Hubby is an @*rse

Blossom24

elvis86 wrote: »

I'm sorry, but this from the 41-year-old woman who is posting anonymously on a moneysaving forum whining about her philandering husband, because she has nobody to discuss it with in real life..?:cool:

Erm - nope I do have people to talk to in real life, but sometimes you need strangers to talk things over with - isn't that what Relate do or The Samaritans?????

Oh and if you are ever in need of some anonymous people to talk to - which I assume that you are as you are on here - just think about what you have said

I don't think there's any need for ridiculing people who use Facebook. The OP's husband probably cheats because he's a selfish careless b*****d, or because he's not getting enough at home. Nothing to do with Facebook, and encouraging the OP to indulge in some misguided belief that Facebook is the biggest problem in her marriage won't help.

So are you the sort of person who posts a status each time she blows her nose?? Sounds like it to me - offence is the best defense as they say!!

Without Facebook, depending on how isolated the island is, her husband would probably be out b*****ing sheep if he was that desperate (maybe that explains his absence from tea at her parents'..?:D). Folk were cheating long before Facebook.

I use Facebook. My boyfriend uses Facebook. And we're both happy well-rounded individuals in a loving relationship. We can go to the local shop without the other cross-examining the receipts, and we both have lots of friends to turn to if ever we do encounter any troubles. Sad, did you say?;)

Heaven help them if they need someone to talk to - you sound like a very caring individual!

What goes around comes around goes as they say

victory

Blossom24 wrote: »

First off I want to thank everyone for their messages.

We had a real long talk last night - about 5 1/2 hours - knackered now as didn't get to sleep until after 2!

He had sent me a really long email explaining exactly what was going through his mind about everything and had put into it about some of the feelings that he had about how he felt let down by me, I said one thing then did something else etc etc

We talked, he shouted and then it got really bad (not violent or anything) just not nasty but I could see the anger in his eyes.

I know that I have said one thing then done something else on occasion, however, I then gave him both barrels about feelings and how did I feel about him saying that he wouldn't text her then carrying on (so saying one thing and doing something else) about how let down I felt about him when he started just after we got married etc etc - so every emotion that he was feeling about me now, I had felt about him.

he said that he had done a lot of things that he wasn't proud of in his youth (well that makes two of us) but that's the past.

He said that he wants us to be a team and work things out and go forwards and be more open with each other - I did ask him outright if he had any further direct contact with her by text/phone and he has said no (ok I think I know that as I have not seen anything to the contrary and he is really not great about thinking about deleting history ha ha) and ok whilst I have seen a FB message to her, it was more of a friendly nature and nothing more.

I want to believe him and am going to see what happens. I did sort of speak to my parents on sunday, but they have said that I love him and it will be ok in the end!

Oh and he agreed with everything that I called him ie arrogant, selfish, self centred etc etc he said that if his own mother can call him that, then it must be true!

So, ok a soft touch here but I am just biding my time and seeing what pans out.

Thank you all once again for your support and thoughts, although I haven't booted him out, I really don't think he is up to something, but I am watchful!

I am really pleased for you it has got a lot better:D

*Louise*

Blossom - thanks for coming back to update us, so often people post and never come back to inform posters of the outcome.

I hope you guys sort things out and can make a fresh start from here on in

asandwhen

Blossom24 wrote: »

since then, he has disabled his email notifications to the email addy - which is suspicious in itself to me.
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Just to let you know if you mean that he is no longer receiving email notifications from facebook (eg when someone sends him a message) it could well be because facebook changed what they email a couple of weeks ago - they no longer send emails for every activity - will see if I can find you a link.

asandwhen

yes here it is http://brusimm.com/facebook-changes-another-user-email-policy/