Do you consider yourself to be a good wife/husband/partner?

CH27

Lotus-eater wrote: »

What are the 3 top things that women look for in a partner then?

Someone who shares my morals & outlook on life.

jakes-mum

Lotus-eater wrote: »

What are the 3 top things that women look for in a partner then?

Loving
generous
A bit chubby

Yes my hubby fits all three

MrsE_2

Lotus-eater wrote: »

What are the 3 top things that women look for in a partner then?

What do men look for - REALLY?

jayII

I think I'm a pretty good wife. I've always worked, so pulled my weight financially (that is important to me), done most of the looking after the children and household chores. I prepare packed lunches for myself and OH, make sure we're both awake on time, and bring him early morning coffee in bed. I also do the gardening, finances, and most of the the DIY. My lovely husband is not at all practical, whereas I enjoy all that stuff.

OH is great and would happily do a lot more around the house, but I'm not good at sitting still and I usually wake up very early, buzzing with energy, so I tend to do most things before hubby gets near tham. He does cook occasionally, does at least some of the cleaning each week, and washes up every evening. He does almost all the driving when we go anywhere, as he dislikes being a passenger and I don't care either way. Since he does more hours than me at work, the current split is more than fair.

On the whole, I'd say we both 'muck in' as and when needed, and have never worried about who does more/less.

poorly_scammo

I don't think being a good partner has much to do with domestic tasks. As others have said, if one is out at work all day then it isn't really fair to expect him/her to then come home and cook, clean etc. Relationships are about more than who does the washing up.

My thoughts on what makes a good partner are these: someone who listens to what I have to say, takes it on board and doesn't patronise or belittle the other in any way: someone who is attentive and kind and can take up the slack when necessary: someone who is honest and loyal: someone who satisfies the other's sexual needs: someone to share life generally with and someone who isn't a doormat. Relationships need give and take on both sides in all areas.

Am I a good partner? No, not really. I'm quite selfish and closed much of the time although I'm working on that. I can be interesting and company though (he says.)

jayII

poorly_scammo wrote: »

I don't think being a good partner has much to do with domestic tasks. As others have said, if one is out at work all day then it isn't really fair to expect him/her to then come home and cook, clean etc. Relationships are about more than who does the washing up.

I think that depends on circumstances. If you're both out at work all day, it's more than fair that both come home and do what's needed. Especially if you have children and the increased workload they bring.

Other things are important, but I wouldn't have stayed with anyone who expected me to be a domestic drudge while he came home and relaxed.

Equally, I would never expect a partner to stay with me if I didn't pull my weight in the house, and with finances, once the children were in school.

Gillyx

I would say my partner is better to me than what I am to him. He worships the ground I walk on and is 98% of the time a total saint to put up with me. I do generally most of the house work and chores but I know I'm difficult to live with and a total whinge at times, I also moan the face off him. On reflection of this I probably should try a bit harder

desert_rose

I'm one of those 'planners', I know I drive OH daft at times with planning stuff - anything and everything has to be planned and lists made ready to plan that all goes.......to plan!

He's used to it have to say, though does annoy him from time to time...

Totally_Supurb

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I'm an incredible partner, my OH is very lucky to have me. Cleaning the toilet aside, I'd do anything for her and she for me. Which is lucky, as I am an extremely demanding person

blimey you think a lot of yourself don't you! do you actually do as much as you can for your OH? or maybe you actually think you do and there's plenty more stuff you could help her with that might make you appreciate you more? it's one thing that most couples never talk about and then leads up to having a row.

Lotus-eater

Totally_Supurb wrote: »

blimey you think a lot of yourself don't you!

Certainly do but to be fair, only with good reason.

I do loads and loads of stuff for her. Often she begs just to be left alone as I've done too much.

We talk about everything Nothing is sacrosanct.