Male mid life crisis?

Eels100

I haven't read all of the replies, so apologies if this repeats what others have said, but he's obviously feeling insecure and fretful right now. I can totally understand your feelings that he 'needs to grow up' - I'm sure I'd feel the same way about it if my partner came out with something similar.

I don't doubt you've probably had loads of good advice on the thread but one of the things which came to my mind was that at 31 with kids of 10 and 12, you'll be in a position to live life to the full within 5-10 years. By this I mean your kids will be more independant and you will both still be young, and with progressive careers, so there will be nothing to stop you travelling and experiencing all sorts of new things together. You can have all the benefits of a 'gap year' but with the eyes of those with some experience and wisdom. The world will be your oyster. If it's 'new' he's hankering for, then he just has to be a little patient.

If it comes down to sex, as these things frequently do, then I hope he sees the light and sticks around, because I think almost of all of us will surely concur that it's sorely overrated. Life isn't truly reflected in films and magazines - we can't all shag around and expect our loved ones to trundle dutifully along behind us. Nor would most of us want to ... a moment's buzz for a lifetime of regret, I'm sure he'll realise which side his bread's buttered. All the best.

lisa_75

Just an update on my situation. My husband left 3 days ago. He is staying in a hotel as his Mum and Dad refused to give him a bed for the night when they found out he had left me. He says he needs to "find himself".

I have some wonderful support from in-laws, parents and friends. Everyone thinks he is being a selfish, immature pri**. We have not even been married for 2 years.

The kids are gutted. They are 10 and 12 and just don't understand, especially as the wedding is so fresh in all our minds.

My in-laws have taken the kids out for the day and I am having a girly night out with some friends. In some way it feels like a relief. I love my husband, but need a man, not a boy. He has not even rung the kids. I am shocked he can treat us this way, but believe me there is no way he is coming back to my bed.

Thank you for all your help and support. I will not be posting for a while, but am sure I will be back when my head is sorted.

magyar

lisa_75 wrote:

Just an update on my situation. My husband left 3 days ago. He is staying in a hotel as his Mum and Dad refused to give him a bed for the night when they found out he had left me. He says he needs to "find himself".

I have some wonderful support from in-laws, parents and friends. Everyone thinks he is being a selfish, immature pri**. We have not even been married for 2 years.

The kids are gutted. They are 10 and 12 and just don't understand, especially as the wedding is so fresh in all our minds.

My in-laws have taken the kids out for the day and I am having a girly night out with some friends. In some way it feels like a relief. I love my husband, but need a man, not a boy. He has not even rung the kids. I am shocked he can treat us this way, but believe me there is no way he is coming back to my bed.

Thank you for all your help and support. I will not be posting for a while, but am sure I will be back when my head is sorted.

Sorry it didn't work out Lisa. Come back to us all when you're ready.

Gingham_Ribbon

Oh what an idiot he is. I'm so very sorry. I hope he sorts his head out soon. Stay strong and keep talking to those who care about you. xxx

Dormouse

Thanks for the update, Lisa - I have been thinking about you. Glad to hear you are getting so much love and support from family and friends (and even his parents realise how moronic he's being).

I'm a great believer in things happening for a reason, even though initially it's hard to see the reason sometimes! All the best for you and your kids - you sound like a great Mum