Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

catkins

jw1096 wrote: »

Vows, perhaps?


You know what, this thread almost depresses me. So many people need to be told they are literally dying before they will actually go and live. Those of you giving PTN a hard time ought to look at the reasons why you feel so vicious towards her. Its not her fault that the fella doesn't have the balls to walk away, and neither is it her problem if the wife finds out and doesn't particularly like the news. If you have a problem, then more than likely you have your own relationship worries. Yes, a woman may 'come along and steal your husband', but then isn't that your fault that your husband would rather take the risk on something new than stay with you? Isn't that also his fault for allowing (in his mind at least) the relationship with you to become somewhat irreparable? You don't find other women/men coming in between marriages where the partnership is solid. .

I don't feel vicious towards PTN but I do feel affairs are totally wrong. He is the wrong because he is married and she is in the wrong because she knows he is married.

Just because I have strong views on marriage and infidelity does not mean I have relationship worries - far from it. Luckily I married someone with the same morals as myself.

gratefulforhelp_2

Marisco wrote: »

FarmersWife, as you haven't read the whole thread, here's a quick rundown............... there are those for who everything is black and white, and there are those of us who know that there are grey areas, with the odd foray into correct grammar and definitions of words

Not to mention some stuff about affairs having happy endings.

jw1096 wrote: »

Vows, perhaps?


Sorry to jump back in - but who are you kidding? So marriage vows are meant to trap people permanently in a relationship that no longer works? That you just have to accept unhappiness at home as being part of the agreement you made in front of 'god'? Really? You cant change your mind???

Er...yes, to the part in bold, anyway. And please show me where I've been vicious to PTN.

Lotus-eater wrote: »

There's also a whole debate whether PTN is at fault at all and should shoulder some blame if or when, the wife has the bad news.

There was also some talk of sluts I believe

But we had to stop before you got carried away:rotfl:

And what pornography thread? How did I miss that?

whitewing

Yes, I think it would be great if ptn comes on once a month or so and lets us know how she's doing and whether her thoughts about it all have changed with hindsight. I would like her to have a happy life.

VestanPance

Marisco wrote: »

FarmersWife, as you haven't read the whole thread, here's a quick rundown............... there are those for who know everything is black and white, and there are those of us who think that there are grey areas...

Fixed.

Grey = excuses or lack of knowledge.

nickyhutch

VestanPance wrote: »

Fixed.

Grey = excuses or lack of knowledge.

Grey = understanding, compassion, consideration, ability to be non-judgmental and to sympathise.

lostinrates

whitewing wrote: »

. I would like her to have a happy life.

I'm pretty sure most people, if not all, would like that. I know I do. Very much so.

But.....being tied to the thread forever? Seems to me that at the end of an important phase in her life its time to wipe the slate clean....of us too, and not look back. After all, that's what a lot of us feel would be easier for her (them?) in her dealings with the Bloke too. I think PTN should wave us all on the thread good bye guilt free and consider it a clean break with well wishes....

I'll miss the thread though

cheepskate_2

lostinrates wrote: »

I'll miss the thread though

This saga will continue, maybe not with pmt(although whats the betting she will be back) but we already have new " i am having /had an affair posters, who are very happy to let the world , or at least mse know about their affair.



getting a bit like the it like the Dallas saga.

cheepskate_2

jw1096 wrote: »

Vows, perhaps?







You know what, this thread almost depresses me. So many people need to be told they are literally dying before they will actually go and live.

. Too many people are accepting substandard relationships because they'd rather that than be on their own. And that, is ultimately what this whole thread has been about.

Here we go again. As for the wife, she may not know that her relationship is substandard, by all means it could be great, with hubby just wanting a leg over, But what she does get is the respect of being the wife/

But the mistress in this case does know her relationship is substandard, gave ultimatums, told him how it hurts here, how she doesnt like how she is getting treated AND yet still goes back for more. She in this case doesnt even get the respect.

I thionk your post was pointed at the wife mainly, but everything you wrote could aslo be aimed at a mistress also,

victory

Lotus-eater wrote: »

So looks like this thread will be winding down now, excitement over. The !!!!!! thread has been removed as well for some reason.
There's nowhere interesting to hang out now!

!!!!!! thread? Missed that one:rotfl:

I will miss it too, some view have been hilarious, others silly, others very well put, others excellent and very thought provoking and it has not really gone to all out war as some threads do, this has been fun:D

victory

cheepskate wrote: »

This saga will continue, maybe not with pmt(although whats the betting she will be back) .

pmt comes once a month:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:PTN well we shall see:rotfl::D