I don't know what to make over what my husband has just said...

VestanPance

I've always found the thought of people not learning to cook to be rather disturbing. How people can live of packet junk baffles me.

Gillyx

He doesn't because I cook and before me, his mum did. How depressing. I don't mind though, because he does loads of other stuff around the house

Lotus-eater

VestanPance wrote: »

I've always found the thought of people not learning to cook to be rather disturbing. How people can live of packet junk baffles me.

Welcome to modern life in the UK



As an aside. 12/14 overweight? No, I thought you meant like 18/20. It also depends on the body shape.

euronorris

VestanPance wrote: »

I'm a great cook (even if I do say so myself) and I try to use as few pots/utensils as possible!

Mind you I've also been called a freak for starting washing up while things are cooking, so that only the plates you've eaten from need washed after eating.

I do that too. Does that make me a freak? I thought it just meant that I don't want to have to face it after I've eaten my dinner and am feeling all relaxed.

Besides, if I didn't, I'd soon run out of worksurface in our tiny little kitchen.

Sorry, this is off topic (shutting up now!)

sabretoothtigger

Does sound like a control freak and putting someone down is a classic way to do that.
Whatever is troubling him I dont think its your behaviour, ideally he should speak to someone about whatever bothers him in life. Do not take any crap, it wont help

VestanPance

The OPs other half sounds like he needs help, or to refrain from relationships until he has overcome the trust issues he has. He looks to have some serious trust issues, which I'd bet come from being betrayed in the past either by the OP or a previous partner.

If he values the relationship with the OP he should seek counselling to resolve that. Along with that I think in order to avoid these conflicts of trust the OP needs to be more open about the 'treats' or any other things that could arise suspicion. Relationships require some manner of give and take, and while he may dislike the thought of a child being 'treated' to a McDonalds they should come to an understanding that it will happen and over how frequently it happens.

Maybe some sort of counseling or agreement over how to resolve disputes too. Talk over things like adults, not sulk in a room like a stroppy teenager. Sounds like as a couple you are struggling to communicate over problems, which is always going to provide some form of conflict.

dark_lady

Vestan Pance. The OPs partner wasnt very open about his debt was he? And then has the bare faced cheek to moan if she tells a little white lie about a Maccy D. An ex of mine was in debt and liked to use the word "WE" a lot when it came to paying it back even though i wasnt there for the spending which caused the debt in the first place. Saying things like "WE will have to tighten our belts" even though in my case we didnt even live together.
OP do you feel the need to tell small lies because you feel he is making you pay the price for his debts.
And to keep something this big from you and not tell you before the wedding well hes got a !!!!ing cheek.
In fact that alone smacks of control without even taking into account the other stuff youve mentioned.
What he did over not telling YOU the truth was a massive deception. I would be leaving him if it were me.