Confused and upset.

gillypkk

i didnt want to say it before but i sure as hell wouldnt have married him after hearing what he said on the stag do.

from what you have said he doesnt seem to make you feel confident or secure so you need to have a serious think about whether this is the right person for you to be married to.

January20

gillypkk wrote: »

i didnt want to say it before but i sure as hell wouldnt have married him after hearing what he said on the stag do.

from what you have said he doesnt seem to make you feel confident or secure so you need to have a serious think about whether this is the right person for you to be married to.

For me, it's what she said in post #7: he was warned he could be carrying and STD and risked passing it on to the OP, yet he didn't get himself checked out and put her health (will all the fertility problems that could ensue) at risk and to me it says that he is very selfish and has no respect for the OP.

bigmomma051204

well, he still isnt home and i cant get him on his mobile so dont know when he will be home. Goodness knows how i am going to cope waiting around to talk to him for what could be hours until he decides to come back home :cool: its a pain cos i am just sitting around, stewing over everything grrr thanks for all your answers though. I have to say, i agree with those who are saying he was sh!te in the beginning but after about a year or so, he really did buck up his ideas lol, and become much better towards me. Or at least i thought he had! Hence i married him... we have had a very rough time over last few years which has made us closer.. or so i thought :( oh i dont know!

LadyMorticia

Wow, he sounds like a catch. *rolls eyes*

I feel for you sweetie. If my hubby had done anything like that all hell would break loose. I'm really insecure though and hubby knows that.

CH27

Don't let him twist things & put you in the wrong.

Say your piece & walk out of the room.

Lotus-eater

OK, I've tried to think about this from the male and female perspective.
I've asked the OH what she would do and how she would think.

I think from the male POV, it's nothing more than a fantasy with the photo to help flesh it out. Now, I don't think I would masturbate over a (head) photo of a friend of my OH, but it may be possible that I'd use a whole body photo if I really fancied her or fantasied about her.
I actually never have, but I suppose it's a possibility. I have had fantasies about a friend of the OH, which I never told her (but just did ), but she knows that nothing would ever happen and it's just a bit of a head fantasy, we all have them and I can't see a problem with it.

From the female side, my OH did say that she wouldn't be happy with it (head photo) and she's not quite sure what she would do. Definately say something and find out what he was doing I should think. But I think you will find out the above is correct.

go_cat

Why don't you say something along the lines of ...Did you know after I went to bed last night I popped down for a drink ...you obviously didn't see me ...........................and watch his reaction .

This is seriously out of order

marywooyeah

bigmomma051204 wrote: »

Sorry, yeah once i found out, i made him go get tested and i did too. i was clear and so was he. It was all made a thousand times worse because when i found out, i had just miscarried so obviously for a while until we found out results of tests, i was wondering if it was because i had some disease etc that i had miscarried. BTW, i became pregnant by accident (slightly dodgy tummy, on pill etc) certainly didnt plan it only 7 months into relationship eeek.. but obvioulsly it was still very upsetting

blooming heck you have been through the mill you poor lamb, sorry for your loss - whether planned or not it's never a nice experience, and to have to deal with the "scare" on top aswell I couldn't imagine how awful that must have been

bigmomma051204

hi all - just wanted to say thanks for all the replies today. Made me calm down a bit, writing it out etc! He still hasnt come home so not sure whats going on or what i shall say.... we shall see.... saying that, he has been gone since this morning and it is now 7:30pm so maybe he isnt coming back tho he doesnt know i know anything so cant think why he would stay away!! Will try and ring him for the millionth time in a min, then i am going to give up and stop trying Anyway, thanks again. For letting me rant and for the replies

CH27

Does he usually disappear for hours?