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My son is 4 weeks off being 18 and he says

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  • CH27
    CH27 Posts: 5,531 Forumite
    Has he acknowledged just how much work he will have to put in to make everything ok?
    Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud.
  • victory
    victory Posts: 16,188 Forumite
    Nope, he just taken what the tutor said to him as gospel today, that he applies himself next year and it is win win kind of chat he gave my son today, so now son is happy, son is relaxed, cannot see the fuss, the problem, he feels he knows next year will counter act all of it and next year he will qualify for Uni.
    misspiggy wrote: »
    I'm sure you're an angel in disguise Victory :)
  • Spirit_2
    Spirit_2 Posts: 5,546 Forumite
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    He is almost 18 and blessed with self belief. That is lovely in itself, be thankful for it. He does have time to recover his A2 position, he may not find himself troubling Oxbridge but he may have choices around a number of other places that he wants to go.

    My daughter drove me mad when she was a teenager, she also did not do as well as she could have at AS, however she did get into a Russell Group University had lots of decent offers and has graduated and is embarking on an MA.

    This is not a bragging post, but to suggest you lighten up a bit and give yourself a break. My DD had depression during her Uni years and I would have loved to recapture that time when she thought the world her oyster and she did not have the weight of expectations and sadness on her.

    Stick to your Guns about him finding a pocket money job and participating in family chores, but don't hold your breath!

    Try to see the funny side of things...much of what he says and does will have a silly side to it....use these as the moments to say "earth to son" and keep him grounded.
  • victory
    victory Posts: 16,188 Forumite
    Thanks, I know it is not the end of the world, just feels like it at the mo:D If he wants to progress he has to make it happen in year 2, let's hope he has the sense to go for it:D
    misspiggy wrote: »
    I'm sure you're an angel in disguise Victory :)
  • Victory

    He has about a week left of the holidays so would it be worth looking at the university courses that he would be interested in doing and seeing what the typical offers are?

    Then, that way, he is under no illusions as to what he has to achieve in the coming year and its not a case of you 'nagging' him or being 'negative'

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  • victory
    victory Posts: 16,188 Forumite
    He knows, we have stacks of books all around the house, he has been gathering them for months, emailing for more, in conversations with them, he knows this year, so far, no chance, he thinks next year will come good and he will be back on track.
    misspiggy wrote: »
    I'm sure you're an angel in disguise Victory :)
  • victory
    victory Posts: 16,188 Forumite
    It is not him it is me, or so he says:rotfl::D
    misspiggy wrote: »
    I'm sure you're an angel in disguise Victory :)
  • Mojisola
    Mojisola Posts: 35,571 Forumite
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    I think you're going to have to be prepared for him to fail next year. If his poor results this time haven't shocked him into reality, he's not going to change easily.
  • victory
    victory Posts: 16,188 Forumite
    There is hope in his gf, if he keeps her that long, she is very dedicated to her studies (no, did not ask what her results were today, could barely speak properly on the phone to son as it was) she has her eyes dead set on uni and her career, son knows as he has told me that 'she is more intelligent than me' that if push comes to shove gf will leave him trailing behind and he wants to push on, with her, go together so that is some mild consolation, maybe she can make him livelier.
    misspiggy wrote: »
    I'm sure you're an angel in disguise Victory :)
  • Could you have a word with his gf and ask her to not do his work for him? It's really hurting his chances. Even if he makes it to uni he won't be able to cope with the work if he's been slacking off the school work.
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