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ShAnE

_sleepless_ wrote: »

ShAne 4th or 5th year of marriage? It was my understanding that there was NO sex in the 4th or 5th year fullstop. This is probably not the best thread to start a poll on the matter :doh:

That's because you're all sexed out by then, because you're all naughty and not waiting.

But by the 4th or 5th year of marriage, you should have a good idea and understanding of the person, so I think it would be safe by this time to bring up the idea of perhaps one day having sex.

Lisa - the problem with mobile technology is that POF can show you as always being logged in. Plus people can quickly check a message on their phone, but want to wait until they get home so they can sit down and respond properly.

lou--b

oooft, what have I started??
When I said he was willing to wait and take things slowly I meant, at MY pace. We all have our own opinions on how long that should be but personally I prefer to leave it to chance/circumstance.
If we go out, have a great night and come home feeling a bit amorous then it may well happen. If it doesnt, no big deal.
I have absolutely no intention of holding out just because "I can" it's not a power struggle. As I said, when it feels right it will happen.
Ive been down the "friends" road before though and just want to make sure that this time he's interested in all of me, not just bits of me lol.
We're going on another date tonight, who knows where it will lead?? What I do know is no matter where, Im enjoying his company, his banter and his cuddles! Oh and it does get pretty dark at the back of the cinema!!

LisaB...dont be so hard on Chris...I never reply to messages on pof unless Im sat at the pc, dont like typing out replies on the tiny keypad that is my phone, you never know, maybe horses are a secret passion of his too.
Wishing everyone luck, happy fishing
Lou x

LisaB85

runningwoman wrote: »

Anyone is entitled to reply or not reply - if I've had a first contact ignored then that's fine - I assume they aren't interested and move on. It's no big deal.

We all have an idea of the person we'd like to meet, and if I look and I know I'm probably not going to be interested in someone, I wouldn't reply to save everyone's time.

I'd expect anyone to do the same if they saw a message from me and my profile and thought "erm, NO" for whatever reason. It's just the way the dating site works, it doesn't make the person being ignored unattractive or the person not replying a bad person. Just because someone is saying they are single and haven't had many contacts it doesn't mean that they HAVE to then reply to everyone who contacts them - they're still allowed to have a personal choice on who they want to respond to.

I wasn't mailing as if I was interested I was mailing as he is local to me and asked how local so it was purely a 'Hello' putting a face to the name type of thing.

I get plenty of contact and don't reply to most BUT then I don't moan about lack of contact etc it seems very contradictory, if there is that little contact sometimes it is good just to have someone to talk to for 5 minutes I was bored at the weekend, someone mailed just to be polite, nothing in common etc but ended up having a chat for about 3 hours.

LisaB85

lou--b wrote: »

LisaB...dont be so hard on Chris...I never reply to messages on pof unless Im sat at the pc, dont like typing out replies on the tiny keypad that is my phone, you never know, maybe horses are a secret passion of his too.
Wishing everyone luck, happy fishing
Lou x

I'm hard on most men, have been too soft in the past hence why I'm not going to bother dating.

The horsey guy I've seen a few times is cool for company, even if he laughs at the drawings on drawsomething.

lou--b

LisaB85 wrote: »

I'm hard on most men, have been too soft in the past hence why I'm not going to bother dating.

The horsey guy I've seen a few times is cool for company, even if he laughs at the drawings on drawsomething.

You sounded just like me there lol. Only difference being that Im hard on ALL guys!!

Have to ask...drawsomething?? Whats that?? Am I being thick?

LisaB85

lou--b wrote: »

You sounded just like me there lol. Only difference being that Im hard on ALL guys!!

Have to ask...drawsomething?? Whats that?? Am I being thick?

Its an app for android and iphones, you're given a word eg ball and have to draw it and the person you're playing with needs to guess what it is and it gets quite hard.

springdreams

Hi all

After many weeks spent reading this thread, I finally bit the bullet and signed up for a dating site. I was going to go with POF as many of you have, but a friend suggested girlsdateforfree instead, as the guys pay and the girls don't (as the name says), so it is hoped that there would be less of the "lets met for some extramarital fun", or scammers, no hopers etc.

Well in the space of one week I have been proposed to (no other messages exchanged at all), invited to participate in some of the said extramarital fun by a father of 3, been contacted by a scammer (maxwell lingo - google search will reveal more about this one), been contacted by what I suspect could be another scammer - US soldier based in Afghanistan looking to meet English girls, and have received some sexually explicit messages. It has been a very entertaining week!

Thanks to this thread, I have taken this all with good humour, knowing that it is not me personally - and had in fact anticipated some of these responses, so knew about blocking etc.

LisaB85

springdreams wrote: »

Hi all

After many weeks spent reading this thread, I finally bitten the bullet and signed up for a dating site. I was going to go with POF as many of you have, but a friend suggested girlsdateforfree instead, as the guys pay and the girls don't (as the name says), so it is hoped that there would be less of the "lets met for some extramarital fun", or scammers, no hopers etc.

Well in the space of one week I have been proposed to (no other messages exchanged at all), invited to participate in some of the said extramarital fun by a father of 3, been contacted by a scammer (maxwell lingo - google search will reveal more about this one), been contacted by what I suspect could be another scammer - US soldier based in Afghanistan looking to meet English girls, and have received some sexually explicit messages. It has been a very entertaining week!

Thanks to this thread, I have taken this all with good humour, knowing that it is not me personally - and had in fact anticipated some of these responses, so knew about blocking etc.

Haha I joined Girls date for free a year or so ago, I'm 26 yet was being contacted by men in their 50's - 60's who thought nothing of trying to come onto someone more than half their age now I'm not sure if they were for real or were scammers.

However it is a site under the cupid plc group who also run cupid and mature dating so I'm not sure if they operate like white label dating do and use 1 database eg it is one site just different homepages.

White label dating site own kissinggates, uglybug ball, olive dating, plentymorefish and dozens more so you think you are signing up to a specialist site for people who like rock music for example but you're not you're joining a huge database of generic people.

If you join both kissing gates and ugly bug ball look at the homepages, exactly the same just different colours which is a give away.

I was caught out by WLD and paid £20 to join, I was being mailed by over 50's who thought they had found me on a dating site called over 50's dating and by men who thought they had found me on a site for classical music lovers when in fact I had joined a site I thought tailored to rural people, despite having so many homepages and a huge database most aren't even paid members.

So please check before joining or paying, check it is not White Label Dating (google them) or any other such group, check the reviews first.

springdreams

LisaB85 wrote: »

Haha I joined Girls date for free a year or so ago, I'm 26 yet was being contacted by men in their 50's - 60's who thought nothing of trying to come onto someone more than half their age now I'm not sure if they were for real or were scammers.

I think they are chancers, who seem to believe that when a girl signs up to a dating site she must be desperate, and will go out with anyone :cool: I love the block this person function

LisaB85

springdreams wrote: »

I think they are chancers, who seem to believe that when a girl signs up to a dating site she must be desperate, and will go out with anyone :cool: I love the block this person function

I'm not ageist but to be honest there are limits, depends on the man too but over 50 is not going to happen

Although ended up with a 49 year old, never asked his age and assumed he was late 30's he knew my age from FB so thought it was best to mention his age but by then I didn't care he looked a lot younger and we got on so tried a bit of experience but even with that I knew it would never be long term.