Can an affair ever have a happy ending?

VestanPance

nickyhutch wrote: »

Grey = understanding, compassion, consideration, ability to be non-judgmental and to sympathise.

No grey = looking for excuses to justify actions you know are wrong.

nickyhutch

VestanPance wrote: »

No grey = looking for excuses to justify actions you know are wrong.

I know we're never going to agree, but I can at least see your opinion from your perspective - can you not even try to see mine from mine? You're soooooo stubborn!

VestanPance

nickyhutch wrote: »

I know we're never going to agree, but I can at least see your opinion from your perspective - can you not even try to see mine from mine? You're soooooo stubborn!

There are no reasons to have an affair. There may be reasons to work at a relationship, leave a relationship, but never to have an affair.

MissMitch

Grey - Living in the real world in 2011, accepting human nature as it really is and not at some ideal or perfect level of being that may possibly be attainable by the Dalai Lama, dead Catholic Saints and characters in b&w Hollywood movies.

VestanPance

MissMitch wrote: »

Grey - Living in the real world in 2011, accepting human nature as it really is and not at some ideal or perfect level of being that may possibly be attainable by the Dalai Lama, dead Catholic Saints and characters in b&w Hollywood movies.

In the real world we call that an excuse. Preparing to fail and blaming it on human nature.

Marisco

VestanPance wrote: »

In the real world we call that an excuse. Preparing to fail and blaming it on human nature.

No, it's accepting that people are not perfect and never will be!

VestanPance

Marisco wrote: »

No, it's accepting that people are not perfect and never will be!

Nobody said people are perfect, but that is a world away from entering an affair from either side. People know that doing so is not a grey area. Lies, deciet, manipluation and every other attribute required to cover their actions fall very obviously under wrong by any scale of measurement.

People can choose not have an affair, or choose to have one. Being perfect has nothing to do with it.

nickyhutch

VestanPance wrote: »

There are no reasons to have an affair. There may be reasons to work at a relationship, leave a relationship, but never to have an affair.

Now I don't agree, but I can see why you think so. Why can't you disagree with my opinion, but see why I might have it?

Bumpmakesfour

nickyhutch wrote: »

Now I don't agree, but I can see why you think so. Why can't you disagree with my opinion, but see why I might have it?

Haven't posted on this thread yet I don't think..my opinions on affairs and both parties involved are extreme so tend to stay away..but!..I have to ask Nickyhutch..what valid reasons DO you believe there are for having an affair then??

catkins

MissMitch wrote: »

Grey - Living in the real world in 2011, accepting human nature as it really is and not at some ideal or perfect level of being that may possibly be attainable by the Dalai Lama, dead Catholic Saints and characters in b&w Hollywood movies.

and those of us who love and RESPECT our husbands/wives and have some morals