Do you consider yourself to be a good wife/husband/partner?

andymg

victory wrote: »

Mothered yes, waited on hand and foot uhm:D

No, not all the times. Sometimes yes

Lotus-eater

MrsE wrote: »

What do men look for - REALLY?

Pretty sure you said women to start with

REALLY?
Every man is different, but:

Tits
Bottom
hair
face features
legs
intelligence
smile
eyes
laugh
general build
The whole package

are all analysed within the first few minutes, different men put different importance on each thing. I don't care about legs at all.
The type of women I like, isn't the standard beauty ideal of the western world. I don't like tall willowy cheryl cole look alikes, in fact I don't like at all, the culture young women seem to have, of all looking the same, with big hair, too much make up and trying to look like footballers wives.
If I'm really honest, I am first attracted by tits and hair, but if she's not got the right personality then it's goodbye.
Just the same, if someone has got the right personality to get on with me, then the body isn't so important.
I am really attracted to women that have the whole package, plus other bits that they only get told after a few dates (well that was the way I used to work, I suspect now I'd be a bit more upfront with internet dating, I've only got so long left no time to waste)

I think I'm very picky, of all the women I see each day, I might only fancy one enough to ask out, but most of the time her personality is completely wrong. So when I found one I liked I hung on to her

Oh and I definitely don't like being mothered :rotfl: waited on hand and foot however would be acceptable, maids uniform is optional (most of the time )


So do women really go for big c0cks like the OH and her friends always laugh about when they've had wine? A couple of them are awful and size up every bloke they meet :rotfl: it's not how nice the bloke is, it's how big his wallet and his pants are Luckily my OH is more down to earth

andymg

MrsE wrote: »

What do men look for - REALLY?

My preference is the following.

1. Caring, Loving, House maker (not necessarily House wife).
2. Intelligent.
3. Attractive.

In that exact order !

andymg

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Oh and I definitely don't like being mothered :rotfl: waited on hand and foot however would be acceptable, maids uniform is optional (most of the time )

Bet you havent had Man-Flu for a while then

Lotus-eater

andymg wrote: »

My preference is the following.

1. Caring, Loving, House maker
2. Intelligent.
3. Attractive.

I know a builder who would be perfect for you

Lotus-eater

andymg wrote: »

Bet you havent had Man-Flu for a while then

Had it last week

Mothering does not include getting on your knees and asking, would a BJ cheer you up? Told you my OH was brilliant.

gonzo127

god knows if i am a good husband, i try to be but only the Mrs could say for sure - but then again we are still married to i guess i am doing something right at least

is everything split 50-50 no probably not but that will change from day to day and week to week depending on how each of us is feeling

i work full time and she is a SAHM

when i get home from work i cook and then try to take over child duty to give my wife some time to herself to allow her to do things she wants to do, be that extra jobs around the house or going to the gym i dont mind. i also do the shopping (main and the odd 'if we need anything' pop during the week) however this isnt a big thing as the main supermarket is ~2 min walk from my house,

i also vacuum and dust, do the gardening, fix the techie problems that we have in the house (with 2 teenagers and a 3 year old we do have some interesting problems), try to look after the cars, do the DIY, taxi the kids when needed, mop floors etc etc.

the wife, well she also does a lot of the above aswell, other than cooking, techie, cars and DIY which are my jobs 99% of the time, but then again i do not do the clothes washing or ironing at all.

the thing above all which is probably the most difficult thing to sort out (and i have seen some shocking preachy ones about this) is that we do have different priorities and so see certain jobs as less important, or something which can wait to be done - which does mean that if there is something that she wants done (but might not have the time to do it herself) she will have to tell/nag me to do it,

it really is simple in my mind but can cause upset as she has previously said some of the arguements put forward already such as the classic - "well you can see it needs doing as well as i can, so why should i tell you it needs doing" - well yes i can see it needs doing but i dont/didnt believe it needs doing just now/at that point in time, if you wanted it doing now/then you should have asked me and i would have done it, and if you leave it as it is i will do it when i think it needs doing. - realistically as has been pointed out a realationship is a partnership between 2 adults, however it also need to be realised that being a partnership of 2 adults means that there will be 2 different sets of thought processes in regards to what and when jobs need doing and that these will not always match!

the most amusing (or at least i found it funny) situation with the above was when my wife had a massive go at me because i hadnt cleaned the lounge up when our youngest (was about 2.5 at the time) had been having a good play session with her toys on a saturday morning, anyways i dutifully cleaned up the lounge whilst my wife gave little one a shower, then she came downstairs and said how much nicer the lounge looked clean and tidy,

little one then followed her into the lounge and then decided to empty her toy box again all over the floor to set up her game - making the lounge look exactly as it was before - cue amused (or smug depending on which side of it you was on) grin and a wife who was trying to argue that it was better as it had been tidy for a little bit, with my point being there is no point in tidying up in that instance until little one is finished with that game or is going to be banned from playing with her toys in the lounge

andymg

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I know a builder who would be perfect for you

Lol, no problem as long as its a lady I'm straight

Bella79

Im no doormat, but i love to cook,clean bake and mother, i really enjoy it , my home is my sanctuary so i like to to be nice, and i love having it all cosy and a lovely meal cooking for dh when he comes in from work, i enjoy seeing the pleasure on his face when hes eating the dinner/baking ive done.

I would like him to vocalise his appriciation a bit more, he never has anything to do when he comes home its all done for him, i may ask him to take bin out, or spend an hour with dd to play, most nights hes asleep by 8pm lol on sofa. But hes off today so let me lie in this morning hes taken dd out for an hour and done pots that was on side, so it works out in the end.

andymg

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Had it last week

Mothering does not include getting on your knees and asking, would a BJ cheer you up? Told you my OH was brilliant.

Haha. Mate, perspective on BJ changes after you have kids.