Confused and upset.

hethmar

Im sorry kiddo, but Id have dumped him on the hen night if I heard him saying what he did. If he wasnt madly, passionately and totally in love with you on the night before you married - when will he be.

go_cat

Did he come home ?

How are things have you spoken to him yet?

Sambucus_Nigra

I read this yesterday and am still stunned. I think the whole photo thing is the tip of the iceberg. This man has no respect. I DO wonder if he ever came home yesterday.

Pollycat

abacus73 wrote: »

Im so sorry to say this but I think he is with your 'friend' coming up with a way to cover up their affair. He isn't beyond lying to people, covering things up or doing things behind your back is he?

However did you make this giant leap to the OP's friend having an affair with her OH?

Just because one of the OP's other friend 'did the dirty on her' with her OH doesn't mean that this friend is doing the same.

I'll apologise to you if your supposition turns out to be true.

OP, I do hope everything is OK with you.

emsywoo123

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

I read this yesterday and am still stunned. I think the whole photo thing is the tip of the iceberg. This man has no respect. I DO wonder if he ever came home yesterday.

Same here. I hope the OP is ok

CH27

Hope you are ok OP?

mizzbiz

People probably won't agree with me on this but it's the way I am. If I had heard my husband-to-be speaking like that on our hen/stag do's, the do would have been nothing more than a night out as we would not have been married the next day. I don't think the OP is over-reacting at all. I think she's under-reacting. That would honestly make my skin crawl and I wouldn't be able to see my husband in the same way again if I had caught him doing that. !!!!!!, okay fine, I can understand that, it's impersonal. A mate?
A photograph of her face? Sorry, but that is not to my taste at all and I couldn't be with someone that could do that to me. Gross.

make_me_wise

Pollycat wrote: »

However did you make this giant leap to the OP's friend having an affair with her OH?

The OPs OH has made no secret, on the flipping stag/hen do of all nights, to state that he thinks the friend is hot and he wishes he had got with her. The OP brings a photo of her friend home to pass on to her, her hubby spots it and decides to use it to have a w***.
These aren't the actions of a bloke who has no interest in someone.

I hope for the OPs sake that her friend has more morals than her husband and wouldn't touch him with a barge pole. We dont know much about this friend though, so who knows whether she might be involved with him or not. I certainly wouldn't put it past this bloke to have tried it on. If he had done and she had turned him down and given him a mouthful would he be knocking one off to a picture of her face!!!!!

shelley_crow

mizzbiz wrote: »

People probably won't agree with me on this but it's the way I am. If I had heard my husband-to-be speaking like that on our hen/stag do's, the do would have been nothing more than a night out as we would not have been married the next day. I don't think the OP is over-reacting at all. I think she's under-reacting. That would honestly make my skin crawl and I wouldn't be able to see my husband in the same way again if I had caught him doing that. !!!!!!, okay fine, I can understand that, it's impersonal. A mate?
A photograph of her face? Sorry, but that is not to my taste at all and I couldn't be with someone that could do that to me. Gross.

As I understand it, OP and her OH were already married when this happened, they were attending the hen/stags of OP's friend.

LegalBlonde

bigmomma051204 wrote: »

i got married last October and me and my then husband to be went out on our hen/stag do's and ended up in the same pub at the very end of the night.

At the joint end of the hen/stag night, my H2b and mates were outside the pub in the beer garden and me and my mates were inside.

I have removed some more recent information that was in between these 2 sentences but it does seem to definitely be on the OP stag/hen night.

I hope OP returns to tell us what happened with her OH and that he is okay, if it is out of character to go out for so long.