Very upset son because we are moving, help?

weeze210

Gigervamp wrote: »

We moved to Wales when my son was 9. He settled in quickly and made new friends, but he did get stick from some kids for being English, so I think you need to be prepared for that.

What's the transport situation? Are there regular buses and trains, or will you be needed as a taxi service?

My son will be entitled to the free school bus. Still looking into transport for my daughter.
I drive and have a car so I will be able to be a taxi if needed.

Weeze x

weeze210

shell_girl wrote: »

Which part of Wales are you moving to?

We're not as completely rural as some posters would have you believe :eek:

I heard a rumor that some places in Wales already have electricity :rotfl:

We are moving to Abertridwr a mile from Lake Vyrnwy. There are 42 houses and a shop. The nearest town is 10 mins away and Welshpool is a 30 min drive.

Weeze x

inspirespirit

weeze210 wrote: »

We are moving to Abertridwr a mile from Lake Vyrnwy. There are 42 houses and a shop. The nearest town is 10 mins away and Welshpool is a 30 min drive.

Weeze x

That is seriously rural. A huge difference between a council estate in Staffordshire and a tiny village.

BugglyB

inspirespirit wrote: »

I would have thought when you read the part that her husband is taking a lower paid job and she is giving up her job, therefore they will be subsidised by Benefits, you would have been on her like a seagull on a chip. :rotfl::rotfl:

This board never ceases to amaze me.

Yes, and if OPs son comes on in 50 years saying 'mum wants to go to wales with new bloke but Im worried about my inheritance' everyone would flame him! :rotfl:

OP - you asked for advice about your son, not whether you should move or not. Unlike others I dont think your husband sounds like a horrible person. Relationships are never perfect are they!

I like others moved a lot as a child and although I sometimes kicked up a fuss it was good for me in hindsight. One tip I will give you is if you do move, try and make sure your sons bed/wallpaper/towels etc stay the same, it makes a huge difference. good luck in whatever you do x

soccermom

weeze210 wrote: »

We are moving to Abertridwr a mile from Lake Vyrnwy. There are 42 houses and a shop. The nearest town is 10 mins away and Welshpool is a 30 min drive.

Weeze x

Would moving to the town be a compromise. Maybe the village maybe too rural for your kids to get out and about without having to rely on you for transport etc.

There would also be more kids obviously within the town so giving them more scope to socialise, being isolated maybe a bit too much of a move for them as beautiful as it sounds to me.

weeze210

soccermom wrote: »

Would moving to the town be a compromise. Maybe the village maybe too rural for your kids to get out and about without having to rely on you for transport etc.

There would also be more kids obviously within the town so giving them more scope to socialise, being isolated maybe a bit too much of a move for them as beautiful as it sounds to me.

We need to move to that area because we need to be where the off road school is based. Also in the nearby towns we wouldn't be able to get the land we need and the parking is difficult as we have a large car and a huge van. We also need storage for my husbands bikes.
My son has been really playing up since he got home from school, I'm not sure wether to be cross with him or to let it slide. I think an early night is in order. Last day at school tomorrow.

Weeze x

shell_girl

weeze210 wrote: »

We are moving to Abertridwr a mile from Lake Vyrnwy. There are 42 houses and a shop. The nearest town is 10 mins away and Welshpool is a 30 min drive.

Weeze x

Beautiful area, absolutely stunning. It will be very different for you as a family, but I hope you'll be happy there.

Padstow

skylight wrote: »

I seem to have missed a post.

So who is paying for this?????? So far I can only make out your current house is mortgage free and "we" are selling up to move to Wales. Does he have somewhere to sell as well then and its a joint property or are you selling and buying in your name alone? Who do you want your money left to when you die? Have you made a will???

He may be your husband, but protect your and your kids financial interests. Especially as he takes little interest in your kids.

I echo your concerns skylight, but once married it's not possible to protect money or property, either for oneself or one's children. It all goes into the joint pot to be shared if things go wrong.
I too would be concerned at his lack of connection with the children. Who does the taxi service weeze, you? I would also be more concerned for the daughter.

I think the H's future is more that of a single man. Giving up a well paid job to play with motorbikes! Expecting his wife and the two children he doesn't care about to follow in his wake.

Do you know weeze, had you and H become business partners, you doing his books and appointments, you both could have saved so much tax. That may have allowed him to start his own "off road mortorbiking" business
Lots of us would like to give up our secure job and indulge our hobby that pays a pittance, but that doesn't fit with being a family. That is the behaviour of a single person.
Don't be his sackcloth and ashes, because his ex wife didn't allow him friends or hobbies. His ex will have a different tale to tell anyway, believe me. Couldn't have been so bad as he stuck it for many years.

Everything he intends to do, smacks to me of mid life crisis.
I couldn't take to a man who made no effort with my children. You know? We come as a package?

happy35

it will be a culture shock for you and your son, I moved the other way from a small welsh mining village to a large market town which I do think is easier to be honest

I was starting year 7 when i moved and managed well with the move, it would be good if your son could make some friends before he starts school

soccermom

Padstow wrote: »

I echo your concerns skylight, but once married it's not possible to protect money or property, either for oneself or one's children. It all goes into the joint pot to be shared if things go wrong.
I too would be concerned at his lack of connection with the children. Who does the taxi service weeze, you? I would also be more concerned for the daughter.

I think the H's future is more that of a single man. Giving up a well paid job to play with motorbikes! Expecting his wife and the two children he doesn't care about to follow in his wake.

Do you know weeze, had you and H become business partners, you doing his books and appointments, you both could have saved so much tax. That may have allowed him to start his own "off road mortorbiking" business
Lots of us would like to give up our secure job and indulge our hobby that pays a pittance, but that doesn't fit with being a family. That is the behaviour of a single person.
Don't be his sackcloth and ashes, because his ex wife didn't allow him friends or hobbies. His ex will have a different tale to tell anyway, believe me. Couldn't have been so bad as he stuck it for many years.

Everything he intends to do, smacks to me of mid life crisis.
I couldn't take to a man who made no effort with my children. You know? We come as a package?

Just a tad harsh and judgemental don't you think.

He has been offered a job, just because it's a job with motor bikes doesn't make it just a hobby, not sure the OP said he was being paid pittance did she. just because he has a job as a self employed electrician doesn't mean it is well paid and maybe has to work long hours many days a week to get a decent wage.

So because he wants to change his lifestyle makes him selfish, so glad I didnt think the same when my husband asked if I would like to live in Australia for 9 months.

maybe he sees this as an opportunity to get to know his family a bit more, maybe he knows things aren't quite right and wants a chance to change.

I always find it funny that just because a man wants to do something different it is seen as selfish.

Would it be not the same to suggest if the wife wants to stay (which she has said is not the issue) then she would just be as selfish.