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Confused and upset.
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not hours, no. He does sometimes go out and be gone longer than he says he will. God knows where he is tho lol!Baldrick, does it have to be this way? Our valued friendship ending with me cutting you up into strips and telling the prince that you walked over a very sharp cattle grid in an extremely heavy hat?0
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My OH decided to stay out late once after a night out with his friends and turned his phone off. I left a voicemail saying the door was being locked at 2am and due to the lack of communication it was up to him which side of it he was on. He went to his moms around the corner to sleep and got an ear full from her when she realised what he'd been upto.
sorry you are having a rough time.
eta: that looks really harsh on my part! We had a small baby at the time, he was popping out for an hour or two and would be back for 11pm. I rang him a few times to be told he was on his way home but he didn't turn up. I had to be at work at 7am and got made to feel like a nag because I wanted a half decent night's sleep and was worried he had been run over or something.0 -
bigmomma051204 wrote: »not hours, no. He does sometimes go out and be gone longer than he says he will. God knows where he is tho lol!
Are you absolutely sure he didn't see you/know you were there? He might be embarrassed (as he bl00dy well should be). Not that it's an excuse but maybe he's lying low in the hope you'll be so glad he's home that you won't mention it.0 -
I would also consider speaking to your friend. If she is that good a friend to you, she will get over being weirded out by it. At the very least you will be able to tell her how upset you are and get confirmation from her that she wouldn't go near him. At the very least that will give you peace of mind if they are ever together.
When I thought there was something going on with my other half and my best friend I asked them both about it outright. Both denied it and I later found out she was in love with him. Asking her friend is great but just be aware that she could always lie about it. I genuinely thought my best friend would never lie to me either which is why it was so easy to bring it up with her and we even had a laugh about it after I asked her as she was telling me she would never go there he's not her type.
Just take everything with a pinch of salt is all i'm saying.
ETA: If I heard my DP saying something like that on our hen/stag night I would have walked over to him and told him to go for it, this one is for free and given him his ring back at the same time. I feel for you. Just out of curiosity how old are you and your husband?0 -
When I thought there was something going on with my other half and my best friend I asked them both about it outright. Both denied it and I later found out she was in love with him. Asking her friend is great but just be aware that she could always lie about it. I genuinely thought my best friend would never lie to me either which is why it was so easy to bring it up with her and we even had a laugh about it after I asked her as she was telling me she would never go there he's not her type.
Just take everything with a pinch of salt is all i'm saying.
ETA: If I heard my DP saying something like that on our hen/stag night I would have walked over to him and told him to go for it, this one is for free and given him his ring back at the same time. I feel for you. Just out of curiosity how old are you and your husband?
I am 28 and he is 33.Baldrick, does it have to be this way? Our valued friendship ending with me cutting you up into strips and telling the prince that you walked over a very sharp cattle grid in an extremely heavy hat?0 -
What a horrible situation to be in. As much of an unpleasant conversation that it is, I can't see that anything else other than dialogue is going to help.
Has he come home now?"One day I realised that when you are lying in your grave, it's no good saying, "I was too shy, too frightened."
Because by then you've blown your chances. That's it."0 -
What a horrible situation to be in. As much of an unpleasant conversation that it is, I can't see that anything else other than dialogue is going to help.
Has he come home now?
Hiya - not yet
I am now more worried than angry in case something has happened. But then i tell myself maybe that is what he wants lol! Baldrick, does it have to be this way? Our valued friendship ending with me cutting you up into strips and telling the prince that you walked over a very sharp cattle grid in an extremely heavy hat?0 -
That is really worrying. You poor thing, I'd be going out of my mind. "One day I realised that when you are lying in your grave, it's no good saying, "I was too shy, too frightened."
Because by then you've blown your chances. That's it."0 -
Hi,
first of all i would like to say sorry for your loss.
second, try not to worry too much! Easier said then done I suppose! You have lots of support on here
Back to op I think I would want to confront him in the act! So I would wait and see if he does it again.
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bigmomma051204 wrote: »Hiya - not yet I am now more worried than angry in case something has happened. But then i tell myself maybe that is what he wants lol!
Is there a chance he comes onto this forum and saw it? I don't really want to say it but could he have went round to your friends? 0
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