Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

rockstar44

I just wanted to tell you that I got my happy ending!
My boyfriend has been living with me for a year now & he was (is) married though now obviously seperated!
We worked together in an office for more than 5 years, I had feelings for him but never did anything about it because he was married! Not very happily, he'd come in every am, saying how dreadful it was at home. Anyway him & his wife went to relate & things seemed to improve for a while. I left that job but stayed in touch & would often go out with him & others or just him for a drink/coffee. Then one night (his wife was out of the country) he ended up back at my house with a group of people, we were all drinking, they went home at 4.00am in the morning but he didn't if you get my drift! In the morning it was all abit sort of b*gger that shouldn't have happened but we're grown ups & we'll stay friends! We ended up spending more & more time together & within 4 months he'd left his wife! He feels guilty about it, but he also says that leaving her was the hardest thing he ever did but also the best thing he ever did! I'm not proud of what happened but as soon as we realised how we felt about each other, he took the necessary steps to tell his wife & move out!

I'm not sure if this helps or not!

Bubby

rockstar44 wrote: »

I just wanted to tell you that I got my happy ending!
My boyfriend has been living with me for a year now & he was (is) married though now obviously seperated!
We worked together in an office for more than 5 years, I had feelings for him but never did anything about it because he was married! Not very happily, he'd come in every am, saying how dreadful it was at home. Anyway him & his wife went to relate & things seemed to improve for a while. I left that job but stayed in touch & would often go out with him & others or just him for a drink/coffee. Then one night (his wife was out of the country) he ended up back at my house with a group of people, we were all drinking, they went home at 4.00am in the morning but he didn't if you get my drift! In the morning it was all abit sort of b*gger that shouldn't have happened but we're grown ups & we'll stay friends! We ended up spending more & more time together & within 4 months he'd left his wife! He feels guilty about it, but he also says that leaving her was the hardest thing he ever did but also the best thing he ever did! I'm not proud of what happened but as soon as we realised how we felt about each other, he took the necessary steps to tell his wife & move out!

I'm not sure if this helps or not!

I wouldn't count your chickens it has only been a year;)

POPPYOSCAR

Bubby wrote: »

I wouldn't count your chickens it has only been a year;)

Same can be said for any marriage/relationship.

purpletoenails

rockstar44 wrote: »

I just wanted to tell you that I got my happy ending!
My boyfriend has been living with me for a year now & he was (is) married though now obviously seperated!
We worked together in an office for more than 5 years, I had feelings for him but never did anything about it because he was married! Not very happily, he'd come in every am, saying how dreadful it was at home. Anyway him & his wife went to relate & things seemed to improve for a while. I left that job but stayed in touch & would often go out with him & others or just him for a drink/coffee. Then one night (his wife was out of the country) he ended up back at my house with a group of people, we were all drinking, they went home at 4.00am in the morning but he didn't if you get my drift! In the morning it was all abit sort of b*gger that shouldn't have happened but we're grown ups & we'll stay friends! We ended up spending more & more time together & within 4 months he'd left his wife! He feels guilty about it, but he also says that leaving her was the hardest thing he ever did but also the best thing he ever did! I'm not proud of what happened but as soon as we realised how we felt about each other, he took the necessary steps to tell his wife & move out!

I'm not sure if this helps or not!

I'm really pleased everything worked out for you

CH27

rockstar44 wrote: »

I just wanted to tell you that I got my happy ending!
My boyfriend has been living with me for a year now & he was (is) married though now obviously seperated!
We worked together in an office for more than 5 years, I had feelings for him but never did anything about it because he was married! Not very happily, he'd come in every am, saying how dreadful it was at home. Anyway him & his wife went to relate & things seemed to improve for a while. I left that job but stayed in touch & would often go out with him & others or just him for a drink/coffee. Then one night (his wife was out of the country) he ended up back at my house with a group of people, we were all drinking, they went home at 4.00am in the morning but he didn't if you get my drift! In the morning it was all abit sort of b*gger that shouldn't have happened but we're grown ups & we'll stay friends! We ended up spending more & more time together & within 4 months he'd left his wife! He feels guilty about it, but he also says that leaving her was the hardest thing he ever did but also the best thing he ever did! I'm not proud of what happened but as soon as we realised how we felt about each other, he took the necessary steps to tell his wife & move out!

I'm not sure if this helps or not!

That backs up what a lot of people have told the OP.
If he really loves her he would leave his wife.

Lotus-eater

rockstar44 wrote: »

I just wanted to tell you that I got my happy ending!
My boyfriend has been living with me for a year now & he was (is) married though now obviously seperated!
We worked together in an office for more than 5 years, I had feelings for him but never did anything about it because he was married! Not very happily, he'd come in every am, saying how dreadful it was at home. Anyway him & his wife went to relate & things seemed to improve for a while. I left that job but stayed in touch & would often go out with him & others or just him for a drink/coffee. Then one night (his wife was out of the country) he ended up back at my house with a group of people, we were all drinking, they went home at 4.00am in the morning but he didn't if you get my drift! In the morning it was all abit sort of b*gger that shouldn't have happened but we're grown ups & we'll stay friends! We ended up spending more & more time together & within 4 months he'd left his wife! He feels guilty about it, but he also says that leaving her was the hardest thing he ever did but also the best thing he ever did! I'm not proud of what happened but as soon as we realised how we felt about each other, he took the necessary steps to tell his wife & move out!

I'm not sure if this helps or not!

Kids?????????

catkins

1echidna wrote: »

It wasn't that long ago that divorce was 'wrong' under any circumstances. Times move on and in many fields of life 'non standard' behaviour such as infedility can be the best of a bad lot and in my view acceptable as is divorce today, although best avoided if possible.

Infidelity may be acceptable to you but it is not acceptable to a lot of people, myself and my husband included. Mind you neither of us agree with divorce!

Bogof_Babe

If both partners are okay with infidelity what's the point of being married? If only one of them is, how is that fair to the other one?

a1969baby

CH27 wrote: »

That backs up what a lot of people have told the OP.
If he really loves her he would leave his wife.

or maybe he really loves his children and doesn't want to leave them? (just playing devils advocate here cos I'm bored at work lol)

Lotus-eater

Bogof_Babe wrote: »

If both partners are okay with infidelity what's the point of being married?

That's not the point is it?

The point, is that the way some people live is acceptable to them, doesn't matter what everyone else thinks.
I've known people that are swingers or that are happy for their OH to have liaisons with others for whatever reason. The marriage works for them.