Very upset son because we are moving, help?

onlyroz

weeze210 wrote: »

I really don't think she is mature enough to live independantly. The way she talks you would think she is 13 or 14 at most. It's so scarey that she can buy alcohol, I worry so much about her as she is so nieve and trusting of others.

Weeze x

I think you should be taking steps to increase your daughter's independence - at 18 I was living in London, over 200 miles away from my parents.

weeze210

onlyroz wrote: »

I think you should be taking steps to increase your daughter's independence - at 18 I was living in London, over 200 miles away from my parents.

My daughter has been talking to a slightly older friend, much more mature than she is, who has been looking for someone to share a house with as her parents are actually throwing her out due to space issues. They have been planing all evening and it seems that my daughter and her friend might be doing a house share. This other girls is very sensible and has worked out their outgoings and has been very realistic. She has even persuaded my daughter to start applying for evening/ weekend jobs. My daughter has asked her stepdad to help her with her CV as he is 'good with words'.
I would be a lot happier if my daughter was living with someone so sensible.

Weeze x

zzzLazyDaisy

With regard to the house - be aware that if you buy the new house as 'joint tenants', if you were to die the whole house would go to him alone. It would be up to him whether he allowed the children to live in it, or whether they ever got any money out of it. You cannot leave your 'share' to the children because you don't have a share as such - both joint owners each own all the house.

You could, instead, buy the house as tenants in common, which would mean that you could leave your share to your children. But of course that works both ways, and could result in the survivor having to sell the house in order to pay off the beneficiaries of the will of the joint owner who has died.

One way round this is for you each to make mirror wills each leaving your share to the other and on the death of the second, stating clearly what is to be done with the proceeds. This does require a degree of trust since it is always open to either person to change their will at any time.

There are other alternatives such as leaving the house in trust to the children with him having a life-time right to live there.

These are issues that you might want to consider, and take specialist advice about before the sale/purchase of the house goes through.