Do you consider yourself to be a good wife/husband/partner?

jakes-mum

andymg wrote: »

Wow, exactly the reason I keep asking DW to do other stuff (finances etc) as well. Albet some things are easier to pick-up other things are not.

Hope things work out for you.

Ive been doing his finances since I was 18 lol (he was 27!) he has always been of the mind that if the money shows in the bank when he pops his card in then its his to spend, absolutely no thought for future DD's. Actually I dont think he even knows whats on DD, when the council tax is due or how much it is! He doesnt even know when the tax and mot are up on my car . . . or his own bike:o. Oh dear he sounds really bad, but honestly hes not, his hearts in the right place but his mind is off with the fairies :rotfl:
He happily admits if anything happened to me he would be completely stuffed and the kids would have to go to my mums each nght to be fed
Our main problem is ive always been OCD and a control freak, to not do anything was horrible. I keep thinking ive got to start teaching my 10 year old son to cook and use the washing machine as i'd be a bit ashamed to hand him over to some poor girl and he cant even wash his own pants :eek:.

andymg

antrobus wrote: »

Do you consider yourself to be a good wife/husband/partner?

Good? I'm more than good. I'm forkin perfect me.

I'll have what you are having mate !

Lotus-eater

What are the 3 top things that women look for in a partner then?

seafarers_wife

not read the whole thread, but this is my point of view on how me and DH work things.

I take responsibility for most of the household stuff and the finance side of things as he works away months at a time.

when he is back the first couple of weeks i dont expect him to do much, just maybe unpack his suitcases and put everything away properly and put his clothes in the washing basket daily!

after a couple of weeks he gets nagged i know its his time off when he is home but when he gets 3 - 4 months at a time at home, its a bit annoying for me to come home from work when ive worked 12 to 8pm to find dishes still in the sink and carp all over the front room from where he has been chilling out all day.

he gets annoyed with me as doesnt get that things need to be cleaned on a regular basis, he is happy for the bathroom to be left till its disgusting and doesnt get that the kitchen sides need wiping over before cooking (especially with a cat that goes on the kitchen sides)

the one thing that REALLY bugs the heck out of me is him not putting his washing in the washing basket, and ignoreing it and asking me where his clothes are. well dear they havent been washed because ive not had time and you moan at me for having the washer on early enough in the morning for me to get it done before work and you moan that i put it on at night when i come home from work. why cant you put a load in during the day when you are home?

for the most part though he does help round the house and cook, its just a few little niggly bits that bug me which are nothing in the grand scheme of things. although when i become a stay at home mum, then it will all be down to me every day even when he is home, but im ok with that as it means i can have my routine going and him being home wont mess it up. im also noticing a big difference in how tidy and clean i keep the house as its now our own house and not a rented place which is making a huge difference to me and i could happily have people round without notice wheras before i would be so embaressed if someone dropped round unannounced.

make_me_wise

Lotus-eater wrote: »

What are the 3 top things that women look for in a partner then?

Must have a great mind - could not be with someone who does not stimulate me intellectually, emotionally or otherwise.

Great sense of humour

Fantastic lover who is adventurous and fun.

BugglyB

Lotus-eater wrote: »

What are the 3 top things that women look for in a partner then?

trustworthy - do something when you say you're going to (within reason!)

fun

fantastic lover

great with my family

good looking

nice to my friends

treats me as equal

hardworking

ability to count not important

MrsE_2

Lotus-eater wrote: »

What are the 3 top things that women look for in a partner then?

Money or at least hard working & generous
Great sex & affectionate
Great personality & funny

If I'm allowed a 4th I would put handsome

tinktinktinkerbell

i do more than my OH if im honest, all he does is hoover the two bed rooms and mop the floor, i

cook
make drinks
look after the animals
sweep the floor
wash dishes
do the washing

tinktinktinkerbell

Lotus-eater wrote: »

What are the 3 top things that women look for in a partner then?

good looking
loves animals
doesnt like kids

Wickedkitten

Lotus-eater wrote: »

What are the 3 top things that women look for in a partner then?

Someone who isn't going to take me for granted

Someone who is truthworthy and loyal.

Someone who isn't afraid to be silly


Luckily my bloke fits all three so despite him being absolutely !!!! when it comes to the housework, there is at least that.