Do you consider yourself to be a good wife/husband/partner?

VestanPance

If being a good partner was based on housework I'd have been awesome, as I did most of it.

My ex was about the least tidy person on the planet though, while I'm a neat and tidy freak. I can only imagine her current home is like a post nuclear bomb-site covered in shoes and clothes with her wandering about in a rage trying to find her keys again!

pinkmami

We have a great relationhip. I took a break from work after baby 3 was born as it didn't make sense for me to go back to work & pay childcare. This arrangement suits us fine. he's the breadwinner & I sort out the kids & home, I cook, clean, play, paint, fix things (or get my dad over!!) I'm looking for evening work as I really don't want to go back (due to go in 12 months) to the job I was doing but many other women in my situation are doing the same. I could go back & work term-time which would be OK as I'd still be there to take the kids to school, bring them home etc etc.

So I think I'm a good wife & he's a good husband (apart from the DIY bit!). We have a little give & take. He hardly goes out with the lads & nor do I & never go out together. Things aren't easy when you have no sitters. But kids are getting older & its easier to go out for a meal as a family cos they behave better!

I know my position & he knows his & we know what we do. May sound old fashined but it works for us. Like it did back in the good old days!!!!

pelirocco

cazziebo wrote: »

Interesting use of words! The highlighted words suggest to me that you see this as your wife's responsibility, and you're doing her a favour. I believe household tasks should be shared, with each member of the household sharing responsibility , although they may take on designated tasks.

However, I'm certainly not one to criticise anyone because I struggle with this myself. I think some of our problem is that OH moved in with me, so he still thinks of this as "my" house and therefore he is "helping" me with "my" housework. It's become more evident now that my children have left home, and I'm also working away most weeks. When I am home, I do tend to do most of the cooking, cleaning etc but he does do all the ironing (so he can watch F1 or football in peace!) I do get a bit p**d off that even when I'm away Mon- Fri I still do the weekly shop, including his packed lunch stuff.

Will be interesting to see other replies

That surely depends on what other work you do?

If he is in full time work and his wife stays at home , then she should do the lions share of work in the home

andymg

VestanPance wrote: »

If being a good partner was based on housework I'd have been awesome, as I did most of it.

Don't think being a good partner is all about housework, I think a good part is also about supporting your partner through thick and thin.

Lirin

We both work full-time as well. What needs done will get done, maybe not immediately, but usually eventually.

I should amend my post- with me being pregnant, DH is actually doing the majority of stuff around the house at the moment, I mainly point out what needs done for now. But that's because he offered and I'm constantly tired/asleep! We do fully support eachother- I'll do something if he's working late, vice versa....

Never thought about gardening- just checked and the nettles must be around 6-7 foot. Wonder if DH would mind if I got a goat as a housepet?

Lotus-eater

make_me_wise wrote: »

The bit in bold needs a bit of tweaking me thinks!;)

Possibly.... or possibly I'm so good at other things, she forgives me for not being great at cleaning.


In my dreams that is! :rotfl: Why are women so god damn interested in how much cleaning their OH does? It's like, you want a masculine bloke, who turns you on and the minute you get him to live with you, all you want is for him to put a pinny on and do the dishes!

I don't get women, my OH says she has to have a cleanish house before she can relax to enjoy sex in bed.
I took that challenge.........and we haven't had sex in bed for 2 years lots of other places, just not bed.

victory

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Wickedkitten

Lotus-eater wrote: »

It's like, you want a masculine bloke, who turns you on and the minute you get him to live with you, all you want is for him to put a pinny on and do the dishes!

If he wanted to wash the dishes just wearing a pinny, that would be cool with me :whistle:

make_me_wise

Lotus-eater wrote: »

In my dreams that is! :rotfl: Why are women so god damn interested in how much cleaning their OH does? It's like, you want a masculine bloke, who turns you on and the minute you get him to live with you, all you want is for him to put a pinny on and do the dishes!

Dont wish to worry you mate, but trust me when a woman has a masculine bloke that turns her on, she doesn't care about them doing housework and how clean the old house is :whistle:

Any

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Possibly.... or possibly I'm so good at other things, she forgives me for not being great at cleaning.


In my dreams that is! :rotfl: Why are women so god damn interested in how much cleaning their OH does? It's like, you want a masculine bloke, who turns you on and the minute you get him to live with you, all you want is for him to put a pinny on and do the dishes!

I don't get women, my OH says she has to have a cleanish house before she can relax to enjoy sex in bed.
I took that challenge.........and we haven't had sex in bed for 2 years lots of other places, just not bed.

Pretty much like when men marry beatiful tall blonde with lascious hair and painted nails, size 8 and then expect her to know how to cook!!:rotfl::rotfl:
Oh, and the offside rule...