Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

1echidna

Errata wrote: »

There's always the Bobbit solution However ........ stoning is gender neutral, sexual orientation neutral age neuteral - so it fits all and any who stray from the primrose path of fidelity.

Ah well stone me if you like (but maybe I'll succeed in throwing a few backfrom whence they came):p:D

londoner1998

My honest answer, OP? Walk away for good...I was in that situation many years ago, when the guy I had been dating for a month dropped the bomb that he was living with his long-suffering girlfriend . By then I was head over heels and although we had the agreemnt that if I felt it wasn't working for me, we wodul stop seeign each other, it just didn;t work that way. After six months and many, mnay tears, it all ended and pretty badly. It was a traumatic experience and like you, OP, I know at some point he was mad about me and that's when I let my guard and fell for it. When I started to get tired of always being waiting and waiting, and starting making demands the fall out was monumental and the pain indescribable. Time and time againm he gave me the reasons why he couldn't leave her but the reality was the he didn't want to and he didn't have to. BUt as awful aand messy as it was (I think she found out), I consideredn myslef lucky to have escaped and the relief was amazing.

You are already asking yourself questions: please, treat yourself with respect and make room for good stuff and people in your life...this can not end up well, not for you, I don't think. If you leave and he follows, then you have your answer... but I wodulnt; be holding my breath.

candygirl

londoner1998 wrote: »

My honest answer, OP? Walk away for good...I was in that situation many years ago, when the guy I had been dating for a month dropped the bomb that he was living with his long-suffering girlfriend . By then I was head over heels and although we had the agreemnt that if I felt it wasn't working for me, we wodul stop seeign each other, it just didn;t work that way. After six months and many, mnay tears, it all ended and pretty badly. It was a traumatic experience and like you, OP, I know at some point he was mad about me and that's when I let my guard and fell for it. When I started to get tired of always being waiting and waiting, and starting making demands the fall out was monumental and the pain indescribable. Time and time againm he gave me the reasons why he couldn't leave her but the reality was the he didn't want to and he didn't have to. BUt as awful aand messy as it was (I think she found out), I consideredn myslef lucky to have escaped and the relief was amazing.

You are already asking yourself questions: please, treat yourself with respect and make room for good stuff and people in your life...this can not end up well, not for you, I don't think. If you leave and he follows, then you have your answer... but I wodulnt; be holding my breath.

A fantastic reply and advice:T:T:TGlad you did the right thing and found happiness hun:A

1echidna

Does this thread really have to be sycophants incorporated?

Bogof_Babe

1echidna wrote: »

Does this thread really have to be sycophants incorporated?

What's your problem? Just because people agree with eachother it seems to bug you for some reason.

1echidna

Bogof_Babe wrote: »

What's your problem? Just because people agree with eachother it seems to bug you for some reason.

I have a right to make the obvious comment - or don't I??

Bogof_Babe

You have every right, just as I have the right to ask you why you bother :rotfl:.

candygirl

1echidna wrote: »

Does this thread really have to be sycophants incorporated?

Don't worry.Someone will agree with you one day;):rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Bogof_Babe

candygirl wrote: »

Don't worry.Someone will agree with you one day;):rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

He'll have to say something sensible first .

CH27

candygirl wrote: »

Don't worry.Someone will agree with you one day;):rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Don't hold your breath:rotfl: