My son is 4 weeks off being 18 and he says

thorsoak

It's a hard time for you - but if he wants to be a free man - then let him! Put his belongings in bin-liners, on the front doorstep, bolt and bar the doors - and tell him that as he wants to be free - you are setting him free of the cage that his home has become!

AND DON'T GIVE IN!! Give him the address of the local forum/shelter - its time he grew up and became a man. Or do you want him to turn into one of the youths we've seen so much of in the past few days - those who feel that they are entitled to everything and give nothing? He needs a real hard shock - and now's the time to give it!

He'll be back in a few weeks, with a completely different attitidue, I'll be bound - and if not - do you want someone like that polluting the rest of your family???

globalds

You should have been putting things in place to solve his behaviour years ago.

all them smilies tell me one thing.

That you haven't taken this raising children thing seriously.

victory

Viper_7 wrote: »

You have done your job. He will no longer be a child.
Either kick him out or treat him as a lodger and lay down the charges and stick to them.
If he can't pay turf him out.

You don't say if you have any other children, but you have done your part and now you should be enjoying your life, not putting up with his selfish attitude.

yes one 11 year old who in comparison is an angel:rotfl::rotfl:

Memory_Girl

victory wrote: »

he cannot see he is reliant on us and we feed clothe etc him ,he says that we as parents have to:D

Erm - not when he is 18 you don't

Post again victory -look at your post count :j

MG

ETA You beat me to it - congrats!!!

January20

globalds wrote: »

You should have been putting things in place to solve his behaviour years ago.

all them smilies tell me one thing.

That you haven't taken this raising children thing seriously.

What are you on about?
I bet you were or had and raised the perfect teenager (s) :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

victory

pigpen wrote: »

LMAO... mine is nearly 20 and finally admited a few weeks ago he is neither grown up nor responsible!

Whenever he says he is going to go drinking/clubbing/partying/smoking etc reply.. you better get a job then to fund it! And dont forget Ill be wanting 1/3rd of your wages as board so dont spend it all before paying me. and youll be doing your own washing/cooking/cleaning etc..

Dont be drawn into an argument about it.. just state it as it is..

If he doesnt like it.. he can move out They soon realise what they have lost then!

We spend our lives telling him the above he is so sick of the same subject and so are we:rotfl::rotfl: everything he says we reply with get a job then you can do x and y, get a job and some money and then...:rotfl::rotfl:

Lotus-eater

victory wrote: »

Thanks:D he has practically moved in with his girlfriend two streets away already but he says that when he is 18 he is off permanently and will never be seen again oh the joy:rotfl::rotfl:

Problem sort of sorted then. Let him mooch off her for a while, till she gets fed up of it.
Make sure he moves out properly now.

victory

globalds wrote: »

You should have been putting things in place to solve his behaviour years ago.

all them smilies tell me one thing.

That you haven't taken this raising children thing seriously.

I am sorry there are smilies it is to lighten it, we get it constant i this house when he comes in and it is a downer, it drags everyone and everything down and is not much fun to be in:D

victory

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Problem sort of sorted then. Let him mooch off her for a while, till she gets fed up of it.
Make sure he moves out properly now.

Yes we are so lucky his girlfriend parents love him and he loves being there so the longer he stays round there the less he comes home moaning about the same thing:D

Oh and the gf parents have just moved into a house that needs a vast amount of work and there is my son roped into wallpapering, stripping banisters, painting you name it, that is how he gets fed there and he moans to me like hell about it but he says 'yes please mrs patterson to his gf mum':rotfl:

Nimeth

victory wrote: »

Thanks:D he has practically moved in with his girlfriend two streets away already but he says that when he is 18 he is off permanently and will never be seen again oh the joy:rotfl::rotfl:

He has no job, income to contribute to household, he is expected to cut the grass, do household chores we cal lthem the 'sunday jobs' hoovering etc but oh does he moan about that, can you not hear him from here?:rotfl::rotfl: He does nothing with good grace.

My OH says when he is 18 he will have to pay tax and NI which we keep telling him and will have to pay us when he gets a job, he cannot see he is reliant on us and we feed clothe etc him ,he says that we as parents have to:D

On his 18th, hand him a bill and an itemised invoice and tell him he owes you back pay for all the food and clothing you've given him over the years. Tell him you'll accept payments in any amount provided he pays you back within X amount of years.:D