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_sleepless_

Chris_3003 wrote: »

Hello again,

I'm thinking I need to re-jig my profile again, it's all gone quiet. I don't know which way to go, would anyone be kind enough to make some constructive criticism? This is how it is at the moment:
w w w.pof.c o m/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=35722028
(please remove extra spaces, I can't post link's yet)

Thanks

Oooo, cute. Sometimes just editing your profile and making a few minor changes will put you back at the top of the get seen list.

You say: I'm still single

I don't like this bit this makes me think humm why is he still single? What isn't he telling me? Maybe something like.....Despite this i just haven't met the right girl for me yet

You say: You should probably send me a message, it would be rude not to

Why not challenge her to message you? If you like what you read and want to know more then send me a message, go on i dare you....and it would be nice for a girl to make the first move for a change

You say: I don't want to set this in stone

Sounds a tad negative & you only really give one suggestion. How about: Ice skating, bowling, crazy golf, a drink in a pub, I'm open to most things really as long as it gives us a chance to get to know each other better.

This would also make me think you have lots of ideas and even if you can't actually ice skate put this in too....i can't actually ice skate but i'm willing to give it a go...makes you seem more easy going and that it could be pretty fun watching you attempt to

There's no g in badminton and FINALLY Goodluck!

sleepless

LisaB85

Chris_3003 wrote: »

Hello again,

I'm thinking I need to re-jig my profile again, it's all gone quiet. I don't know which way to go, would anyone be kind enough to make some constructive criticism? This is how it is at the moment:
w w w.pof.c o m/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=35722028
(please remove extra spaces, I can't post link's yet)

Thanks

Looks fine to me, you're local too I'd mail you.

It does go quiet as you will find that those you would date have either already blown you out or you dated/chatted and things didn't go further and the rest aren't your type and you find yourself looking at the same old faces.

I rejoined after a break a few weeks ago and there are the same people who were there 2 years ago.

lara_412

girlybags wrote: »

Well mine's not going too well at the mo, I'm a bit confused! I asked if he wanted to do something this weekend and he said yes we'll sort something out... Well that was on Tues or Weds and he's not mentioned it since. He's been texting me every day so getting the impression he just wants someone to text and not actually meet I don't really want to bring it up again because I sorted the first meeting out so feel like it's all being left up to me... I did ask if he had any plans for the weekend yesterday thinking it would be a good opportunity for him to suggest something but still nothing! Ah well, it's a good job I like being single

I don't know if I'm too late in saying this but don't re-ask him. If he's interested, he'll bring up meeting again.

I would continue chatting to him, but don't become too attatched.

As for any updates from me - there are none. I've deleted my POF profile but still on OKCupid. I just found there was no one being that serious on POF, most of the men who contacted me were only after fun.

I did get chatting to one guy on OKCupid and we agreed we'd like to meet for a coffee to see if we clicked, but he then started being a bit odd through his texts?? I started to feel a little uncomfortable around him so I'm slowly reducing the amount of times I reply to his messages. I am going up to Scotland next week to visit some friends so he knows I can't meet him anytime soon. I don't know whether I should just tell him I don't want to meet or just slowly decrease the communication until he gets the hint?

The reason I'm being careful about this one is that he seems like he has a bit of a temper. That's why I am not wanting to meet him anymore. He found me on Facebook yesterday (must have searched my email) and tried to add me but I declined. I don't really want him knowing any personal information.

System

Still talking to the guy i've been talking to for ages...wanting to meet up but he's still skint (hasn't started his apprenticeship yet so hasn't been paid...i did suggest me visiting him but he said it wouldnt be fair for me to pay for everything)...will see what happens when he gets paid..hmm

But i've also started messaging and talking to a few other people so my options are still very firmly open!

Frogletina

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

Still talking to the guy i've been talking to for ages...wanting to meet up but he's still skint (hasn't started his apprenticeship yet so hasn't been paid...i did suggest me visiting him but he said it wouldnt be fair for me to pay for everything)...will see what happens when he gets paid..hmm

But i've also started messaging and talking to a few other people so my options are still very firmly open!

I'm beginning to think that lack of money is very much in evident at the moment when it comes to dating

I met a guy on POF who says he would love to see more of me but it costs a lot to travel to see me. Which is true, but he changed his mind about me going to see him which I'd be happy to do, at least alternately.

A previous guy I met on another dating site before the above one is trying running his own business, and finding it difficult to make ends meet and lives even further away. I've visited him twice, but although we are friends still, and text each other now and again, I can't see us being anything more than friends. All is efforts are going to keeping his head above water.

And now someone else I've been messaging on POF for a couple of months just as friends is having financial problems.

How relationships can flourish in this climate I don't know. I am the last person to be materialistic, but if you don't have enough money to meet someone for a date, realistically what is the point of it all.

LisaB85

Frogletina wrote: »

How relationships can flourish in this climate I don't know. I am the last person to be materialistic, but if you don't have enough money to meet someone for a date, realistically what is the point of it all.

I find this a problem too, I'm currently unemployed and would cost me £6 just in bus fares to meet a date before anything else!

But I'm honest about my circumstances and if they suggest meeting I suggest something low key which may be putting men off when they find out I don't work but I have been lucky with those I have met both were high earners and understood my circumstances I didn't ask them to pay for things and was happy with low cost dates but they took me for dinner and weren't bothered and I saw both multiple times (one for 8 weeks)

I suppose if I met someone in my situation or similar then things would be more equal eg dates 1 drink and a walk etc.

girlybags

lara_412 wrote: »

I don't know if I'm too late in saying this but don't re-ask him. If he's interested, he'll bring up meeting again.

I would continue chatting to him, but don't become too attatched.

As for any updates from me - there are none. I've deleted my POF profile but still on OKCupid. I just found there was no one being that serious on POF, most of the men who contacted me were only after fun.

I did get chatting to one guy on OKCupid and we agreed we'd like to meet for a coffee to see if we clicked, but he then started being a bit odd through his texts?? I started to feel a little uncomfortable around him so I'm slowly reducing the amount of times I reply to his messages. I am going up to Scotland next week to visit some friends so he knows I can't meet him anytime soon. I don't know whether I should just tell him I don't want to meet or just slowly decrease the communication until he gets the hint?

The reason I'm being careful about this one is that he seems like he has a bit of a temper. That's why I am not wanting to meet him anymore. He found me on Facebook yesterday (must have searched my email) and tried to add me but I declined. I don't really want him knowing any personal information.

I'm not gonna mention it again, he knows I want to meet up again so if he wants to he'll have to bring it up himself. I quite like our text chats and am happy to carry on with that so we'll see if it leads to anything else...

As for your dilemma, I don't know what I'd do. If I thought he had a temper I'd be wary of saying I didn't want to meet in case it set him off :eek: Maybe decreasing text replies is the way to go with this one!

girlybags

LisaB85 wrote: »

I find this a problem too, I'm currently unemployed and would cost me £6 just in bus fares to meet a date before anything else!

But I'm honest about my circumstances and if they suggest meeting I suggest something low key which may be putting men off when they find out I don't work but I have been lucky with those I have met both were high earners and understood my circumstances I didn't ask them to pay for things and was happy with low cost dates but they took me for dinner and weren't bothered and I saw both multiple times (one for 8 weeks)

I suppose if I met someone in my situation or similar then things would be more equal eg dates 1 drink and a walk etc.

I'm an unemployed single parent so I totally get this. I just don't have much spare money so anything fancy is out of the question for me unless the bloke paid for everything and I'd never expect that unless he specifically said he'd pay upfront. I'd also be wary of letting someone pay at the beginning, I like to pay for myself and then nothing's expected afterwards!

LisaB85

girlybags wrote: »

I'm an unemployed single parent so I totally get this. I just don't have much spare money so anything fancy is out of the question for me unless the bloke paid for everything and I'd never expect that unless he specifically said he'd pay upfront. I'd also be wary of letting someone pay at the beginning, I like to pay for myself and then nothing's expected afterwards!

The last one it is only going to be friendship but he just pays for dinner and stuff although at least he let me buy him a drink but I agree some men will expect something if they pay but then some expect something if they don't pay I think it is a case of play it by ear and treat each man as an individual x

VfM4meplse

Why are men so short these days? And generallly inferior?

I'm ready to start dating again but it seems the market is threadbare.