Do you consider yourself to be a good wife/husband/partner?

DUKE

My husband frequently tells me that he's done the washing up for me :eek:

Totally_Supurb

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Certainly do but to be fair, only with good reason.

I do loads and loads of stuff for her. Often she begs just to be left alone as I've done too much.

We talk about everything Nothing is sacrosanct.

Do you do everything equally then? Housework, kids etc. I think one half of couples always thinks they do more. My relationship pretty much 50 50 albeit different areas. House garden etc your house must be a palace then if both of you do a lot!

TUS

I feel like I'm an excellent Husband - I know that sounds arrogant, but I do always try my best. My wife is a SAHM to our 3 children and does an excellent job when I am at work at looking after them (especially as I work 12 hour shifts, days and nights).

I tend to do 100% shopping, 100% finances, 99% cooking and 95% cleaning. That last figure does reduce when DW is feeling particularly motivated to do it, but generally I find the motivation on a daily basis rather than a monthly basis ;-)

Having said all that, it's not all about chores, childcare and money IMO. I like to think the biggest contribution I have made is providing stability and unconditional love. My wife knows that I am 100% dedicated to her and the kids and ensuring we all have a comfortable lifestyle and she knows I work hard to ensure that is consistent. We have our challenges, especially financially, but will always pull through the other side.

You can't put a price on that kind of reassurance in a relationship IMO.

Bella79

Hello all,

What a brilliant idea for a thread, in our house i do the daily cleaning, he will clean bathrooms or whip the hoover round if i ask, but i have to ask , he never seems to "see" that it needs doing, i have to tell him evverything , remind him of car service, taking bins out etc, i also sort out all the bills and money, i dont think he even knows what comes out in direct debits. I do somtimes feel like a nag which i hate, but if i dont tell him he wont do anything!

I dont work stay at home mum, i clean,cook,bake,deal with all the apointments,money direct debits etc, i dont mind spoiling him, after all he works i dont, so i like him to come home to a nice clean house and a warm meal cooking, i also bake for him as i know he enjoys it. when the weather is hot i get him a drink ready with ice ! lol ......... so yes i think im a good wife :@)

andymg

Totally_Supurb wrote: »

Do you do everything equally then? Housework, kids etc. I think one half of couples always thinks they do more. My relationship pretty much 50 50 albeit different areas. House garden etc your house must be a palace then if both of you do a lot!

IMHO work split is never going to be exact 50-50. As long as no one is completely bogged down with work then it should be fine.

Its not easy to resolve the feeling of doing more than their share of work - opinions will always differs. Maybe they need to speak to their partner and work out an acceptable split.

andymg

TUS wrote: »

I feel like I'm an excellent Husband - I know that sounds arrogant, but I do always try my best. My wife is a SAHM to our 3 children and does an excellent job when I am at work at looking after them (especially as I work 12 hour shifts, days and nights).

I tend to do 100% shopping, 100% finances, 99% cooking and 95% cleaning. That last figure does reduce when DW is feeling particularly motivated to do it, but generally I find the motivation on a daily basis rather than a monthly basis ;-)

Having said all that, it's not all about chores, childcare and money IMO. I like to think the biggest contribution I have made is providing stability and unconditional love. My wife knows that I am 100% dedicated to her and the kids and ensuring we all have a comfortable lifestyle and she knows I work hard to ensure that is consistent. We have our challenges, especially financially, but will always pull through the other side.

You can't put a price on that kind of reassurance in a relationship IMO.

Woh, seems like even 24 hours wont be enough for you . Bet your missus pull her weigh in other ways i.e. looking after kids etc?

Completely agree about your statment on reassurance in relationship.

andymg

Bella79 wrote: »

when the weather is hot i get him a drink ready with ice

Good luck in getting missus to do that :cool:.

victory

Isn't that a doormat?:D

andymg

victory wrote: »

Isn't that a doormat?:D

Lol, come on little bit of pampering wont be missed .

Not many men would admit but most of us do like to be mothered (if there is such word) :A.

victory

Mothered yes, waited on hand and foot uhm:D