Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

euronorris

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Yes I am sure.

When you and Person one posted in response to my post I checked back to make sure I was not going mad.


I do agree that things can be misunderstood.( Sometimes I am doing several things at once and just jot down my thoughts so I suppose to some it may seem like I am being abrupt. I never intend to be rude or
have a go at anyone though.)

I think it is great that people have solid relationships/marriages but I always think 'never say never'. I have seen it so many times in various situations 'my OH would never cheat/ my children would never smoke, take drugs, lie, steal' and those words have come back to haunt them.

Ain't that the truth! You'll never catch me saying it!

I don't think he would, but who knows? I am not him, I'm not in his head, and whilst things are good now, they can always change.

Oh, I hope he's having a better day today. I knew something was wrong last night, but it took him until this morning to tell me what it was (family drama). We plan to go see his family mid Aug, so hoping that will help a little.

euronorris

1echidna wrote: »

Possbly it may happen more often when partner says OH would never cheat. Sign that OH is being taken for granted.

I think it is a possible sign, but not definitely so. It could just be that their OH has vehemently stated that they'd never cheat and they believe them.

1echidna

euronorris wrote: »

I think it is a possible sign, but not definitely so. It could just be that their OH has vehemently stated that they'd never cheat and they believe them.

Of course there is the question of why someone would vehemently state that they would never cheat, but I guess that is a tangled web of psychology?

euronorris

1echidna wrote: »

Of course there is the question of why someone would vehemently state that they would never cheat, but I guess that is a tangled web of psychology?

Not really. I truly believe that I never would cheat.

I can't envisage a situation where I would allow it to happen. I understand the reasons why people cheat, but I've experienced many of those circumstances myself and I didn't cheat.

I just think that people are hardwired differently, and therefore react to certain situations differently. One person who is feeling lonely and neglected in a relationship may choose to cheat, whereas another will try to address the issue, someone else may just end the relationship and another still, may react by taking their own life.

Everyone's different *shrugs*

gratefulforhelp_2

euronorris wrote: »

I think it is a possible sign, but not definitely so. It could just be that their OH has vehemently stated that they'd never cheat and they believe them.

Or that they really trust their spouse, or have complete faith in how they view their marriage vows.

nickyhutch

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

Or that they really trust their spouse, or have complete faith in how they view their marriage vows.

Or that they are very complacent (never a good thing in a relationship).

1echidna

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

Or that they really trust their spouse, or have complete faith in how they view their marriage vows.

Marriage vows are more than just being faithful.

1echidna

euronorris wrote: »

Not really. I truly believe that I never would cheat.

I can't envisage a situation where I would allow it to happen. I understand the reasons why people cheat, but I've experienced many of those circumstances myself and I didn't cheat.

I just think that people are hardwired differently, and therefore react to certain situations differently. One person who is feeling lonely and neglected in a relationship may choose to cheat, whereas another will try to address the issue, someone else may just end the relationship and another still, may react by taking their own life.

Everyone's different *shrugs*

Sorry somehow that came out as an attempt to put you on the spot with your personal situation, it wasn't. There is a difference between a voluntary denial and a denial in response to concern by an OH.

poet123

1echidna wrote: »

Whether you "accept" warnings or not is immaterial to me. I will still show your posts up for what they are if you come the raw prawn with me.

Dear me, I surely did hit a raw nerve. You must do as you see fit, I am sure we all await being enlightened by you.

You have a habit of either starting threads or making random posts designed to pique, and to allow you the limelight you appear to crave, so long as they play by your rules.

Akin to the school yard where if the game is not going the way the starter of it expects and needs, he takes his ball in.;)

Rarely works in the schoolyard, and never in rl, and certainly not on a forum.

poet123

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Yes I am sure.

When you and Person one posted in response to my post I checked back to make sure I was not going mad.


I do agree that things can be misunderstood.( Sometimes I am doing several things at once and just jot down my thoughts so I suppose to some it may seem like I am being abrupt. I never intend to be rude or
have a go at anyone though.)

I think it is great that people have solid relationships/marriages but I always think 'never say never'. I have seen it so many times in various situations 'my OH would never cheat/ my children would never smoke, take drugs, lie, steal' and those words have come back to haunt them.

Yes, someone did post that.