Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

POPPYOSCAR

1echidna wrote: »

I suppose that that is encouragement for me to comment further. Unfortunately I am suffering a little from raw prawn indigestion on the subject of marital infidelity. Perhaps I have downplayed the heartache involved but I don't believe anyone involved in this type of situation is usually all bad. All I would like to say now is to wish the OP well and the other people involved also.

I do agree with you here.

Sugar_Moon

Its all a game till the missus finds out, then he panics and realises who he really loves...and its up to her then whether she forgives or kicks him out. Remember he did love her enough to promise himself to her for life


I saw this all happen with my parents. My mum didnt take him back, and he went to live with his mistress. They didnt just cause 2 families with children to split up, they caused families to be at war. It caused my mum, sister and I to live with insecurity and poverty for years. It caused me to never be able to trust my own father, or respect him like I did, for the rest of my life.

Think about what youre doing...the consequences can be mor devastating than you can imagine

purpletoenails

Sugar_Moon wrote: »

Its all a game till the missus finds out, then he panics and realises who he really loves...and its up to her then whether she forgives or kicks him out. Remember he did love her enough to promise himself to her for life


I saw this all happen with my parents. My mum didnt take him back, and he went to live with his mistress. They didnt just cause 2 families with children to split up, they caused families to be at war. It caused my mum, sister and I to live with insecurity and poverty for years. It caused me to never be able to trust my own father, or respect him like I did, for the rest of my life.

Think about what youre doing...the consequences can be mor devastating than you can imagine

I've done nothing but think about it these last few days.

Honestly, I do realise how devastating it could possibly be.

MichaelCR

''Can an affair ever have a happy ending?''

YES, It can ! It makes you a stronger person.

If someone is selfish enough to go and have a affair, Then all i can say is you deserve so much better.

erdd2

''Can an affair ever have a happy ending?'' was the original question. The feedback suggests there is no simple answer and that at least one person will not have a happy ending, be that man, woman or child.

gratefulforhelp_2

nickyhutch wrote: »

Some people like a bit of "sordid"

Apparently so.

nickyhutch wrote: »

Yes, 2 children. Of course they were hurt and upset - who wouldn't be? They're well adjusted now and have a good relationship with their Dad, but not with me.
She is, of course, whiter than white and it's all Dad's fault, and I am the b1tch who they must not like, be nice to or talk about (8 years later).

Can you honestly blame them, and doesn't this give the lie to a happy ending?

Did you really mean it was a happy ending for you?

nickyhutch

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

Apparently so.



Can you honestly blame them, and doesn't this give the lie to a happy ending?

Did you really mean it was a happy ending for you?

Did I say I blamed them? It's a happy ending for me, my OH and for her (she's much happier with her new OH, apparently). I'm not going to spout all the "the kids are much happier because their parents aren't unhappy together and arguing all the time" because I don't know that that's true all the time. I know he wasn't nice to live with (they used to call him "shouty Daddy") and that he'd do anything to work away from home. He has a good relationship with them now - whether that's because he left, or because they are older, or a combination of both, I couldn't say.

I was heartbroken when my Dad left my Mum, but was much happier by 4 or so years later when my Mum was happily remarried to someone who suited her far better and treated her far better.

I hope you don't mind my saying, but you are coming across as a touch judgemental and superior. We aren't all perfect; I know my failings and I try in all area of my life to be kind, caring, thoughtful and helpful because of what I've done in the past.

gratefulforhelp_2

nickyhutch wrote: »

I hope you don't mind my saying, but you are coming across as a touch judgemental and superior. We aren't all perfect; I know my failings and I try in all area of my life to be kind, caring, thoughtful and helpful because of what I've done in the past.

Judgemental is right, but I think you are stung because I don't condone adultery, and for some reason that surprises or annoys you.

Lotus-eater

Ladies, ladies, if you could please settle this in a fight using those gladiator giant cotton buds and wearing bikinis, the males on here would really appreciate it.

1echidna

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

Judgemental is right, but I think you are stung because I don't condone adultery, and for some reason that surprises or annoys you.

You watch too many soaps and don't understand real life in all its variety.