like humour in a profile.

Your intent is to date but nothing serious. You say it's worth a shot - you might meet the girl of your dreams. Can you rewrite this so it looks as it meeting the girl of your dreams would be a nice bonus, not your primary reason for being on POF - as your stated intention is not going to attract girls who are looking for a relationship.

Finally, I wouldn't say it'd be rude not to send a message. Why not say,
'If you've gotten this far and want to know more, I'd love to hear from you'

frogletina

VfM4meplse

Chris_3003 wrote: »

Hello again,

I'm thinking I need to re-jig my profile again, it's all gone quiet. I don't know which way to go, would anyone be kind enough to make some constructive criticism? This is how it is at the moment:
w w w.pof.c o m/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=35722028
(please remove extra spaces, I can't post link's yet)

Thanks

Well you seem to have a SOH (I don't think the ref to toilets seats is a probem tbh) but you haven't really specified what you're looking for. Also is there something unusual about yourself that you can add? You just look completely normal. (Not NFN I hasten to add).

Luella-14_2

Chris_3003 wrote: »

Hello again,

I'm thinking I need to re-jig my profile again, it's all gone quiet. I don't know which way to go, would anyone be kind enough to make some constructive criticism? This is how it is at the moment:
w w w.pof.c o m/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=35722028
(please remove extra spaces, I can't post link's yet)

Thanks

My only issue with it is that you live down South! The spreadsheet joke worked for me, as does the humour throughout the text. However I'm an accountant too so maybe we're just both a little sad...! Maybe rejigging your interests so that football doesn't come up first? I'm all for sports but imagine it migth be a little off putting for some girls.

girlybags

Well mine's not going too well at the mo, I'm a bit confused! I asked if he wanted to do something this weekend and he said yes we'll sort something out... Well that was on Tues or Weds and he's not mentioned it since. He's been texting me every day so getting the impression he just wants someone to text and not actually meet I don't really want to bring it up again because I sorted the first meeting out so feel like it's all being left up to me... I did ask if he had any plans for the weekend yesterday thinking it would be a good opportunity for him to suggest something but still nothing! Ah well, it's a good job I like being single

bacardi66

girlybags wrote: »

Well mine's not going too well at the mo, I'm a bit confused! I asked if he wanted to do something this weekend and he said yes we'll sort something out... Well that was on Tues or Weds and he's not mentioned it since. He's been texting me every day so getting the impression he just wants someone to text and not actually meet I don't really want to bring it up again because I sorted the first meeting out so feel like it's all being left up to me... I did ask if he had any plans for the weekend yesterday thinking it would be a good opportunity for him to suggest something but still nothing! Ah well, it's a good job I like being single

It does seem odd, he must be interested in you because he texts so I can't understand why he doesn't want to meet. Perhaps you should just ask him outright what he actually wants.

Or just forget about him and move on there seem to be plenty of men internet dating who do actually want to meet up and have a proper relationship.