My son is 4 weeks off being 18 and he says

curchep

Hi - what happened on your son's 18th? Did his presents from you and his father meet expectations?

Reggie_Rebel

victory wrote: »

he is aiming to be a football coach

Aiming? At nearly 18. He could have taken the Junior Football Organisers qualification at 14, the FA Level 1 at 16 and then gone or to the the FA Youth Awards and be halfway through the FA Level 2 at 18. How many of those has he done?

victory wrote: »

He is handsome, intelligent,

The rest of your post suggests that he is not one of those at least

Grimbal

I've only dipped in and out of this thread, so apologies if I'm repeating things. I just wanted to reassure you that some people take longer to realise their responsibilities in life. My brother and I were complete opposites both in behavioural & academic terms. I was the stay at home bookish daughter that went the traditional academic route, and caused my parents absolutely no concerns (in terms of career/behaviour that is), whereas my brother was a different matter.

from a youngish age, he realised that school was not for him. He failed to attend, never completed assignments, was on report many many times. he also discovered nightclubs and was often out all night. He seemed to think that the world owed him a living. He was, and I think he'll admit this, a very immature 18-year old. My parents despaired. They tried everything, from encouragement to punishment, but nothing worked.

He left school, bummed around for a bit, still mooching off my parents. One day, it was like a lightbulb went on in his head. He applied to the Met and has applied himself like his family have never seen before. 15-years later, he's now joined CID and has passed his seargent's exam, coming in the top 7% of the country. My parents are so proud of him.

What I wanted to say is that it seems your son may be quite similar to my brother. He's just not found his path in life yet, and that self realisation moment about having personal responsibility hasn't happenned for him yet. As much as you want to sort his life out for him as his mother, you can't. It's his decision on where his life will lead.