Hubby is an @*rse

Bumpmakesfour

Blossom24 wrote: »

I don't think he is having an affair - one thing I should have said and sorry for not posting it, we live 600 miles from these women - so an "in person" meeting is not likely unless he suddenly decides that he wants to go and visit his mum for a few days (I am half expecting him to come out with that)xxx

Guess it depends how you look at it really.He may not be having an affair in the physical sense but taking pictures of your manhood,flirting on line..getting caught THEN doing it again is hardly being a faithful husband hun
What a difficult situation for you to be in...you must want to chop his bloomin bits off(that'd stop him taking anymore filthy pics the dirty git!!!) xx

LegalBlonde

I couldn't exactly follow it but leaving his parents in the lurch is his problem for his behaviour not yours.

Sally_A

On a crueller note - if you have access to the "pic" - photoshop it into a limp lettuce, and threaten to send to his work mates if you ever catch him again.;)

I appreciate this won't help at the moment, as you are all over the place, just bear this in mind for the future should you need it.

To stop him going on facebook or wherever, wait until he needs a toilet break or is in the shower, if he is logged in, change the password.

Tropez

Blossom24 wrote: »

I agree but disagree with you - yes, lonely hearts cols ran so that's nothing new, but the difference is with FB etc is that people post pics, so instead of wondering what your ex looks like etc, you can easily track them down and then the fantasy/reality comes that step closer - it is then possible that they become the focus of attention as it's not a random advert.

I hate FB - yes, I do have a profile, but may go on once a month - I think that I have only ever posted on it 5 times!!

But in some of the magazines of yesteryear people sent in pictures and encouraged correspondence.

Sure, you're not as likely to bump into your ex in such publications but Facebook is not responsible for people who use it to do such things. Furthermore, people generally remember what their ex's look like and in most adult relationships they'll remember what they look like naked at that.

I don't use Facebook for the simple reason that my friends have my phone number and email address. I don't need to find a bunch of folk from school I haven't spoken to in 10+ years to find out what they ate for breakfast, but nonetheless, if someone is inclined to cheat, or gets a dirty little thrill out of exchanging graphic images with others, Facebook is the least of the problem here.

Errata

Do a swap with his parents and let them live with him, then he can do what he likes when he likes and it won't trouble you.

Blossom24

Do you know the funny thing.....and this just shows how !!!!ed up I have been on and off, I called her once - I wanted to hear what she sounded like and boy - does she sound rough!

The thing with her is, I know that they are unfinished business - I knew that when he started talking about her the last time - he told me everything from the time they met to what happened etc etc etc - they have sort of been together twice and each time she has done the dirty on him - I think that is what grates on him and has done since then - it doesn't help me though

It just feels that everything in my life is falling apart - my daughter sometimes behaves like a spoilt brat, he is picking fault with how I treat her, he picks fault with me, he picks fault with our life (not doing anything etc) but I thought that work was my only constant thing - I then get told by my boss that there had been talk of getting in someone above me as I wasn't fulfilling the role that I should be doing - well, knocked for six is an under statement, however, my boss said that he was fighting my corner, because the reason why I wasn't fulfilling my potential is that I am self taught, have had no real support over the past years and my work load is crippling!

So, basically, with being over weight as well (although I have now joined a gym and not eating crap) my life felt like a pile of poo - I couldn't do anything right.

some may say that I am depressed - maybe I am, but I am determind not to let anything get to me - after the blow up re the weekend away, I said to hubby that I hate being so reliant on him (ie not wanting to lose him etc etc) so was going to get a F you attitude - which was working (up to a point) I just hate living in this atmosphere and walking on egg shells.

I am getting better living like this as I just ignore him too! lol

Blossom24

LegalBlonde wrote: »

I couldn't exactly follow it but leaving his parents in the lurch is his problem for his behaviour not yours.

Sorry - it's my parents that live in the wing

Lessbutbetter

Surely it is the "cowardly prats" that have something to answer for?

Long, long ago, before the Internet was widely available beyond its ARPANET origins, and ideas like Facebook had never been conceived, newspapers and magazines would run lonely heart columns where people could openly advertise for bits on the side.

It isn't the fault of Facebook or anybody else that some people behave the way that they do, nor has Facebook opened up floodgates of behaviour that would have never occurred in the past.

Damn, you make a good point.
I had a facebook profile for the best part of a year. I cancelled it as i had better things to waste time on, than noseying at other people trying to make their lives look more exciting than they really are.

On a crueller note - if you have access to the "pic" - photoshop it into a limp lettuce, and threaten to send to his work mates if you ever catch him again.

Blossom24 --if you need help with this then let me know as im a whizz on photoshop!! joke!

thepup

Oops, sorry.....saw the thread title and thought it was about me!!!!




























Sorry, just trying to keep a sense of humour.
Hope you resolve your problems.:)

Blossom24

Thank you all once again

I know how this all sounds and if I was reading it - I would be saying put up and shut up or pi$$ off - it's just not so easy to do in real life.

Sometimes, I just wish that he would hit me as then there would be no arguments etc - he would be straight out of the door! I know that it's not a nice thing to wish for as there are so many others who are experiencing that for real and would probably love to swap places with me as my experiences are trivial by comparison.

Oh poo - I am a 41 year old woman - get a grip!!!!!!!!!!!!!!